Laura Because they can blackmail each other
that's true, but not for every couple. i think if you define your goals clearly from the beginning and are willing to take on this dual role, it can work. i couldn't do it that way, so it didn't work (fortunately, in hindsight).
Jonas Ok. It'd be a bug if they were aiming to maintain each other' state of being unable to have sex, which is I think what we were talking about.
i don't think that should be the goal in a relationship that one or both don't have sex/orgasm anymore. i only think that it works because you want to preserve each other for your partner or also against your own search for sexual overdrive. with such goals it can work.