sun I used to have one, sorta. She was half white, Christian, and American. Back in 2019, I was just like her except for the half white part. But since the beginning of the pandemic, I've gone on a journey rediscovering my identity and self. As a result, I don't think I can marry an American Christian anymore. The unfortunate thing is, I think it's harder to find a Chinese girl who wants a traditional marriage than a Christian girl who wants the same nowadays. Doesn't help that there aren't that many Asians where I live. Mainland China's become a very different place than it was decades ago, and I haven't been back in years.

    Where exactly in Northern China are you from? I've read through the story of you and your wife thoroughly, and felt like your strategy was kinda risky. But I guess if she's 顺从 then it might make sense.

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      Tenn__Man
      I'm from northern Anhui province.I haven't had any strategies until now.I even don't know how to figure out if she really like the chastity belt.

          sun I even don't know how to figure out if she really like the chastity belt.

          Why do you must know? If she want you to make the decisions and she accept it everything is fine. If she really don't like it you both have to talk about to find a solution which fits for both of you.
          She wants you as leader, than you must lead.

            sun .I even don't know how to figure out if she really like the chastity belt.

            why don't you ask her openly and honestly? i don't really understand the problem, either she likes the belt, she accepts the belt because you like it, or she doesn't accept it, then you need other solutions. that's not a big problem, is it?

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                Angelina
                She refuses to talk about such topics deeply.Actually many Chinese women hate topics about sex,some of them even think such topics disgusting.

                    sun She refuses to talk about such topics deeply.Actually many Chinese women hate topics about sex,some of them even think such topics disgusting.

                    Make you decision and if she really don't like it she will let you know. Than work from their out a solution which fits both of you.

                      sun She refuses to talk about such topics deeply.Actually many Chinese women hate topics about sex,some of them even think such topics disgusting.

                      i can understand this for cultural reasons, but i think it is not good for the relationship. i think if you ask things here in the forum that you should actually discuss with your wife, you should communicate more honestly.

                        sun Are you from a smaller city? If so, I'd say yeah go ahead and put them on her. It'll be fine.

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                            sun I concur. I don't feel entirely comfortable talking about these topics, either. My discussions here regarding thigh bands are purely functional. Even then, the things I said on here might be perceived as "s*xual" by a Chinese woman.

                                sun
                                Would you say your relationship is of a kind where she wants major decisions, even the ones affecting several aspects of her personal life, to be made by you?

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                                    Tenn__Man Even then, the things I said on here might be perceived as "s*xual" by a Chinese woman.

                                    that's no wonder, this forum consists mostly of sexual topics or rather how sexuality is prevented 😂

                                      Tenn__Man
                                      Yes,the smallest city in Anhui province.But I don't think women born in small city can accept it easily,many of them are very conservative.

                                        Owl
                                        Basically,that's correct.She asked me to make more and more decisions after marriage.

                                            sun She asked me to make more and more decisions after marriage.

                                            so as long as she doesn't contradict you are welcome to do it.

                                                Angelina as a person with a lot of submissive tendencies, I can confirm that when someone like me asks you to make the decisions, they really mean it. It probably bugs his wife more to hear him pester her about the belt than it does for her to wear it.

                                                    Saintprudence It probably bugs his wife more to hear him pester her about the belt than it does for her to wear it.

                                                    that would at least explain why there are so few open discussions about it. probably she thinks "now finally decide and take responsibility".

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                                                      sun
                                                      My opinion: If you can wholeheartedly say that making past decisions for both of you were generally OK for both of you, as well, then take that position of her seriously. Speaking from experience.

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                                                        Jen
                                                        What you have written seems very recognizable to me, and I myself had written similar things about my experiences.
                                                        I accept that they are not something especially comfortable, but I have even gone for ice cream with them.
                                                        To be at home or to sleep, no girl needs more movement than thighbands allow.
                                                        Sometimes I think there is a lot of drama in the world of chastity belts, and I am convinced that there is because there are many people with negative feelings.