My daughter wants her own belt!

MarleenTotok i am also asking for the difference?

A chastity belt without a secondary shield at all or with one she has a key from

MarleenTotok I didn't know it was called an abstinence belt

https://unwedchastity.org/d/194-abstinence-belt

MarleenTotok ts not possible on my My-Steel, its always on the shield.

You can order a Neosteel for her

MarleenTotok If she wears an belt without the secondary shield, she could mastrubate

And other non-penetrative sex. But I assume it's still her choice what she actually wants

MarleenTotok I didn't know it was called an abstinence belt.

That is because that definition is fairly specific to this forum, I have never encountered it elsewhere.

MarleenTotok If she wears an belt without the secondary shield, she could mastrubate! Mastrubate is sexual activity too.

If you and/or your husband want to have a hand in her keyholding schedule, you need to be on the same page as her when it comes to what sort of sexual activity is to be prevented and what wear schedule that translates to. Only that way can informed consent be given. If you only agree on "preventing sexual activity", but had different ideas of what this "sexual activity" refers to, any consent given was not sufficiently informed.

@"MarleenTotok"
I would suggest you make it very clear to her, that if she decides she really wants the belt, there will be no more masturbating. If she still wants to go ahead, best to get that agreement in writing so that later no arguments arise about what was intended or not.
And if it is signed and the belt arrives, you have to stay firm, no matter how much she complains that long abstinence becomes hard on her.

MarleenTotok her goal and why she would want the belt is no sexual activitys without an serious relationship.

would this include masturbation? i ask this because abstaining from masturbation is also much harder than "just" having random sex.

MarleenTotok If she wears an belt without the secondary shield, she could mastrubate! Mastrubate is sexual activity too.

and would she want/get breaks from the belt for that? or would abstaining from sexual activity (until a serious relationship) also mean she can't masturbate anymore

one more note, the older users here know that i am a fan of contracts. if your daughter really wants to do the thing with the belt, then the three of you should draw up a contract that includes all the important points. i.e. when the belt is to be worn, when cleaning breaks are to take place, who is to take care of it, etc.

MarleenTotok what is the best way to help her?

Tell her not to do it.

Kaja No! Keyholder never can edit rules.

Predictability and consent is a must for the wearer. What @Natalia's mother did to her with the thigh bands likely damaged their trust.

MarleenTotok Renita Also a chastity belt on you looks nice.

do you mean me?

Probably lost in translation. We have a number of non-english native speakers here.

MarleenTotok she should first try out my belt and gain some experience with it

Not going to lie, but its a little weird to wear your parents' "underwear"
-Then again hand-me-down clothes are common. I for whatever reason still have hand-me-down clothes that are so old that they predate australia's fibre optic network system, and have probably been in contact with mothball ofgassing than they've seen the light of day.

Renita Well done. First "no sexual activitys without an serious relationship", but the "she could masturbate".
I'm trapped the same way.

I'm not a girl, but I doubt it would be that satisfying unless the primary shield has a wide enough gap for your intimate organ to poke through.

Renita Are you sure? Would you let her out without a wedding ring?

Something interesting to note is that there are jewellery called something like chastity rings (unrelated to male cages) which are essentially reverse-wedding rings which you wear before you're married to demotivate sexual activity. They don't serve any real functional purpose though.

Christine Tell her not to do it.

Considering the daughter opened up to their parents about this, if they're truly serious they probably don't need prompting and are already mature enough.

zbovka I'm not a girl, but I doubt it would be that satisfying unless the primary shield has a wide enough gap for your intimate organ to poke through.

I don't have any experience on the subject, but I have the same anatomy : without the secondary shield, which is removed forum me in very specific situations, the slit of the belt is very narrow, the labia majora protrude, leaving the labia minora covered by them and the clitoral area, too.
I suppose some girl could do something, although the result would be an enormous amount of pinching of the labia and probably microhematomas as a result of the labia tapping against the steel.

Although no keyholder would ever allow it, I think even a belt without a secondary shield might be safer than we usually think.

Elephants are the only mammals that can't jump.

Maija I assume you mean extant land mammals. Because if we include aquatic mammals, there are some animals that I would like to see jump.

curious but make it very clear to her that the belt will be used to make certain the set goal will be achieved and opting out later will not be possible.

A predetermined complete lack of opt-out means a potential lack of voluntariness. Rather, the rules of resignation should be established, e.g. periods (at the end of a month, quarter or half a year) in which she can do so without consequences, or a delay after which she will receive the key if she wants to resign (e.g. a week), to give the opportunity for reflection. There may also be some "punishment" for failure to comply with the resignation rules, e.g. the inability to return to holding the key by the current keyholder.

curious the idea that every wearer must have the right to cancel the agreement at any time and be unlocked is not realistic,

I'd say it's very realistic, but not quite right because it spoils the idea of wearing a belt unless there are some constraints.

MarleenTotok But now, she asked for an unlocking of the belt after going to the bath-room. I got the key from my husband and if she is in her room, i will unlock the belt.

And what are her first impressions of a day in the chastity belt?