Users, are you married or not, while in/out of chastity?
Vanessa A new rule?
Not really, we have it for quite a while now. This way we prevent jealousy and any attempts of why do I have this while she has that and things like that. Even if it is VERY restricting for me, I think overall it makes it easier and ensures the harmony.
Vanessa Were you sometimes close to decide to change it,and refuse to wear it after your marriage?
I wouldn't say often, but sometimes I think about ways to make some things easier for me but at the end I never find a solution with enough benefits for this change.
Sara2001 I wouldn't say often, but sometimes I think about ways to make some things easier for me but at the end I never find a solution with enough benefits for this change.
well, there is a very simple reason. the equipment also limits you physically a lot. if you have to do things for daniel, it all takes longer and is more strenuous for you, he could change that and it would be an advantage for both of you.
Sara2001 we have it for quite a while now
But it was not the case at the start,right?
Sara2001 Even if it is VERY restricting for me, I think overall it makes it easier and ensures the harmony
Would you discuss your rules based on the other rules in your boyfriend's family,without this rule?
Sara2001 ometimes I think about ways to make some things easier for me but at the end I never find a solution with enough benefits for this change.
Did you discuss it with your boyfriend?
Angelina he could change that and it would be an advantage for both of you.
I agree.
Angelina well, there is a very simple reason. the equipment also limits you physically a lot. if you have to do things for daniel, it all takes longer and is more strenuous for you, he could change that and it would be an advantage for both of you.
The equipment is very important for him and after marriage I will have enough time to do anything in my equipment. So there is no major benefit for him.
Vanessa But it was not the case at the start,right?
No, not from the beginning.
Vanessa Would you discuss your rules based on the other rules in your boyfriend's family,without this rule?
Yes, why not. We often talk about the rules of others.
Vanessa Did you discuss it with your boyfriend?
Yes, but it's important for him that anything that makes things easier doesn't come with less limitations.
Sara2001 Yes, but it's important for him that anything that makes things easier doesn't come with less limitations.
Why that? Could you elaborate the thought behind this.
If I just apply this rule, I think there is more detail behind it, then it can only ever get more difficult and/or exhausting for you. Which ultimately leads to overload and constant failure.
Joh Why that? Could you elaborate the thought behind this.
It's not about making things more and more difficult for me and of course many rules can change from one direction to the other, but there are some basics that are very important for him and they will only be changed if this is absolutely necessary for my long term happiness.
Like being locked in belt, bra and tightbands almost 24/7, strict limitations of orgasms, not leaving the house without permission and if possible accompanied by him or another male member of our families, not spending any money without permission and of course doing my 2 daily corner times.
This is kind of a base line.
Avery hmm... alreasy heard of people doing so... maybe a belt or cage helps to prevent them from overthinking and getting the wrong conclutions with their temptation amplitude. 
Angelina fortunately, as a woman, this can't happen to me. besides, he should keep his fingers to himself, all 11 of them.
that's true, but therefore you can think with your pearl.
Sara2001 and after marriage I will have enough time to do anything in my equipment
But you may do even more without it.
Like a better meal,a nicely decorated house for a romantic time...
Sara2001 No, not from the beginning.
I think it was better...
Sara2001 Yes, why not. We often talk about the rules of others.
Sorry,I've not choose my words well.
By "discuss",I meant "argue","disagree"...
Sara2001 if this is absolutely necessary for my long term happiness.
Do you think one of these basic rules would have to change to make you happy?
Vanessa But you may do even more without it.
I would, but it's not necessary. I think I will have more then enough time for anything and my equipment will not make me much slower.
Vanessa I think it was better
Now it's less stressful and we have no fights. I really like that.
Vanessa By "discuss",I meant "argue","disagree"...
I am not allowed to argue about rules. But I am allowed to politely state my opinion and I have the right to ask as often as I need to fully understand the rules. But he has the final saying.
Vanessa Do you think one of these basic rules would have to change to make you happy?
I don't think there will be a change in my basic rules for the foreseeable future and for now I am happy with this.
Sara2001 I think I will have more then enough time for anything and my equipment will not make me much slower.
Anyway you would know it after your marriage.
Sara2001 I am not allowed to argue about rules. But I am allowed to politely state my opinion and I have the right to ask as often as I need to fully understand the rules. But he has the final saying.
Yes,but do you think you would argue more,if you not have the strictest rules?
Sara2001 I am happy with this.
Good!
Vanessa Yes,but do you think you would argue more,if you not have the strictest rules?
It's more an emotional thing. It's less about the arguing itself. It's about feeling like jealousy or thinking that something is to strict. This way I always know that it is stricter for me, very simple and easy.