Sara2001 Yes, but it's important for him that anything that makes things easier doesn't come with less limitations.
Why that? Could you elaborate the thought behind this.
If I just apply this rule, I think there is more detail behind it, then it can only ever get more difficult and/or exhausting for you. Which ultimately leads to overload and constant failure.
Joh Why that? Could you elaborate the thought behind this.
It's not about making things more and more difficult for me and of course many rules can change from one direction to the other, but there are some basics that are very important for him and they will only be changed if this is absolutely necessary for my long term happiness.
Like being locked in belt, bra and tightbands almost 24/7, strict limitations of orgasms, not leaving the house without permission and if possible accompanied by him or another male member of our families, not spending any money without permission and of course doing my 2 daily corner times.
This is kind of a base line.
Avery hmm... alreasy heard of people doing so... maybe a belt or cage helps to prevent them from overthinking and getting the wrong conclutions with their temptation amplitude. 
Angelina fortunately, as a woman, this can't happen to me. besides, he should keep his fingers to himself, all 11 of them.
that's true, but therefore you can think with your pearl.
Sara2001 and after marriage I will have enough time to do anything in my equipment
But you may do even more without it.
Like a better meal,a nicely decorated house for a romantic time...
Sara2001 No, not from the beginning.
I think it was better...
Sara2001 Yes, why not. We often talk about the rules of others.
Sorry,I've not choose my words well.
By "discuss",I meant "argue","disagree"...
Sara2001 if this is absolutely necessary for my long term happiness.
Do you think one of these basic rules would have to change to make you happy?
Vanessa But you may do even more without it.
I would, but it's not necessary. I think I will have more then enough time for anything and my equipment will not make me much slower.
Vanessa I think it was better
Now it's less stressful and we have no fights. I really like that.
Vanessa By "discuss",I meant "argue","disagree"...
I am not allowed to argue about rules. But I am allowed to politely state my opinion and I have the right to ask as often as I need to fully understand the rules. But he has the final saying.
Vanessa Do you think one of these basic rules would have to change to make you happy?
I don't think there will be a change in my basic rules for the foreseeable future and for now I am happy with this.
Sara2001 I think I will have more then enough time for anything and my equipment will not make me much slower.
Anyway you would know it after your marriage.
Sara2001 I am not allowed to argue about rules. But I am allowed to politely state my opinion and I have the right to ask as often as I need to fully understand the rules. But he has the final saying.
Yes,but do you think you would argue more,if you not have the strictest rules?
Sara2001 I am happy with this.
Good!
Vanessa Yes,but do you think you would argue more,if you not have the strictest rules?
It's more an emotional thing. It's less about the arguing itself. It's about feeling like jealousy or thinking that something is to strict. This way I always know that it is stricter for me, very simple and easy.
Max9 that's true, but therefore you can think with your pearl.
nice that you call it my pearl, i like that 
Vanessa Like a better meal,a nicely decorated house for a romantic time...
that's what I mean, so it's probably going to be difficult for @Sara2001 at some point.
somehow i have the feeling that this is a contradiction in terms. the strict rules only increase the potential for conflict, don't they?
Sara2001 I think whoever says that she or he is absolutely loving and adoring his life in chastity without missing anything is lying.
No there are many wives like me who like everything about it. You could argue that our husbands are more giving and go by what we both want rather than set rules.
Biblically when people marry they are to be as one... So as couple say "we're remodeling, we are moving to a town, we are pregnant" etcetera
Sara2001 You mixed a lot. This never happened. Nobody ever talked about a number of orgasms during a family dinner
I thought so Daniels sister was told be her husband that she would be having fewer orgasms. I forget the amount you said but it was very few for a happy marriage and so she cried. I remember THAT because it felt like a punch to the gut ... 
Megan No there are many wives like me who like everything about it. You could argue that our husbands are more giving and go by what we both want rather than set rules.
How much time do you have out - like non sexual time just doing stuff it doesn't work with?
Megan I forget the amount you said but it was very few for a happy marriage and so she cried. I remember THAT because it felt like a punch to the gut ...
Yeah I remember too it seemed like it was just to be cruel
