MarleenTotok i have been wearing a chastity belt for years and my daughter has known about my belt for about 3 years.

Late. Did you hide it from her?

MarleenTotok my question to those who were in the same situation, what is the best way to help her?

Talk with her about implications, and if she wants you are her keyholder, you should talk about goals and conditions.

Laura Obviously because she sees yours.

As most of us with that tradition.

MarleenTotok I wouldn't be against it in principle!

Obviously.

            MarleenTotok my daughter wants a chastity belt

            How old is she?

            EDIT: Ok, I see the answer to my question in introductions. Since she is an adult, just buy her a belt - let her try it and see if she likes it.

              Some of the questions to ask yourself (and her):

              • Why are you wearing a belt?
              • Why does she want to wear a belt?
              • What would your role be in her belt wear?

              Like everyone above, I also do not think you should get in the way of her getting a belt, but I believe your most important role is to provide practical advice. Like how does belt wear affect your life, other than the parts it is supposed to affect of course. And what sort of belt she should get started with.

              If either of your interests is purely based in kink, that should probably be the end of your involvement; it is not good to mix sexual play and family. But if you both have other reasons, I would think it would be fair game for you two to pick out a starter belt for her together and for you to encourage her to get used to the sort of wearing schedule she is interested in, whatever that may be. From only wearing it when partying to prevent any drunk accidents to 24/7 wear aside from hygiene/health/safety breaks, the possibilities are endless.

              MarleenTotok

              My advice as a mother and belt user: talk to your husband.
              Maybe you as a wife are used to rules that are not acceptable for a daughter.
              Ask him what will happen with your rules, my husband at home does not make differences and says that if everyone at home does not have the same rules it is unfair.
              Then talk to your daughter and set your conditions and listen to hers.
              Once there is agreement buy her the belt, she is at an age where she has to start using it.

                  Yolanda she is at an age where she has to start using it.

                  @MarleenTotok Let your daughter decide if and how she wants to wear it. Nobody has to wear a belt.

                  Yolanda Then talk to your daughter and set your conditions and listen to hers.
                  Once there is agreement buy her the belt,

                  @MarleenTotok I would suggest starting by talking about the negatives of wearing a belt. If your daughter still wants it, buy it for her. Only when your daughter will be convinced that wearing it suits her, then TOGETHER you will set the rules for holding the key. If the order is reversed, your daughter will agree to something she has no real idea about. Of course, you can tell her a lot from your experience, but it will never replace her own experience.

                        MarleenTotok How old is your daughter? Letś her try it, but discuss with her all consequences, I mean keyholkding, rules,...

                            The important question is WHY.
                            Does your daughter want the belt because it is interesting to her as a kink or sexual toy? In this case getting involved as a parent would be highly inappropriate in my views.
                            If she wants the belt for serious use, she should be aware what that involves, namely not having control anymore once she has decided to start.
                            There are just two ways from where I stand;
                            If she wants to be able to get out whenever she likes, that means she does not really need a keyholder. She can use the belt by herself then for whatever reasons she sees fit. From sexual toy to protecting herself from either her own urges or sexual assault, whatever the reason is not your problem, because apart from buying it you are not involved.
                            If she however wants you as keyholder, the question of what her goals are becomes important. I would suggest to only become keyholder for a serious use (e. g. if she wants to stay a virgin until her wedding), but make it very clear to her that the belt will be used to make certain the set goal will be achieved and opting out later will not be possible.
                            Every serious wearer will come to a point where - at least temporarily - the inconvenience of wearing the belt will result in involuntary wearing. So the idea that every wearer must have the right to cancel the agreement at any time and be unlocked is not realistic, then she does not need to start wearing at all.
                            In addition as keyholder you are not just doing her a favour, you set your own rules. Just be fair about it and transparent from the start. If for example her wish is virginity to her wedding day and you disapprove of masturbation, you can set your rules about how much - if at all - will be permitted. It is then up to your daughter to enter that agreement and the belt with the rules as they have been agreed or to say she does not want the belt under your conditions.

                              curious

                              Well, it is important, I said that goals are important, but firstly the main target is that she understand the full implications, the problems, the advantages...
                              It is obvious that such implications depend heavily on goals, as you say, but firstly, a try of physical and emotional feeling as @Laura says can be the first step.

                                curious No! Keyholder never can edit rules. If locked person wants cb only to preserve virginity, keyholder CAN NOT say somethink about other rules like masturbation.

                                    Kaja This is not about changing agreed-upon rules, this is about negotiating the terms in the first place, before the belt goes on. And in that case, the worst-case result is that the prospective keyholder does not take the keys, so I do not think we are dealing with keyholder overreach here. Negotiation is a two-way street.

                                    Strongly disagree with "opting out later will not be possible" however. That goes against the principles of consent. There must be an agreement on how such arrangements can be dissolved, and the consequences of dissolving it. I do admit there is some merit to measures that discourage the use of retracted consent to break the self-imposed rules, but any avoidable delay between retracting consent and the belt coming off has to be something she explicitly wants.

                                        youdontknowme This is not about changing agreed-upon rules, this is about negotiating the terms in the first place, before the belt goes on. And in that case, the worst-case result is that the prospective keyholder does not take the keys, so I do not think we are dealing with keyholder overreach here. Negotiation is a two-way street.

                                        Exactly my point

                                          Thanks everyone for your replies 🙂

                                          I was just talking to my husband about this this morning. in principle, he has nothing against it. He also thinks we should support their wish.

                                          later we had a long talk with our daughter. or rather two conversations. meanwhile my husband and I talked alone again.

                                          we wanted to know how she imagines it and how she thinks it will be.

                                          basically she would like to wear a belt like that for serious use, no kink use (she knows, i wear them for serious and kink use) as she speaks, her goals are no sexual activities without serious releationship.

                                          We think we'll let her try wearing a chastity belt. But I don't have an old belt anymore, so she can try mine later if she wants. it won't fit 100%, but with small adjustments it should fit very well.

                                          she is still out, but she knows that she can try the belt later.

                                          I also think that I will tell her about the forum here, maybe she would also like to comment on the topic here.

                                          Renita Also a chastity belt on you looks nice.

                                          do you mean me?

                                          C-B How old is your daughter?

                                          she will be 19 soon!

                                          C-B but discuss with her all consequences

                                          we spent a lot of time on this today!

                                          C-B Letś her try it

                                          We give her this chance.

                                          Andrew If your daughter still wants it, buy it for her.

                                          she should first try out my belt and gain some experience with it. Just buy one straight away and then it won't be used, it's a bit too expensive.
                                          But we give her the chance to try it.

                                          Ines Late. Did you hide it from her?

                                          yes i did it. Beacause i wear mine in an mix of serious use and kink use.

                                          Laura Get locked in it for a while.

                                          she gehts her chance 😉

                                                          MarleenTotok she should first try out my belt and gain some experience with it

                                                          Of course, if possible, let her try wearing yours.

                                                              Andrew if possible, let her try wearing yours.

                                                              yes its possible. shurely it will not fits 100% but nearly! She could try my belt and the most of acessoiries if she would do them.
                                                              My belt is ready for an try, its cleaned and now only waiting for my doughter.

                                                                  MarleenTotok Acessories? You mean thighbands and/or a metal bra?? All other acessories I can think of, would be of a kinky nature, isn´t it :-)