Amira When I say, that I want to get back to the old agreement, I have to wait at least one week for the first release. So it is made sure that the decision isn't made because of some kind of mood swing

Sorry for citing myself but... I yesterday asked for release on next Sunday because I would like to know if anything changed in my wish and ability to touch myself and of course because I have the urge to touch myself.

My Mom said that this of course will be done as we agreed on in November and that she thought I wouldn't last that long and she admires my strength about it and understands that I want that release next week, so I will get it.

      Amira That is good.
      Please let us know how it was for you and if you change something afterward.

          Amira

          you have really held out for an extremely long time, that was over 2 months now. i think your mother can be really proud of you. 🙂

          what happens after that? do you go back to the belt with or without regular breaks?

              Joh Please let us know how it was for you and if you change something afterward.

              I will.

              Angelina you have really held out for an extremely long time, that was over 2 months now. i think your mother can be really proud of you. 🙂

              what happens after that? do you go back to the belt with or without regular breaks?

              She is really proud of me, but not only because of things related to my underwear 🙂

              I'm not so sure yet how it's going to continue after Sunday.

                    Amira I'm not so sure yet how it's going to continue after Sunday.

                    let us know, i am curious 🙂

                        I used the opportunity on Sunday thoroughly and not only just once. I had a very good time and a very much relaxing and long hot bath and after around four hours I heard the sound we all here know. "the click".

                        I was all jittery the whole evening and night and right now I am still feeling like I want to pleasure myself again today and tomorrow and the day after tomorrow. And at the same time I feel again like I did when I in November started the trying period of no releases: I feel like I'm not in charge of my body and feelings, but that my body and feelings are completely in charge of me. Maybe I should either get out of the belt completely with all the consequences of having less freedom or I better should try another period of no releases. I don't know what I best do.

                        Angelina

                        Maybe you can put some of your perspective of three years without the ability to touch yourself into it and tell me what to do and how to handle my feelings?
                        All others are free to tell me what they think of it as well of course ! 🙂

                            I would be embarrassed to ask, and I don't think they will make that offer to me voluntarily.

                              Raquel I would be embarrassed to ask, and I don't think they will make that offer to me voluntarily.

                              I don't think I understand what you mean 🙂

                                  Amira

                                  i would love to and the funny thing is that exactly 3 years ago today was the day my training ended and i have been living completely chastely ever since. 😂

                                  i can actually only understand your feelings up to a point, because i never had the choice, but i admire that you have such a mature view on the whole thing, because actually you are right, there are only these two options in the long run.

                                  you started in november ', so you've done 3 months. maybe you can do it again, or extend it? talk to your mother again, that will help you 🙂

                                      Amira tell me what to do and how to handle my feelings?

                                      😆😆 that depends - do you know what you want?

                                      Amira I would like to know if anything changed in my wish and ability to touch myself and of course because I have the urge to touch myself.

                                      See that's two reasons - which was it really?🤔

                                      So did you want to and the "know if anything changed" was just an excuse?
                                      Our did you really worry you wouldn't be allowed?

                                      You should probably stick to the occasional breaks. Like you'd know yourself if you thought staying chaste completely was important.
                                      Like your description of Sunday - I'd feel disappointed for myself after that. You can want whatever you like in your life though so it's ok.

                                            Well I guess we all know my feelings about these things... but I think getting to know your own body is really important. It's a beautiful experience and we should all indulge from time to time.

                                            Staying chaste for a future partner is a completely seperate issue in my opinion. You should know how to work with them and guide them, otherwise that 'first time' that you're all waiting for is going to be a pretty awkward, anxiety-ridden, painful experience.

                                            Three months is an amazing effort @Amira, you should be proud of yourself. Take time out and let your mind and body become one.
                                            ;-)

                                            /That's my advice, but then I do go by the name "Sin", and I am free from the shackles of religion. So if playing is going to lead to feelings of guilt or failure, then maybe I'm not the best person to listen to!

                                              Sin I think getting to know your own body is really important.

                                              Yes !!!! including the bat cave 🙈

                                                Amira
                                                I was talking about ask a break for... that... 😅

                                                  Sin otherwise that 'first time' that you're all waiting for is going to be a pretty awkward, anxiety-ridden, painful experience.

                                                  i agree with your post, except for this sentence. the first time is always a certain borderline experience. i experienced this with my girlfriend, but it is also a special experience because there are only a few moments between pain and happiness. i think the point in time is relatively irrelevant because at the beginning it is always something new, nobody is perfect and only with time you learn more and more how your partner reacts and what pleases your partner. but this can be before, but also after the wedding

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                                                    Angelina i would love to and the funny thing is that exactly 3 years ago today was the day my training ended and i have been living completely chastely ever since

                                                    then happy belated chastity birthday, Angelina!

                                                    Angelina you started in november ', so you've done 3 months. maybe you can do it again, or extend it? talk to your mother again, that will help you

                                                    We talked after my last break yesterday an we didn't come to a conclusion. I feel that it's more complicated to have breaks because this gives a bit of a feeling of becoming a lot of focused on the free days and I am not sure if I want that focus. So during the three months it became hard at some occasions, but overall I think it wasn't bad for me. I wasn't feeling like deciding about it, so I gave that decision away and we are back to the rule from November and will see how it's going to work out this time.

                                                    Jen Our did you really worry you wouldn't be allowed?

                                                    No, I wasn't worried about that at all.

                                                    Jen I'd feel disappointed for myself after that.

                                                    Yes, I felt a bit like that

                                                              Amira Do what feels right for you. That is the only important point.

                                                                  Joh Do what feels right for you. That is the only important point.

                                                                  I do and sometimes that even involves listening to my Mom 🙂

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                                                                      Amira then happy belated chastity birthday, Angelina!

                                                                      as i am a friend of sarcasm i try to enjoy it, thank you 😂

                                                                      Amira so I gave that decision away and we are back to the rule from November and will see how it's going to work out this time.

                                                                      so in short, no more breaks for now? good luck, certainly hard but i understand why it might be better for you

                                                                          Amira I do and sometimes that even involves listening to my Mom

                                                                          Frankly speaking she can be right but is is not a general rule.
                                                                          I didn't listening to my father and found out much later is was a mistake. It is a good way to take her advise in to account but not follow it blindly.

                                                                            Amira I feel that it's more complicated to have breaks because this gives a bit of a feeling of becoming a lot of focused on the free days and I am not sure if I want that focus.

                                                                            I'm not sure if this is your only issue with releases, because you also described unwanted feelings once you were locked up again, but if this is the major issue with you having breaks, why not leave it up to your mother to decide when you get breaks, and not tell you? Then you can't anticipate on them, but still occasionally enjoy free time.
                                                                            (Of course your mother should use different durations between the breaks, so that you can't learn when to expect one.)