Laura But it seems @ZeynepFox 's story has confused you
I can't trace back the reference but I think @ZeynepFox does an excellent job of explaining her ideas and the customs she observes.
Accidentally flashing chastity equipment in public
Laura "Intact hymen matters"
That is rather devoid of context but I do think young people make mistakes, some people are forced into things and from what I've read not all hymens are created equal at birth. Accordingly, judging people by their hymens may be a slippery slope. But as I said she "does an excellent job of explaining her ideas and the customs she observes"..
i mean... it still has to fit in, so it can't be too small
Well, this conversation has gone sideways, for sure
If there were NO fetish crossovers from chastity it would be completely normal to show other women at the gym while changing. I used to change at the gym (not in the dead center) before I was very aware it was unusual and no one cared....
I think some of you guys jump or looked shocked or started shouting which scares the person next to you and then forces you into those positions where you have to explain yourself.
Maija my answer to the hymen curiosity is that it's really gross when women have torn themselves up from whatever they felt compelled to do and they don't look satisfied anyway they look injured...
So yeah I had a dilator before I got married and I love the way I look and feel... My husband is somewhat big for me but he was so patient and I don't think we had vaginal sex until several days of other sex.
As far as the premature ejaculation or the hard tearing thrusting I have heard that some men are so afraid of rejection that is what causes their mind to think it is a game to place seed and escape 
so it's all a game of a man feeling nervous over feeling loved.
Max9 who wouldn't?
someone who is really freezing cold 
Joh Let make a education tour.
The vagina us usual closed because it is surrounded of muscles. It is quite flexible otherwise the baby would not come out.
Their is no gaping hole where you can stick a soft fabric in.
Dr. Joh explained it well (medical advanced training stage 1 completed)
Maija Well, this conversation has gone sideways, for sure
yes, but good that despite the serious topic of the forum we still have room for funny aspects 
While it seems natural and easy, sex is not always so the first time.
Mechanically it is not hard, but a lot of thing can be mentally hard. The anticipation, the anxiety, expectations.. There are high risks to not perform at its finest.
Knowing himself and knowing herself, knowing our bodies and what we need to fee good helps in doing the right thing for ourselves; knowing how we can feel good can help in knowing how, at least, helping someone feel good.
For how much a "first time" would be romantic, I have this convinction that a "disaster" or a "fail" would not be a so romantic "once in a lifetime gift".
Plus, having to do it with an u experienced person, I swear, is pretty hard. It is almost a job where you have to take care of the other person so much that there is little room for your needs. That if you care for the other one.
To gwt back in the topic: pretty positive discussion. Taking into account other people accident can be quite positive into thinking that it is somewhat part of normality and minimize the embarrassment coming from memories.
I have one "accident" from yesterday, I was with my boyfriend and our keyholder in a coffee shop and we were talking about "our stuff" in a language we all know, which, where we live, almost no one knows. Almost. At a table next to us there was a couple, I think in their 50s, when they were leaving, the lady leaned to us and whispered to us to "have fun" in the mentioned language.
Max9
That makes everyone melt
well, i always try to stay cool in public, but that would be very difficult for me.
i know situations like that, so always watch out. i was once out with a relative (turkish, but looks very german). there were two others who were talking in turkish and said something bad about us, they really blushed when they realised that my relative understood them.