Users, are you married or not, while in/out of chastity?

Jen
I don't see you in this kind of relation ship @Sara2001 is in. She decided for a men lead relation with very strict rules for her. This works only because both talk a lot on a regular base every Sunday.

Talking with you partner about your relation is really important and most of the couple don't do it. My advice if you have a relation do it to prevent building up a pile of small problems which will eventually collapse on you and bury you. Then it's really tough and it takes a lot of energy and commitment to fix it.

Vanessa It would be better if 100% happy,don't you think?

that's what i mean, that's why i'm not sure what 60% is worth, we shouldn't satisfy ourselves with that in a relationship

Joh of being happy in the long run is still fulfilled.

i'll be honest. i think @Sara2001 is very happy with the current situation and will remain so for many years to come. but i also assume that there will come a point when something has to be changed. i don't think it's possible that it can work like this for decades.

Angelina i'll be honest. i think @Sara2001 is very happy with the current situation and will remain so for many years to come. but i also assume that there will come a point when something has to be changed. i don't think it's possible that it can work like this for decades

I think it will need continual adjustments, but I think with adjustments, it can work for good. We "just" need to continue talking and modifying.

Sara2001 With that you have a good base to make the best out of it but it will not protect you from developing in different directions.
I wish you a happy and long time together.

Sara2001

of course, in terms of your relationship and your marriage, this will certainly be possible. i just want to say that i doubt that you will still be living this lifestyle in 30 years time and you should take precautions for that.

Sara2001 there is no lifestyle and no relationship where someone is 100% happy

Probably,yes.

Sara2001 Sometimes I absolutely hate that I have to wear a chastity belt, have to stand in the corner or have to go through the day with a very strong burning behind.

Logical.

Sara2001 the rule that my rules will always be the strictest in the family

A new rule?

Sara2001 Of course I asked myself in this moments if I am really doing the right thing

Were you sometimes close to decide to change it,and refuse to wear it after your marriage?

Jen

You never think you would prefer to not wear it,when it is locked?

Sara2001 talking

Very important,yes.

Vanessa You never think you would prefer to not wear it,when it is locked?

Oh would have sucked to be locked in last night yeah.

Jen

Understandable;

But it would have been more logical.

Vanessa A new rule?

Not really, we have it for quite a while now. This way we prevent jealousy and any attempts of why do I have this while she has that and things like that. Even if it is VERY restricting for me, I think overall it makes it easier and ensures the harmony.

Vanessa Were you sometimes close to decide to change it,and refuse to wear it after your marriage?

I wouldn't say often, but sometimes I think about ways to make some things easier for me but at the end I never find a solution with enough benefits for this change.

Sara2001 I wouldn't say often, but sometimes I think about ways to make some things easier for me but at the end I never find a solution with enough benefits for this change.

well, there is a very simple reason. the equipment also limits you physically a lot. if you have to do things for daniel, it all takes longer and is more strenuous for you, he could change that and it would be an advantage for both of you.

Angelina well, there is a very simple reason. the equipment also limits you physically a lot. if you have to do things for daniel, it all takes longer and is more strenuous for you, he could change that and it would be an advantage for both of you.

The equipment is very important for him and after marriage I will have enough time to do anything in my equipment. So there is no major benefit for him.

Vanessa But it was not the case at the start,right?

No, not from the beginning.

Vanessa Would you discuss your rules based on the other rules in your boyfriend's family,without this rule?

Yes, why not. We often talk about the rules of others.

Vanessa Did you discuss it with your boyfriend?

Yes, but it's important for him that anything that makes things easier doesn't come with less limitations.

Sara2001 Yes, but it's important for him that anything that makes things easier doesn't come with less limitations.

Why that? Could you elaborate the thought behind this.

If I just apply this rule, I think there is more detail behind it, then it can only ever get more difficult and/or exhausting for you. Which ultimately leads to overload and constant failure.

Joh Why that? Could you elaborate the thought behind this.

It's not about making things more and more difficult for me and of course many rules can change from one direction to the other, but there are some basics that are very important for him and they will only be changed if this is absolutely necessary for my long term happiness.
Like being locked in belt, bra and tightbands almost 24/7, strict limitations of orgasms, not leaving the house without permission and if possible accompanied by him or another male member of our families, not spending any money without permission and of course doing my 2 daily corner times.
This is kind of a base line.

Sara2001

Sara2001 and after marriage I will have enough time to do anything in my equipment. So there is no major benefit for him.

we will have to discuss this again after your wedding, at the moment i doubt it.

Joh

sometimes you need a moment to think

Angelina sometimes you need a moment to think

hmm, I should also try out this thing called thinking once

Max9 hmm, I should also try out this thing called thinking once

Works well most of the time

Max9 hmm, I should also try out this thing called thinking once

One must be careful, tho. I once heard my father tell one of my brothers that he (the brother, that is) was thinking with his dick and not his brain.

Avery One must be careful, tho. I once heard my father tell one of my brothers that he (the brother, that is) was thinking with his dick and not his brain.

Okay, I laughed xD