At the end of the day, anything that involves a minor's genitalia and interfering in their sex life is always going to be rather subjective (unless it is obvious the writer is getting off to it and/or expects the readers to do so). I doubt there is a clear answer across jurisdictions, and even within a jurisdiction different judges may draw different lines.

I would say that care should generally be taken to stay away from erotic writing though. If we invite minors (even 17-year-olds) to discuss sexual matters, erotic content, even if the people whom it is about are above 21, might be i bad taste.

And then there are the tons of edge cases. When is it erotic to discuss how a lack of sexual relief affects your life, and stuff like that.

  • Ines replied to this.

    youdontknowme
    At the end, as Megan rightly, we want avoid:
    1- Weird fantasies of almost sadistic nature. The criteria is the experience of moderators.
    2- Sexualization of kids, at certain ages it is absolutely out of discussion that a chastity belt is out of sight. If someone comes here to talk about such ideas, the only answer will be of moderation.

    I believe that outside these red lines there is enough room for a lot of things.

    youdontknowme If we invite minors (even 17-year-olds) to discuss sexual matters, erotic content, even if the people whom it is about are above 21, might be i bad taste.

    we should avoid sexualizing those threads. It is not only of bad taste but also forbidden for moderation.

          Ines changed the title to Explaining rules .

          Joh I really like is to discussion with you your view on all the different topics as long as it is in a respectful and not offending way. It would be a pity if it were no longer possible for sensitive issues.

          of course i agree, and i can make it even more complicated. i am 18 and you can write openly with me, but if my 16 year old girlfriend is reading along, should i ban her from the room? it's all a bit illogical (my opinion).

          Joh Difficult and I see your point. The best will be to find out why and which goal they have.

          that's what i try to do, i continue to try to help everyone individually, no matter what gender, role or age. 🙂

          Ines Obviously a girl can enter and comment on her situation, but if she is young, the thread will be closed after a few tips.

          what do you mean by young? that is the crucial point.
          If I were to write that I'm 16 or that I'm 20, firstly no one would be able to check it because we're an anonymous forum and secondly it wouldn't change my situation.

          I think it would be more important to approach the matter with more sensitivity and to try to put ourselves in the girls' shoes. I agree with you that clear rules are needed, but please ones that are also controllable.

                  Angelina of course i agree, and i can make it even more complicated. i am 18 and you can write openly with me, but if my 16 year old girlfriend is reading along, should i ban her from the room? it's all a bit illogical (my opinion).

                  It is quite different, everyone in private life can do freely, here, in the forum, no. I did not sexualized any post here.

                  Angelina would be able to check it because we're an anonymous forum

                  We can not allow that a user who is sayin is 13 years old starts to talk about anal sex, for example.

                  Angelina but please ones that are also controllable.

                  These are controllable, I think.

                          Angelina of course i agree, and i can make it even more complicated. i am 18 and you can write openly with me, but if my 16 year old girlfriend is reading along, should i ban her from the room? it's all a bit illogical (my opinion).

                          No, this is not reasonable. Maybe a solution would be glasses which detect not for her age appropriated sentences and turned black so she can't read it. 😮 🤣

                          Angelina I think it would be more important to approach the matter with more sensitivity and to try to put ourselves in the girls' shoes. I agree with you that clear rules are needed, but please ones that are also controllable.

                          Good point. We can control it only if an age verification would be installed. But it would not prevent minors from reading the posting as long as the forum is freely accessible.
                          I believe to have the guideline and be careful what we write is a good way to keep our forum on a good track.

                                Ines It is quite different, everyone in private life can do freely, here, in the forum, no.

                                I understood that, I formulated it deliberately provocatively

                                Ines We can not allow that a user who is sayin is 13 years old starts to talk about anal sex, for example.

                                what if it is based on a real experience. it is of course very unlikely, but not impossible or?

                                Ines These are controllable, I think.

                                ok, i will see

                                Joh Maybe a solution would be glasses which detect not for her age appropriated sentences and turned black so she can't read it. 😮 🤣

                                🤣

                                Joh We can control it only if an age verification would be installed.

                                the question would be how this works without having to enter personal data.

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                                            Angelina what if it is based on a real experience. it is of course very unlikely, but not impossible or?

                                            The she can go to another place, but such themes will be closed in this forum.

                                            I know that maybe it is a bit hard, but we should the forum the less sexualizedsexualized as possible. I know I am asking an effort to the users, but it is for good reason.

                                                Ines I know that maybe it is a bit hard, but we should the forum the less sexualizedsexualized as possible. I know I am asking an effort to the users, but it is for good reason.

                                                I accept that and will try to follow your request, I just want to explain why I think some rules are correct in principle, but wrong in their implementation

                                                • Ines replied to this.

                                                    Angelina
                                                    We do not have room for wrong implementation.
                                                    We are here to talk and discuss about chastity belts, but topics with excessive sexual load will be closed.
                                                    We have to maintain a happy environment, and if this keep await some perverts of opening accounts here, then, all is worth it.

                                                        Ines We are here to talk and discuss about chastity belts, but topics with excessive sexual load will be closed.
                                                        We have to maintain a happy environment, and if this keep await some perverts of opening accounts here,

                                                        i agree 100% with this part, i also think we should continue to keep the forum clean

                                                        Ines We do not have room for wrong implementation.

                                                        Ines then, all is worth it.

                                                        i don't agree with this part at the moment, but i will see how it will look in practice. i only ask for sensitivity when making decisions

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                                                                Angelina i only ask for sensitivity when making decisions

                                                                I think that sensivity and manners are a constant in moderation action here.

                                                                    Ines I think that sensivity and manners are a constant in moderation action here.

                                                                    i have that feeling too, but it can just slip away pretty quickly and by that i mean both in one direction and in the other

                                                                      13 days later

                                                                      If someone has doubts.

                                                                      2 months later

                                                                      I have a question. Maybe @Megan or @Laura can help me. Would it be ok to write my email adress in my profile description?

                                                                        Kris Would it be ok to write my email adress in my profile description?

                                                                        It's fine. But be aware about spammers

                                                                            Kris

                                                                            don't you think that's a bit risky? when the forum was smaller, i.e. 2 years ago, i might have done that too, but now there are soo many users here who could see that and not everyone is friendly.

                                                                                Angelina Don't worry, its a mail-adress, where nothing personal is stored 🙂

                                                                                    Kris Don't worry, its a mail-adress, where nothing personal is stored 🙂

                                                                                    that's not what i mean, there could also be users registered here who send you trojan mails or similar. not everyone is what he/she seems. there are many users i would give my mail to, but especially those who have been registered for months/years and have never written anything seem very suspicious to me.