what is your opinion of maintenance punishment
In front of? or Against?
maintenance punishment in male led relations?
You should have a contract in such a relationship. If the girl, of her own free will, enters into the contract and it includes maintenance punishment, then OK. Otherwise no. If a girl enjoys that sort of thing than the punishment becomes funishment.
Diana_V for me it was never funishment
Then I would be against it. Punishment you do not enjoy, but which does no damage, for a specific act might be OK as long as it's negotiated, but just punishing someone harshly because it's Saturday night I would say no. And I enjoy some stuff like that as long as it's part of an ongoing relationship with a person of equal power, e.g. not your father.
I think it has to be consensual that it happens.
But I think maintenance punishments as a mix are wrong.
I prefer maintenance discipline separated from punishment discipline.
But as I say. It must be consens in the relationship that this is going to happen.
I think that corporal punishment by definition is not funishment. I don't feel any sexual arousal when my wife punishes me. That's not her goal either. Her goal is to punish my transgressions. I would not accept a maintenance punishment. I accept her dominance, she doesn't have to underline that with a maintenance punishment.
Pieter_Cuck I think that corporal punishment by definition is not funishment.
There's a difference between taking your clothes off and getting your fanny paddled, which can be enjoyable, and real, hard hitting. When I first joined there was a thread here where some person said their punishment was meant to be hard enough to still hurt the next day. I think we all can agree that's wrong.
Avery
I totally agree with you a punishment is not good if you still feel it the next day. The punishment must be bearable.
Pieter_Cuck I totally agree with you a punishment is not good if you still feel it the next day. The punishment must be bearable. @Diana_V
Check out this thread. Lots of material there on the subject.
Avery
Thanks
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My wife always want me to make decisions for every thing in life.Is that a Male-lead relationship?
Sara2001 But I think maintenance punishments as a mix are wrong.
I prefer maintenance discipline separated from punishment discipline.
Sorry, I don't get it what you want to point out.
Avery I think we all can agree that's wrong.
If a consensual they are free to decide to do so. We have not the right to decide for them what is right and what is wrong.
If you say this is wrong for yourself is a different thing.
sun My wife always want me to make decisions for every thing in life.Is that a Male-lead relationship?
Yes. If the dynamic of your relation has this outcome it is. It does not need any bespoken rules or agreement.
It can be a burden to decide all the time. If you feel tired then you need more space to make the decisions. Your wife should create it for you by doing other tasks for you.