Ines

I see that we will unfortunately not reach an agreement at this point 😞

Angelina that would be true if the key holder was some strange adult, but in most cases here it is one's own parents

SInce most sexual abuse happens with close family members, I am afraid that is no excuse.

Ines Using a belt you are considering that the wearer has a developed sexuality

Or you are trying to be proactive instead of reactive, attempting to ensure they do not develop unwelcome habits so you do not have to break those habits later.

Of course, interfering with a person's sexual development is a precarious situation, and normalizing the idea that someone else controls your body before you really felt profound sexual desire in your life carries some seriously unfortunate implications, but if you look at it from the perspective of preserving your perfectly innocent angel, if you wait for their sexuality to be fully developed, it may be too late for that preservation.

    youdontknowme Or you are trying to be proactive instead of reactive, attempting to ensure they do not develop unwelcome habits so you do not have to break those habits later.

    Exactly the same, if someone is trying to avoid that, then is introducing the wearer in another dimension, it is not acceptable.

    youdontknowme Of course, interfering with a person's sexual development is a precarious situation

    Abuse.

    youdontknowme but if you look at it from the perspective of preserving your perfectly innocent angel

    From my perspective it is totally unacceptable.

    youdontknowme if you wait for their sexuality to be fully developed, it may be too late for that preservation.

    Much better arrive late, then

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    youdontknowme Of course, interfering with a person's sexual development is a precarious situation, and normalizing the idea that someone else controls your body before you really felt profound sexual desire in your life carries some seriously unfortunate implications, but if you look at it from the perspective of preserving your perfectly innocent angel, if you wait for their sexuality to be fully developed, it may be too late for that preservation.

    If parents do this they over protect their children and let them no space to develop. They are called helicopter parents.

    With this view, one could certainly justify the following action. If my child meets other children and is with them, he or she could be influenced in some way that I don't like. Just to be on the safe side, I don't let my child be with other children. I keep it only in our house/flat.

      youdontknowme SInce most sexual abuse happens with close family members, I am afraid that is no excuse.

      yes, that's frankly a shame, i admit i agree with you but can't say i understand it

      Joh If parents do this they over protect their children and let them no space to develop. They are called helicopter parents.

      that's a point i've also thought about with my father, but haven't come to a conclusion. there are areas where he gives me a lot of freedom and areas where he restricts me a lot. i think he sometimes projects his own bad experiences in life onto me and areas where he himself was also successful, he gives me a lot of freedom there.

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        Angelina i think he sometimes projects his own bad experiences in life onto me and areas where he himself was also successful, he gives me a lot of freedom there.

        This could be.

          Joh

          it is very likely and I often think about it

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            Angelina
            I had written it before. I think he should get help and solve his problems. You will not always be there. And then what?

              Joh You will not always be there. And then what?

              that is a good question, but since i will be working in his house it is not quite right, but i agree that he should have some problems treated

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