Users, are you married or not, while in/out of chastity?

Sara2001 we have it for quite a while now

But it was not the case at the start,right?

Sara2001 Even if it is VERY restricting for me, I think overall it makes it easier and ensures the harmony

Would you discuss your rules based on the other rules in your boyfriend's family,without this rule?

Sara2001 ometimes I think about ways to make some things easier for me but at the end I never find a solution with enough benefits for this change.

Did you discuss it with your boyfriend?

Angelina he could change that and it would be an advantage for both of you.

I agree.

Angelina well, there is a very simple reason. the equipment also limits you physically a lot. if you have to do things for daniel, it all takes longer and is more strenuous for you, he could change that and it would be an advantage for both of you.

The equipment is very important for him and after marriage I will have enough time to do anything in my equipment. So there is no major benefit for him.

Vanessa But it was not the case at the start,right?

No, not from the beginning.

Vanessa Would you discuss your rules based on the other rules in your boyfriend's family,without this rule?

Yes, why not. We often talk about the rules of others.

Vanessa Did you discuss it with your boyfriend?

Yes, but it's important for him that anything that makes things easier doesn't come with less limitations.

Sara2001 Yes, but it's important for him that anything that makes things easier doesn't come with less limitations.

Why that? Could you elaborate the thought behind this.

If I just apply this rule, I think there is more detail behind it, then it can only ever get more difficult and/or exhausting for you. Which ultimately leads to overload and constant failure.

Joh Why that? Could you elaborate the thought behind this.

It's not about making things more and more difficult for me and of course many rules can change from one direction to the other, but there are some basics that are very important for him and they will only be changed if this is absolutely necessary for my long term happiness.
Like being locked in belt, bra and tightbands almost 24/7, strict limitations of orgasms, not leaving the house without permission and if possible accompanied by him or another male member of our families, not spending any money without permission and of course doing my 2 daily corner times.
This is kind of a base line.

Sara2001

Sara2001 and after marriage I will have enough time to do anything in my equipment. So there is no major benefit for him.

we will have to discuss this again after your wedding, at the moment i doubt it.

Joh

sometimes you need a moment to think

Angelina sometimes you need a moment to think

hmm, I should also try out this thing called thinking once

Max9 hmm, I should also try out this thing called thinking once

Works well most of the time

Max9 hmm, I should also try out this thing called thinking once

One must be careful, tho. I once heard my father tell one of my brothers that he (the brother, that is) was thinking with his dick and not his brain.

Avery One must be careful, tho. I once heard my father tell one of my brothers that he (the brother, that is) was thinking with his dick and not his brain.

Okay, I laughed xD

Avery hmm... alreasy heard of people doing so... maybe a belt or cage helps to prevent them from overthinking and getting the wrong conclutions with their temptation amplitude.

Angelina fortunately, as a woman, this can't happen to me. besides, he should keep his fingers to himself, all 11 of them.

that's true, but therefore you can think with your pearl.

Max9 prevent them from overthinking and getting the wrong conclusions with their temptation amplitude

I'm forced to admit I do not know what a temptation amplitude is but I catch your drift.

Sara2001 and after marriage I will have enough time to do anything in my equipment

But you may do even more without it.

Like a better meal,a nicely decorated house for a romantic time...

Sara2001 No, not from the beginning.

I think it was better...

Sara2001 Yes, why not. We often talk about the rules of others.

Sorry,I've not choose my words well.

By "discuss",I meant "argue","disagree"...

Sara2001 if this is absolutely necessary for my long term happiness.

Do you think one of these basic rules would have to change to make you happy?

Vanessa But you may do even more without it.

I would, but it's not necessary. I think I will have more then enough time for anything and my equipment will not make me much slower.

Vanessa I think it was better

Now it's less stressful and we have no fights. I really like that.

Vanessa By "discuss",I meant "argue","disagree"...

I am not allowed to argue about rules. But I am allowed to politely state my opinion and I have the right to ask as often as I need to fully understand the rules. But he has the final saying.

Vanessa Do you think one of these basic rules would have to change to make you happy?

I don't think there will be a change in my basic rules for the foreseeable future and for now I am happy with this.

Sara2001 I think I will have more then enough time for anything and my equipment will not make me much slower.

Anyway you would know it after your marriage.

Sara2001 I am not allowed to argue about rules. But I am allowed to politely state my opinion and I have the right to ask as often as I need to fully understand the rules. But he has the final saying.

Yes,but do you think you would argue more,if you not have the strictest rules?

Sara2001 I am happy with this.

Good!

Vanessa Yes,but do you think you would argue more,if you not have the strictest rules?

It's more an emotional thing. It's less about the arguing itself. It's about feeling like jealousy or thinking that something is to strict. This way I always know that it is stricter for me, very simple and easy.

Sara2001 very simple and easy.

So you prefer it.

Vanessa So you prefer it.

Honestly I don't prefer the strictness and the limitations itself but we both prefer a setup that is designed to bring us as much peace, love and harmony as possible and for this goal it's a good solution to minimise aspects that could lead to a conflicting.

Max9 that's true, but therefore you can think with your pearl.

nice that you call it my pearl, i like that

Vanessa Like a better meal,a nicely decorated house for a romantic time...

that's what I mean, so it's probably going to be difficult for @Sara2001 at some point.

Sara2001 Honestly I don't prefer the strictness and the limitations itself

Sara2001 and for this goal it's a good solution to minimise aspects that could lead to a conflicting.

somehow i have the feeling that this is a contradiction in terms. the strict rules only increase the potential for conflict, don't they?