Users, are you married or not, while in/out of chastity?

Joh

Sara2001 Maybe "hate" is a to harsh word. But there are times every day where I would strongly prefer to not wear my equipment. I am often missing what I can't have. Sometimes I miss it a lot. But on the other hand I often love how much I miss it because I miss it for Daniel (mostly).

That no longer sounds as convincing as it did some time ago. Pay attention to where it's going so that your line of being happy in the long run is still fulfilled.

Sara2001

Joh That no longer sounds as convincing as it did some time ago. Pay attention to where it's going so that your line of being happy in the long run is still fulfilled.

I think whoever says that she or he is absolutely loving and adoring his life in chastity without missing anything is lying. It's a great feeling to stay in the belt for Daniel and most of the time it's just that, but there are times where I of course don't like it, where it doesn't only feel like a great gift for him but also like a trap for me.
Of course I asked myself in this moments if I am really doing the right thing, but I think it is a normal part of this lifestyle and it still feels right for me.
It's very easy, I can't have things that feel VERY good, that others can have. Mostly I feel that I get something more valuable in return, sometimes I just miss what I can't have.

Angelina

Vanessa It would be better if 100% happy,don't you think?😉

that's what i mean, that's why i'm not sure what 60% is worth, we shouldn't satisfy ourselves with that in a relationship

Joh of being happy in the long run is still fulfilled.

i'll be honest. i think @Sara2001 is very happy with the current situation and will remain so for many years to come. but i also assume that there will come a point when something has to be changed. i don't think it's possible that it can work like this for decades.

Joh

Sara2001
This sound reasonable. And who can have everything what they wants?
I would like to have someone like you at my side but I am happy with my GF beside some part she is not into it. I value a good relationship more than what I miss.

Vanessa

Sara2001 there is no lifestyle and no relationship where someone is 100% happy

Probably,yes.

Sara2001 Sometimes I absolutely hate that I have to wear a chastity belt, have to stand in the corner or have to go through the day with a very strong burning behind.

Logical.

Sara2001 the rule that my rules will always be the strictest in the family

A new rule?

Sara2001 Of course I asked myself in this moments if I am really doing the right thing

Were you sometimes close to decide to change it,and refuse to wear it after your marriage?

Jen

You never think you would prefer to not wear it,when it is locked?

Sara2001 talking

Very important,yes.

Megan

Sara2001 I think whoever says that she or he is absolutely loving and adoring his life in chastity without missing anything is lying.

No there are many wives like me who like everything about it. You could argue that our husbands are more giving and go by what we both want rather than set rules.
Biblically when people marry they are to be as one... So as couple say "we're remodeling, we are moving to a town, we are pregnant" etcetera

Sara2001 You mixed a lot. This never happened. Nobody ever talked about a number of orgasms during a family dinner

I thought so Daniels sister was told be her husband that she would be having fewer orgasms. I forget the amount you said but it was very few for a happy marriage and so she cried. I remember THAT because it felt like a punch to the gut ... 😅

Jen

Sara2001 But there are times every day where I would strongly prefer to not wear my equipment.

I think I'd quit if it got to that I think I'm opposite actually. But every day yeah look out for yourself.

Joh

Jen
I don't see you in this kind of relation ship @Sara2001 is in. She decided for a men lead relation with very strict rules for her. This works only because both talk a lot on a regular base every Sunday.

Talking with you partner about your relation is really important and most of the couple don't do it. My advice if you have a relation do it to prevent building up a pile of small problems which will eventually collapse on you and bury you. Then it's really tough and it takes a lot of energy and commitment to fix it.

Sara2001

Angelina i'll be honest. i think @Sara2001 is very happy with the current situation and will remain so for many years to come. but i also assume that there will come a point when something has to be changed. i don't think it's possible that it can work like this for decades

I think it will need continual adjustments, but I think with adjustments, it can work for good. We "just" need to continue talking and modifying.

Joh

Sara2001 With that you have a good base to make the best out of it but it will not protect you from developing in different directions.
I wish you a happy and long time together.

Angelina

Sara2001

of course, in terms of your relationship and your marriage, this will certainly be possible. i just want to say that i doubt that you will still be living this lifestyle in 30 years time and you should take precautions for that.

Jen

Vanessa You never think you would prefer to not wear it,when it is locked?

Oh would have sucked to be locked in last night yeah.

Sara2001

Vanessa A new rule?

Not really, we have it for quite a while now. This way we prevent jealousy and any attempts of why do I have this while she has that and things like that. Even if it is VERY restricting for me, I think overall it makes it easier and ensures the harmony.

Vanessa Were you sometimes close to decide to change it,and refuse to wear it after your marriage?

I wouldn't say often, but sometimes I think about ways to make some things easier for me but at the end I never find a solution with enough benefits for this change.

Vanessa

Jen

Understandable;

But it would have been more logical.

Angelina

Sara2001 I wouldn't say often, but sometimes I think about ways to make some things easier for me but at the end I never find a solution with enough benefits for this change.

well, there is a very simple reason. the equipment also limits you physically a lot. if you have to do things for daniel, it all takes longer and is more strenuous for you, he could change that and it would be an advantage for both of you.

Vanessa

Sara2001 we have it for quite a while now

But it was not the case at the start,right?

Sara2001 Even if it is VERY restricting for me, I think overall it makes it easier and ensures the harmony

Would you discuss your rules based on the other rules in your boyfriend's family,without this rule?

Sara2001 ometimes I think about ways to make some things easier for me but at the end I never find a solution with enough benefits for this change.

Did you discuss it with your boyfriend?

Angelina he could change that and it would be an advantage for both of you.

I agree.

Sara2001

Angelina well, there is a very simple reason. the equipment also limits you physically a lot. if you have to do things for daniel, it all takes longer and is more strenuous for you, he could change that and it would be an advantage for both of you.

The equipment is very important for him and after marriage I will have enough time to do anything in my equipment. So there is no major benefit for him.

Vanessa But it was not the case at the start,right?

No, not from the beginning.

Vanessa Would you discuss your rules based on the other rules in your boyfriend's family,without this rule?

Yes, why not. We often talk about the rules of others.

Vanessa Did you discuss it with your boyfriend?

Yes, but it's important for him that anything that makes things easier doesn't come with less limitations.

Joh

Sara2001 Yes, but it's important for him that anything that makes things easier doesn't come with less limitations.

Why that? Could you elaborate the thought behind this.

If I just apply this rule, I think there is more detail behind it, then it can only ever get more difficult and/or exhausting for you. Which ultimately leads to overload and constant failure.

Angelina

Sara2001 and after marriage I will have enough time to do anything in my equipment. So there is no major benefit for him.

we will have to discuss this again after your wedding, at the moment i doubt it.

Joh 🤔 🤨 💡 😀

sometimes you need a moment to think 🤣

Vanessa

Sara2001 and after marriage I will have enough time to do anything in my equipment

But you may do even more without it.

Like a better meal,a nicely decorated house for a romantic time...

Sara2001 No, not from the beginning.

I think it was better...

Sara2001 Yes, why not. We often talk about the rules of others.

Sorry,I've not choose my words well.

By "discuss",I meant "argue","disagree"...

Sara2001 if this is absolutely necessary for my long term happiness.

Do you think one of these basic rules would have to change to make you happy?

Sara2001

Joh Why that? Could you elaborate the thought behind this.

It's not about making things more and more difficult for me and of course many rules can change from one direction to the other, but there are some basics that are very important for him and they will only be changed if this is absolutely necessary for my long term happiness.
Like being locked in belt, bra and tightbands almost 24/7, strict limitations of orgasms, not leaving the house without permission and if possible accompanied by him or another male member of our families, not spending any money without permission and of course doing my 2 daily corner times.
This is kind of a base line.

Joh

Sara2001
🤔 🤨 💡 😀

Max9

Angelina sometimes you need a moment to think

hmm, I should also try out this thing called thinking once

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