@Angelina
Some people would agree that living together would help you better if marrying them is right. Some people have rushed into relationships and divorced within months or a few short years, because the love died out so quickly. (Also because they had the song "Photograph" by Ed Sheeran play in their playlist at the wedding. There was a woman on the radio who came up with the theory that the song is cursed to give divorces, because of her 7 friends, all had the song Photograph in common.)
HER: "Did you play the song 'Photograph' at your wedding?"
NEWLYWEDS: "Yes, we did."
HER: "You're getting a divorce!"

My take on answering this post though: Watch a movie together, and when you see a belt, ask how the other thinks about it. It would give you the idea of their take on the device.

    HHelen They do, but it's not normal.

    The definition of normal is "the majority of people do it this way". If most people do it in a certain way, this is the norm, the standard. Anything else is an exception, a minority.

    Angelina i would be careful with that. in germany a large majority were nazis once and that is definitely not normal

    But even if it was wrong, it was normal at these times. Norms are changing over time. This is normal, too.

    Laura Such opinion is not too rare. My parents think the same

    I think something that is not rare doesn't mean it is the standard. But I agree that things can be normal, even if just a minority does it. I think something is normal when it is accepted by the majority of the people. Like gay relationships. They are definitely normal, too.

            It's something that I don't really know how to say, I have a friend who is studying abroad, and I don't know how to tell him that so that I don't behave like a slut I wear a belt.
            It's weird even writing it.

              Raquel that I don't behave like a slut I wear a belt.

              If you don't behave like a slut, because you wear a belt, than it's right and logical.
              If you wear a belt, because you behaved like a slut, it sounds worse.

                  Raziel My take on answering this post though: Watch a movie together, and when you see a belt, ask how the other thinks about it. It would give you the idea of their take on the device.

                  Sorry no way ! I would never have gotten married if I tried to get my husband to watch one of those movies like Ubalda with the awful fake metal panties Just NO! Most celebrities who are rumored to have actually been belted will never share real pics too...
                  One day it

                  Raquel don't know how to tell him that so that I don't behave like a slut I wear a belt.

                  Why would you use the word "slut" to describe yourself ever???? Like ever?
                  Make it a conversation topic and laugh. That worked for me

                        Raquel I have a friend who is studying abroad, and I don't know how to tell him

                        Say that your parents are too strict.

                          Raziel My take on answering this post though: Watch a movie together, and when you see a belt, ask how the other thinks about it. It would give you the idea of their take on the device.

                          sorry, i understood your post, but not this part. in what context do you mean this tip?

                          Sara2001 This is normal, too.

                          I don't think we can agree on this point. I would always ask someone who tells me that something I'm doing isn't normal, "what gives you the right to tell me what's normal"? I'm a bit individualistic and idealistic 😂

                          Sara2001 They are definitely normal, too.

                          my grandmother, for example, sees it differently and even if i suffer from it myself i can't really blame her because it's normal in HER worldview

                          Raquel and I don't know how to tell him

                          why do you even want to say it?

                                    Renita If you don't behave like a slut, because you wear a belt, than it's right and logical.
                                    If you wear a belt, because you behaved like a slut, it sounds worse.

                                    Nope, I was never one of those women.
                                    It probably would have cost my parents more for me to accept the belt and, surely, I wouldn't be so angry now.

                                    Megan Why would you use the word "slut" to describe yourself ever???? Like ever?

                                    Sorry if it sounds bad, but I'm just pissed off.
                                    I was never an easy girl, but it seems that my body adapts better to the belt than I do, and it is just around the corner that I hit the ground, and I see that the abyss is approaching me.
                                    I do not know.

                                          Raquel Nope, I was never one of those women.

                                          Then no need to worry.

                                          • Ines replied to this.

                                              Renita Then no need to worry.

                                              My uncles thinking way!

                                              Raquel Sorry if it sounds bad, but I'm just pissed off.

                                              We talked, but crises are very common. I think that do not have experienced key holder is drawback.

                                                    Angelina my grandmother, for example, sees it differently and even if i suffer from it myself i can't really blame her because it's normal in HER worldview

                                                    I think if it comes to the term "normal", it's the society who defines what is normal not an individual. I don't say that I like it that it is like this, but that's how it is. But the society also defines up to witch degree something that is not seen as normal is acceptable.

                                                        Ines We talked, but crises are very common.

                                                        But mine seem longer tahn yours....

                                                        Angelina why do you even want to say it?

                                                        It doesn't matter at the moment. And I hope that, in summer, I can also take vacations from the belt.

                                                              Raquel But mine seem longer tahn yours....

                                                              It's normal - like I know for me it's very different to Ines. You'll be different too. My moods about the belt are all mixed up. The worst - I get sad about it - like I know why I'm doing it and I want to wear it - but still sometimes I'm depressed about what I'm missing out on - and all the other difficulties seem worse as well then.
                                                              And sometimes I'm having a completely opposite mood. Ines doesn't like to talk about it I think it's what she calles crises😅 - but really it's the main part of wearing a belt. This is intense but easier actually - like I know better the reason I'm waiting - I can let it be, not fight. You need to have peace with it. If you think it's a problem you'll always have problems.

                                                                  Jen

                                                                  In my case, generally, and at the risk of being superficial, they always come from experiencing some physical discomfort.
                                                                  The background is clear to me, but sometimes the inconvenience makes me think about everything.
                                                                  But hey, two more girls with belts, well, three, in the family, it helps.

                                                                    Sara2001

                                                                    I have to agree with you, but I will try to do everything I can to change this.

                                                                    Raquel And I hope that, in summer, I can also take vacations from the belt.

                                                                    interesting, reminds me of an employment contract. maybe i should also agree on 30 days beltholiday per year in my contract 😉. no seriously, I wish you much success. and as far as your feelings are concerned:... well, it is completely normal that there are better and worse times, but your basic attitude is quite good, you can build on it. 🙂

                                                                    • Ines replied to this.

                                                                          Raquel And I hope that, in summer, I can also take vacations from the belt

                                                                          I doubt

                                                                              Angelina don't you think it's a risk to marry someone you don't know in everyday life?

                                                                              I never said that you shouldn't know a person in everyday life.

                                                                                  Raquel just around the corner that I hit the ground, and I see that the abyss is approaching me.
                                                                                  I do not know.

                                                                                  @Ines does @Raquel play tennis or is there a neutral space you can socialize? You're a good sister !
                                                                                  I wish everyone had as positive of a friend!