Jen such a parent lol

Nah, I do not have children. I might be old enough to have them, but not old enough for them to be at an age where they could make use of a belt, unless I myself had needed a chastity device when I did not have one. No, that is from the perspective of someone who does not like the disinhibiting effect of alcohol to begin with and has been blessed with the sort of body parts on which it is much easier to conceal a chastity device.

nah they don't care - they're interest was totally about seeing me locked in without the key

Now you need a matching top for your belt so you can have the shiniest bikini of your entire friend circle at the next pool or beach party. I know you refuse to be locked into a steel bra, but no idea if you have one. If you do, making an exception for a party like that... Talk about an iron maiden.

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      Jen But like realised I was just stressed about being checked.

      yes, it causes stress, but a chastity belt was not a forbidden object there, so try to stay calm or they will think you have a knife in your belt or something. 😂

      Jen they're interest was totally about seeing me locked in without the key

      so you told your friends you didn't have the keys on the trip? did i get that right?

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            Jen they're interest was totally about seeing me locked in without the key

            How did you explain this to them in the end?

            Jen I'll be wearing it more I think

            That's amazing. It is strange when the belt becomes a part of you. I genuinely miss mine when it's off, (eg: hospital or if I'm using my alternative CB sleeve thing).

            Jen but I like my morning breaks not giving that up.

            You can see where this is going though, no?

                    Jen She knew though - was asking if I was ok if anyone was causing problems for me.

                    It looks like it was not her first time she was confronted with a CB and knows that someone could have forced you to wear it. That is a good point.

                    Jen Yeah alcohol

                    You mean you lost your reservation and talked about it.

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                          Jen they're interest was totally about seeing me locked in without the key

                          Do you parents use a different lock than the one you had the key from?

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                              Laura Do you parents use a different lock than the one you had the key from?

                              I've never had the key. I was going to get another lock but it's annoying - need to have the corner cut off.

                              Joh You mean you lost your reservation and talked about it.

                              Haha nah I lost my reservation about don't drink when belted.... Nah all changed Monday night but had a lot of fun Tuesday so worth it. Actually not to much talk - that would be worse! Made it a "I'm not loosing my V at schoolies thing"

                              Jonas How did you explain this to them in the end?

                              The ones that already knew - easy truth - I feel more free knowing unlock wasn't an option.

                              Jonas You can see where this is going though, no?

                              It ain't going anywhere. Like I know Megan has some amazing belt she can wear 24x7 but that ain't me.

                              Angelina so you told your friends you didn't have the keys on the trip? did i get that right?

                              Yes but only the girls in my room! Don't want everyone thinking I'm crazy.

                              youdontknowme No, that is from the perspective of someone who does not like the disinhibiting effect of alcohol to begin

                              That makes you like a parent😂 sorry hope I'm not offending. Lol just contrast to schoolies - only thing most of us cared about was don't vomit don't get too hungover.

                              youdontknowme Now you need a matching top for your belt so you can have the shiniest bikini of your entire friend circle at the next pool or beach party.

                              I'll settle for metal look thanks😁. But with colour - like a shiny metallic turquoise bikini top yeah

                                              Jen It ain't going anywhere. Like I know Megan has some amazing belt she can wear 24x7 but that ain't me.

                                              Maybe it is less about the belt itself being amazing but rather about gradually getting used to being in the belt for longer and longer until 24/7 is achieved?
                                              As far as I understand you got a Mysteel?
                                              Isn't that the same type some of the long time 24/7 wearers like Angelina have as well? So not having the right belt is just a poor argument. 🙂

                                                  Jen Made it a "I'm not loosing my V at schoolies thing"

                                                  Nice. That's a great way of dealing with it, and may have given your friends pause too.

                                                  The ones that already knew - easy truth - I feel more free knowing unlock wasn't an option.

                                                  Truth right there.

                                                  Jonas You can see where this is going though, no?

                                                  It ain't going anywhere. Like I know Megan has some amazing belt she can wear 24x7 but that ain't me.

                                                  It's less about the belt and more about your body adjusting to it I think. As long as you can see and you're in control of where it's all going, all is good.

                                                    Jen Yes but only the girls in my room!

                                                    And what do they say?

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                                                        Laura they got no idea wearing a belt for more than a few hours is actually a big deal. They just like to tease me about it - about people finding out and no fun. They love that I have it - like me being locked in they think it's great - left the beach party with me first night to go get it on. I hid under a sheet to put it on but had them cheering me when it was time for the lock.

                                                          Jen That makes you like a parent😂 sorry hope I'm not offending. Lol just contrast to schoolies - only thing most of us cared about was don't vomit don't get too hungover.

                                                          I have always been boring like that, even when I was still in school. No dating, no smoking, hardly any alcohol, no illegal drugs, no coffee...

                                                          I was the sort of too-good teen whose parents were almost trying to get me to drink more, and who almost cheered on me when at a formal reception I would actually drink the customary glass of sparkling wine rather than opting for juice like the young kids.

                                                              youdontknowme I was the sort of too-good teen whose parents were almost trying to get me to drink more

                                                              Sounds like me except I dated, but my parents never tried to get me to drink alcohol.

                                                                  Avery Sounds like me except I dated, but my parents never tried to get me to drink alcohol.

                                                                  As I said, almost. Encouraging me to pick the "adult" drink at formal events was the worst they did in that regard.

                                                                  As for dating, I guess that is just a me thing as well. I am pretty sure I fall somewhere on the asexual spectrum, because I have always struggled to relate to people to whom romance is a major factor in life. Like why do people in homophobic places have such difficulty hiding it. If you cannot date the people you are interested in, just do not date anyone at all. I mean, unless you are addicted to romance and sex, it is easy to be celibate, right? Right?

                                                                  Took me ages to find out I am the weird one.

                                                                      Jen It was fine female cop patted me down - didn't say anything

                                                                      Maybe it's less unusual now than we thought.

                                                                          Renita Maybe it's less unusual now than we thought.

                                                                          I think that this is the case.
                                                                          If you search for "chastity belt" on amazon.com, you get a whole bunch of results.
                                                                          And while most of these are probably only good as toys for a few hours, police officers most likely have more than once encountered someone wearing a chastity belt or cage.
                                                                          Of course they would usually not go into the details and differentiate between toys and serious made to measure chastity devices for 24/7 use.

                                                                              youdontknowme Took me ages to find out I am the weird one.

                                                                              I wouldn't be so quick to declare yourself weird. I haven't had a romantic date since I decided to try chastity 16 months ago. I don't think that makes me weird, it is just the way I'm wired. Which is an anagram for weird.

                                                                                  Avery Speak for yourself, I would rather be a weird person passing for normal than actually be normal. And I just cannot relate to something that most people would say is a fundamental part of who they are.

                                                                                  Nothing about me feels bad about being unusual in that way. But there is no denying that I do not experience some things the way most people do. Sure, many people experience it in even more non-standard ways than I do, but I have so far found the asexual community very inclusive and accommodating of people with different "wirings".

                                                                                      youdontknowme Nothing about me feels bad about being unusual in that way

                                                                                      This is a good thing.

                                                                                      youdontknowme I have so far found the asexual community very inclusive and accommodating of people with different "wirings".

                                                                                      I know of only one asexual person. She is a woman who calls herself Evie Lupine and I listen each week to her youtube weekly stream on BDSM at 9PM New York time. Natch, it's available on youtube for viewing at any subsequent time. She is very welcoming of all manner of folk.

                                                                                          curious As far as I understand you got a Mysteel?
                                                                                          Isn't that the same type some of the long time 24/7 wearers like Angelina have as well? So not having the right belt is just a poor argument. 🙂

                                                                                          yes, so you can wear the belt 24/7, but the question is if @Jen wants to and as long as she has control over it, she will make the decisions herself

                                                                                          youdontknowme

                                                                                          so i don't smoke and alcohol only sometimes, but without coffee i would die 😂

                                                                                          curious

                                                                                          so i think the example of @Jen, no matter if the thing with the policewoman or the thing with her friends, has shown one thing. it is not the end of the world if you are open with the belt and if others know about it. however, i would make a distinction that explains why i can't do it that way, i could put my father in danger by being honest and being a bit crazy is something different than being at the mercy of others.

                                                                                                  Angelina but without coffee i would die

                                                                                                  Thing is, I do regularly drink black tea or sugary drinks, which are not necessarily healthier. I just do not like the taste of coffee.