sun I even don't know how to figure out if she really like the chastity belt.
Why do you must know? If she want you to make the decisions and she accept it everything is fine. If she really don't like it you both have to talk about to find a solution which fits for both of you.
She wants you as leader, than you must lead.
sun .I even don't know how to figure out if she really like the chastity belt.
why don't you ask her openly and honestly? i don't really understand the problem, either she likes the belt, she accepts the belt because you like it, or she doesn't accept it, then you need other solutions. that's not a big problem, is it?
sun She refuses to talk about such topics deeply.Actually many Chinese women hate topics about sex,some of them even think such topics disgusting.
i can understand this for cultural reasons, but i think it is not good for the relationship. i think if you ask things here in the forum that you should actually discuss with your wife, you should communicate more honestly.
sun Are you from a smaller city? If so, I'd say yeah go ahead and put them on her. It'll be fine.
sun I concur. I don't feel entirely comfortable talking about these topics, either. My discussions here regarding thigh bands are purely functional. Even then, the things I said on here might be perceived as "s*xual" by a Chinese woman.
Angelina as a person with a lot of submissive tendencies, I can confirm that when someone like me asks you to make the decisions, they really mean it. It probably bugs his wife more to hear him pester her about the belt than it does for her to wear it.
Saintprudence It probably bugs his wife more to hear him pester her about the belt than it does for her to wear it.
that would at least explain why there are so few open discussions about it. probably she thinks "now finally decide and take responsibility".
Jen
What you have written seems very recognizable to me, and I myself had written similar things about my experiences.
I accept that they are not something especially comfortable, but I have even gone for ice cream with them.
To be at home or to sleep, no girl needs more movement than thighbands allow.
Sometimes I think there is a lot of drama in the world of chastity belts, and I am convinced that there is because there are many people with negative feelings.
Ines Sometimes I think there is a lot of drama in the world of chastity belts, and I am convinced that there is because there are many people with negative feelings.
As much as I currently evangelize the belt and have come to understand the anti-masturbation POV, I can still very much understand why those unfortunate enough to be thighbanded at night would resent their situation. It feels like you are a bit less of a person to be denied freedom of movement others possess simply to minimize the chance of self-pleasure. There are keyholders who consider the comfort of their charge to be a sacrifice they are willing to make!
It is evident that the keyholders who abuse are the main causes of this perspective of the girls.
I understand why I wear them sometimes and it really doesn't seem like anything terrible to me either.
It is just like I ask to open my belt for a shower if I need to, and I do not think it is a crime either.
On the other hand, if you do not like wearing the belt, everything that makes it a little more effective seems like a world.
Ines It is evident that the keyholders who abuse are the main causes of this perspective of the girls.
From many perspectives, the belt itself is abusive, so I’m not surprised at this response from anyone who didn’t discover the belt themselves. Even a convinced wearer at some point didn’t want it.
Ines On the other hand, if you do not like wearing the belt, everything that makes it a little more effective seems like a world.
True. If I had been invited to wear a belt in college, I would have reluctantly accepted, but thighbands would have caused great resentment and frustration.
