Users, are you married or not, while in/out of chastity?

Vanessa Because we discuss of a lot of specific cases of semi-chastity!

yes, when i came to the forum i never thought there were so many different possibilities and @Laura probably wouldn't recognise any of them as anything to do with chastity

Sara2001 Angry? I expect that it will make me very frustrated, but why should I get angry? I will know that I will not get an orgasm from the very beginning of the edging, so I think it will not feel like I am tricked or something.

will he tell you beforehand if you will have an orgasm? i think he should be honest at this point. otherwise i agree with you completely and if there comes a point where you get angry, you should talk and maybe organise things differently.

Sara2001 I am sure it will be difficult to not have orgasms once I have them again from time to time, the question is if it gives me more to stay orgasm free for him.

i imagine this to be much harder than now. now every orgasm would be a huge gift for you. after the wedding every orgasm not received can lead to disappointment. i am sure you can manage this, but you should consider the huge difference

Angelina will he tell you beforehand if you will have an orgasm?

He doesn't want to tell me these things in advance. We think I should never know if or when it happens. He plans to just tell me in the moment itself that I am allowed to orgasm.

Angelina i imagine this to be much harder than now. now every orgasm would be a huge gift for you. after the wedding every orgasm not received can lead to disappointment. i am sure you can manage this, but you should consider the huge difference

I think it would be better to see every orgasm as a gift after marriage, too. Not being allowed to orgasm will be the standard and must not disappoint me.

Sara2001 He doesn't want to tell me these things in advance. We think I should never know if or when it happens. He plans to just tell me in the moment itself that I am allowed to orgasm.

difficult, but of course the surprise is greater then

Sara2001 I think it would be better to see every orgasm as a gift after marriage, too.

yes, but it's like smokers trying to quit. one cigarette and you're back at it (i hope you understand the comparison).

Angelina yes, but it's like smokers trying to quit. one cigarette and you're back at it

I don't think the comparison fits here.
It is a question of what is important to you. As already written, there are women who find edging much better than an orgasm. Because they say they get much more out of it.

Sara2001 I think I can only KNOW it from experience, but I think it will feel very good most of the time.

And anyway,if not the case and that make you unhappy,you will probably adjust it.

Sara2001 Angry? I expect that it will make me very frustrated, but why should I get angry?

It can happen if too frustrated and think he can make you be relieved,while he doesn't do it.

Sara2001 I will know that I will not get an orgasm from the very beginning of the edging, so I think it will not feel like I am tricked

Good.

Joh

But,I think they mainly "finish" it with an orgasm,however,not put the clothes back on without being "relieved".

Angelina @Laura probably wouldn't recognise any of them as anything to do with chastity

Probably,yes!

Sara2001 Not being allowed to orgasm will be the standard and must not disappoint me.

But pretty uncommon.

And you can't be sure about how you feel before experiencing it.

Vanessa And anyway,if not the case and that make you unhappy,you will probably adjust it.

Definitely

Vanessa And you can't be sure about how you feel before experiencing it.

Definitely. I have only heard it second hand from my future sister in law

Joh It is a question of what is important to you. As already written, there are women who find edging much better than an orgasm. Because they say they get much more out of it.

i would of course be happy if it worked that way, but i think my comparison is still appropriate. if it didn't fit, none of us would need a chastity belt to avoid orgasm.

Sara2001 Definitely. I have only heard it second hand from my future sister in law

is she happy with the system in the long term?

Angelina is she happy with the system in the long term?

I would say 60% she is happy, 20% she can accept it and 20% she hates it.

I think it will be similar for me and I expect that I will be okay with it if it is the same for me.

Angelina is she happy with the system in the long term?

I am very very experienced with chastity but I just feel so odd hearing about David's sister being told at a family dinner she will only have a few orgasms a year from now on and was @Sara2001 right there at the table too???...
It's just so odd to me, because I don't know one thing is you change as a wife it's a lot different than not knowing how to masturbate a single woman. Just why do she need to be penalized if you were already a good wife etc with no need to change...

If my husband had a sister and someone was even rude to her we would have spoken up.

Megan I am very very experienced with chastity but I just feel so odd hearing about David's sister being told at a family dinner she will only have a few orgasms a year from now on and was @Sara2001 right there at the table too???...

You mixed a lot. This never happened. Nobody ever talked about a number of orgasms during a family dinner and not for my sister. It's completely unclear how the situation for my sister will develop after her 18th birthday. I will only get a few orgasms a year after marriage like my future sister in law. Yes these aspects can be part of a talk at the dinner table, but mostly we talk from women to women when we clean up everything together after dinner.

Megan Just why do she need to be penalized if you were already a good wife etc with no need to change...

You mixed something. I don't know what you mixed but this never happened or happens.

Megan If my husband had a sister and someone was even rude to her we would have spoken up.

My future husbands sister is a wonderful person, she would never get punished for something I do. We are very close to her and her husband, because they practice the lifestyle we want to practice for years now. They are happy to share their experiences with us to help us to get clear expectations. Her rules are less strict then my rules will be, but still very similar. She only get punished if she does something wrong herself like all of us.

Sara2001 I think it will be similar for me and I expect that I will be okay with it if it is the same for me.

i admit i wouldn't get enough, but we probably have different views on how much 60% is worth.

Sara2001 You mixed something.

i think she mixes your lifestyle with education and punishment

Sara2001

It would be better if 100% happy,don't you think?

Sara2001 Her rules are less strict then my rules will be, but still very similar.

What surprised me,as,at the start,it was the opposite,her rules were stricter than the ones you planned to have.

Vanessa It would be better if 100% happy,don't you think?

Yes, but I think there is no lifestyle and no relationship where someone is 100% happy and I am honest to myself. Sometimes I absolutely hate that I have to wear a chastity belt, have to stand in the corner or have to go through the day with a very strong burning behind. I think this is just normal.

Vanessa What surprised me,as,at the start,it was the opposite,her rules were stricter than the ones you planned to have.

Daniel and I have the rule that my rules will always be the strictest in the family, so we will never have discussions about fairness or jealousy or something like that.

Sara2001 I think this is just normal.

Um are you still talking about 20% - that's not normal you shouldn't hate - like that's a couple hours a day you shouldn't be hating your life a couple hours a day.

Jen Um are you still talking about 20% - that's not normal you shouldn't hate - like that's a couple hours a day you shouldn't be hating your life a couple hours a day.

Maybe "hate" is a to harsh word. But there are times every day where I would strongly prefer to not wear my equipment. I am often missing what I can't have. Sometimes I miss it a lot. But on the other hand I often love how much I miss it because I miss it for Daniel (mostly). Especially after he had played with my breasts.

Sara2001 Maybe "hate" is a to harsh word. But there are times every day where I would strongly prefer to not wear my equipment. I am often missing what I can't have. Sometimes I miss it a lot. But on the other hand I often love how much I miss it because I miss it for Daniel (mostly).

That no longer sounds as convincing as it did some time ago. Pay attention to where it's going so that your line of being happy in the long run is still fulfilled.

Joh That no longer sounds as convincing as it did some time ago. Pay attention to where it's going so that your line of being happy in the long run is still fulfilled.

I think whoever says that she or he is absolutely loving and adoring his life in chastity without missing anything is lying. It's a great feeling to stay in the belt for Daniel and most of the time it's just that, but there are times where I of course don't like it, where it doesn't only feel like a great gift for him but also like a trap for me.
Of course I asked myself in this moments if I am really doing the right thing, but I think it is a normal part of this lifestyle and it still feels right for me.
It's very easy, I can't have things that feel VERY good, that others can have. Mostly I feel that I get something more valuable in return, sometimes I just miss what I can't have.

Sara2001
This sound reasonable. And who can have everything what they wants?
I would like to have someone like you at my side but I am happy with my GF beside some part she is not into it. I value a good relationship more than what I miss.

Sara2001 But there are times every day where I would strongly prefer to not wear my equipment.

I think I'd quit if it got to that I think I'm opposite actually. But every day yeah look out for yourself.