Mr-TM my daughter is being raised by me and my parents, so she will be brought up strictly but lovingly. At 2 she is too young to understand much about right and wrong, but Iām sure the time will come when my reluctance to punish her will be tested!
How do you raise your children?
hanna_anders Iām sure the time will come when my reluctance to punish her will be tested!
You won't be able to avoid punishment for your daughter. Children need to learn that what they do has consequences. The only question is which punishments work.
this is a really good thread, interesting that there haven't been many posts yet. I would raise my child according to values and norms that I myself think are right, that I think are good for my child, but that do not restrict my child's free will too much. I'll tell you more in 10 years when I hopefully have children. 
PS: and of course the role model function of the parents is important. only set rules that you yourself observe.
Emotional intelligence is key.
I hope to raise my children by helping them to learn to make wise decisions. After all, I won't always be there when decision time arrives. When they are young I will necessarily have to make decisions for them but gradually I'll back off a little and give them more autonomy. Hopefully, we'll always be able to discuss things. As far as rules and punishments are concerned I believe children need a clearly articulated set of rules and need to know that if the rules are broken there will indeed be a consistent set of punishments.
Excellent but, not easy to accomplish.
Angelina
Don't mix up intelligence and education.
For example my grandpa had - by today's standards - not a high education. Between the world wars, times were rough and most people only went through the equivalent of today's middle school.
However, I consider him one of the smartest and wisest people I have encountered in all my life.
I wonder if people here who are parents set standards for what kind of clothing their children can wear, or not wear, especially out of the house and how closely they monitor them. And for people here who are living in a home where their parents are in control do your parents set and enforce standards for what you wear when you leave the house. Reason I ask is I have periodic tiffs with my Dad about what I am allowed to wear. I'm 21.
curious Don't mix up intelligence and education.
i'm not doing that, i'm just saying that there are those cases, that's why i think that parents don't always have the ability to be more intelligent than their children, that can be through education, but also through other things. you can't compensate for everything with life experience.
Avery Reason I ask is I have periodic tiffs with my Dad about what I am allowed to wear. I'm 21.
inside the house it doesn't matter, i can even be naked if i want to, outside the house he always checks what i'm wearing before i go out and whether it suits the occasion.
