Sara2001 Maybe "hate" is a to harsh word. But there are times every day where I would strongly prefer to not wear my equipment. I am often missing what I can't have. Sometimes I miss it a lot. But on the other hand I often love how much I miss it because I miss it for Daniel (mostly).
That no longer sounds as convincing as it did some time ago. Pay attention to where it's going so that your line of being happy in the long run is still fulfilled.
Joh That no longer sounds as convincing as it did some time ago. Pay attention to where it's going so that your line of being happy in the long run is still fulfilled.
I think whoever says that she or he is absolutely loving and adoring his life in chastity without missing anything is lying. It's a great feeling to stay in the belt for Daniel and most of the time it's just that, but there are times where I of course don't like it, where it doesn't only feel like a great gift for him but also like a trap for me.
Of course I asked myself in this moments if I am really doing the right thing, but I think it is a normal part of this lifestyle and it still feels right for me.
It's very easy, I can't have things that feel VERY good, that others can have. Mostly I feel that I get something more valuable in return, sometimes I just miss what I can't have.
Jen
I don't see you in this kind of relation ship @Sara2001 is in. She decided for a men lead relation with very strict rules for her. This works only because both talk a lot on a regular base every Sunday.
Talking with you partner about your relation is really important and most of the couple don't do it. My advice if you have a relation do it to prevent building up a pile of small problems which will eventually collapse on you and bury you. Then it's really tough and it takes a lot of energy and commitment to fix it.
Vanessa It would be better if 100% happy,don't you think?
that's what i mean, that's why i'm not sure what 60% is worth, we shouldn't satisfy ourselves with that in a relationship
Joh of being happy in the long run is still fulfilled.
i'll be honest. i think @Sara2001 is very happy with the current situation and will remain so for many years to come. but i also assume that there will come a point when something has to be changed. i don't think it's possible that it can work like this for decades.
I think it will need continual adjustments, but I think with adjustments, it can work for good. We "just" need to continue talking and modifying.
Sara2001 there is no lifestyle and no relationship where someone is 100% happy
Probably,yes.
Sara2001 Sometimes I absolutely hate that I have to wear a chastity belt, have to stand in the corner or have to go through the day with a very strong burning behind.
Logical.
Sara2001 the rule that my rules will always be the strictest in the family
A new rule?
Sara2001 Of course I asked myself in this moments if I am really doing the right thing
Were you sometimes close to decide to change it,and refuse to wear it after your marriage?
You never think you would prefer to not wear it,when it is locked?
Sara2001 talking
Very important,yes.
Vanessa A new rule?
Not really, we have it for quite a while now. This way we prevent jealousy and any attempts of why do I have this while she has that and things like that. Even if it is VERY restricting for me, I think overall it makes it easier and ensures the harmony.
Vanessa Were you sometimes close to decide to change it,and refuse to wear it after your marriage?
I wouldn't say often, but sometimes I think about ways to make some things easier for me but at the end I never find a solution with enough benefits for this change.
Sara2001 I wouldn't say often, but sometimes I think about ways to make some things easier for me but at the end I never find a solution with enough benefits for this change.
well, there is a very simple reason. the equipment also limits you physically a lot. if you have to do things for daniel, it all takes longer and is more strenuous for you, he could change that and it would be an advantage for both of you.
Sara2001 we have it for quite a while now
But it was not the case at the start,right?
Sara2001 Even if it is VERY restricting for me, I think overall it makes it easier and ensures the harmony
Would you discuss your rules based on the other rules in your boyfriend's family,without this rule?
Sara2001 ometimes I think about ways to make some things easier for me but at the end I never find a solution with enough benefits for this change.
Did you discuss it with your boyfriend?
Angelina he could change that and it would be an advantage for both of you.
I agree.
Angelina well, there is a very simple reason. the equipment also limits you physically a lot. if you have to do things for daniel, it all takes longer and is more strenuous for you, he could change that and it would be an advantage for both of you.
The equipment is very important for him and after marriage I will have enough time to do anything in my equipment. So there is no major benefit for him.
Vanessa But it was not the case at the start,right?
No, not from the beginning.
Vanessa Would you discuss your rules based on the other rules in your boyfriend's family,without this rule?
Yes, why not. We often talk about the rules of others.
Vanessa Did you discuss it with your boyfriend?
Yes, but it's important for him that anything that makes things easier doesn't come with less limitations.
Sara2001 Yes, but it's important for him that anything that makes things easier doesn't come with less limitations.
Why that? Could you elaborate the thought behind this.
If I just apply this rule, I think there is more detail behind it, then it can only ever get more difficult and/or exhausting for you. Which ultimately leads to overload and constant failure.
Joh Why that? Could you elaborate the thought behind this.
It's not about making things more and more difficult for me and of course many rules can change from one direction to the other, but there are some basics that are very important for him and they will only be changed if this is absolutely necessary for my long term happiness.
Like being locked in belt, bra and tightbands almost 24/7, strict limitations of orgasms, not leaving the house without permission and if possible accompanied by him or another male member of our families, not spending any money without permission and of course doing my 2 daily corner times.
This is kind of a base line.
