Christine Jonas Do you think your aunt is right?

Yes, I'd rather give her mom's keys.

Ah-hah. But your aunt is wise, as she clearly doesn't want to fight with one of you either. So, she thinks it is better to keep keys for both...

Christine Ofc, I guess she hates her belt as much as I did.

Do you think your mom is starting to see how hard chastity can be?

It can be pretty tough when you really want out and the belt says a firm "NO"!

Jonas Do you think you and your mom would fight about this?

Ofc, I guess she hates her belt as much as I did.

So would you wear your belt in order to keep the peace? 🤔

        Christine I didn't do anything I deserved a chastity belt for.

        I think you look at it the wrong way.
        The belt is not a punishment for doing something wrong but a tool to make sure chastity as a value is achieved despite temptations and urges.
        The question now is: Do you think chastity and purity is a value and worthy goal?
        Or are you in the 'free sex and masturbation whenever I want' group?

            curious World is not bipolar, there is no yes or no, black or white.

            For more than 99 % of people who want stay virgin is cb absurd and stupid solution. It take more that it gives.
            For more than 99 % person who dont want to masturbate it is the same.

            You have to every time weight up what profite and looses.

                Kaja
                Right. And this website is dedicated to serious use of chastitybelts for the purpose of actually staying chaste and not just for some erotic play.

                • Kaja replied to this.

                    curious But it is not mean that chastity belt is the best option for all around the world (or around this forum). Right?

                        Kaja

                        Well, this website exists for the reason of people using chastitybelts for serious goals rather than fetish and sexual play. As your have made it more than clear that you are against any serious use, it is more than obvious that you are in the wrong place here.

                        • Kaja replied to this.

                            curious You lie. I never say that Im against serious usage. I respect Ines, I respect Natalia and others who wants it freedomly.

                            I only dont tolerate any type of force at this area.

                            Your attack to me will not hide that you normalise home violence, abuse and inhibit human rights.

                            And what you say in your last two posts had not any link to what I have said.

                                @curious , you are right in that A LOT OF TIMES @Kaja uses non adequate words.
                                You are totally right that really she does not understand the serious usage of the belt, (I said it to her a lot of times, too), but when she does not offend to other users, she can express her opinion, and sometimes, with some extreme user, (with troll perfume), she was extraordinarily necessary.

                                I am surprised too that she remains here, since serious usage is not her arena, but of course further actions for her hard words, I will not kick her out if she is respectful.

                                  Kaja
                                  Again Insulting. I do not lie and I do not normalise home violence.
                                  Serious use of a chastity belt means there will be times when the wearer does not have the choice to take the belt off. As long as the wearer has agreed to that upfront, this is part of the deal and not violence.
                                  And if some people are making deals you would not make and then are bound by those deals and have to wear the belt partly involuntarily, this is what serious use is about.
                                  If you can get a tatoo or branding you cannot undo, you can get yourself into a belt and then be stuck in it.
                                  If after 3 weeks you hate the tatoo, it will still be there and you cannot easily remove it.
                                  If after starting in chastity voluntarily and after 3 weeks change your mind, we'll, bad luck, if the agreement you made in the beginning is long term, you have to live with the belt because just like the tatoo it is then part of your life.
                                  You will of course disagree and demand that you must be able to change your mind at any second. But this up front consent and giving up the right to change that upfront consent is what serious use is actually about.
                                  It has nothing to do with violence but everything to do with making decisions that have consequences and actually face the consequences of decisions made.
                                  You are probably too young and naive to realise that this is actually an important lesson life hopefully will teach you, because you have not learned it: Decisions have consequences and not everything can be changed back only because you cry "I do not want that anymore, I want to go back and pick the other option".

                                      curious Again Insulting.

                                      @Kaja's style of speech (full of abruptness and radicalism of judgment) is appropriate for her age. It can be irritating at times, but it usually gets to the heart of the matter.

                                      curious If after starting in chastity voluntarily and after 3 weeks change your mind, we'll, bad luck, if the agreement you made in the beginning is long term, you have to live with the belt because just like the tatoo it is then part of your life.

                                      No, she doesn't have to. She can just break the contract at any time and not put the belt back on or call the police if the keyholder doesn't give her the key to take the belt off. Therefore, a sane keyholder will not pressure anyone to wear a belt at all costs when sees the wearer's desperation.

                                      All the "involuntary" wearing of the belt you write about is really a form of voluntary wearing, only reluctantly, aimed at keeping the contract.

                                            Andrew
                                            Nobody on this forum is actually a completely Involuntary wearer by that definition.
                                            All have some Form of motivation to continue in the belt, be it financial or emotional motivations.
                                            But nobody here (as far as I have read) has been physically forced to wear the belt. So we can stop complaining about abuse and Involuntary belting even in the more extreme cases, right?

                                            And no, her age might explain her judgemental and abrupt speech, it does not make it appropriate. It simply indicates that she did not have the necessary sophistication and education how to behave herself appropriately. While I often disagree with @Ines and her English isn't the best either, she actually shows a way more respectful manner in the way she writes.
                                            But then, maybe the whole dispute how a chastity belt is approached is actually an issue that is connected to social classes? Higher classes tend to be more conservative, value certain behaviour much higher than lower classes and part of that conservative value system is stricter focus on serious chastity, which of course people from lower classes see as bad and want to fight, because it against their egalitarian views?

                                                curious completely Involuntary wearer by that definition.

                                                In fact, this was widely discussed some years ago. And I agree with that.
                                                In general, I think that girls that talk about strictly forced belting, are trolls.

                                                curious So we can stop complaining about abuse and Involuntary belting even in the more extreme cases, right?

                                                No, extreme cases are not welcome here, I can accept a bit of group pressure, or encourage of belting, but emotional payback or physical pressure is unacceptable.

                                                      Ines
                                                      I was referring to those cases that describe themselves as Involuntary wearers where, when you look at it more closely, the wearer is just not willing to face the consequences that would come to evade the rules the keyholder has set.
                                                      @Angelina would not have the rather comfortable life for a student, having her own car etc. @Christine would have had to face a life without financial support from her mother to which - being an adult - she was not entitled.
                                                      And in your family it is a way of tradition and peer pressure. But none of that is actually Involuntary in the strict interpretation of the word, because there is always a way not to wear the belt, if you are prepared to accept the consequences.

                                                      • Kaja replied to this.

                                                          curious Nobody on this forum is actually a completely Involuntary wearer by that definition.
                                                          All have some Form of motivation to continue in the belt, be it financial or emotional motivations.
                                                          But nobody here (as far as I have read) has been physically forced to wear the belt. So we can stop complaining about abuse and Involuntary belting even in the more extreme cases, right?

                                                          Emotional and financial issues can create real compulsion and, depending on the situation, may be enough to speak of involuntary wearing of a chastity belt. What I meant, however, was situations related to contracts (which you have repeatedly referred to), which do not have to have any serious element of coercion.

                                                          curious she did not have the necessary sophistication and education how to behave herself appropriately

                                                          Not everyone has the opportunity to receive such an education. Undoubtedly, she should work on her discussion and argumentation skills.

                                                          curious But then, maybe the whole dispute how a chastity belt is approached is actually an issue that is connected to social classes? Higher classes tend to be more conservative, value certain behaviour much higher than lower classes and part of that conservative value system is stricter focus on serious chastity, which of course people from lower classes see as bad and want to fight, because it against their egalitarian views?

                                                          Interesting consideration, but it seems to me that chastity belts are such a niche issue that it is difficult to formulate more general conclusions from the sociological point of view. I also have doubts about the generalization that the upper classes are more conservative than the lower ones. Looking at the situation in the countries of Central and Eastern Europe, I would say that it is exactly the opposite.

                                                                  Andrew Interesting consideration, but it seems to me that chastity belts are such a niche issue that it is difficult to formulate more general conclusions from the sociological point of view. I also have doubts about the generalization that the upper classes are more conservative than the lower ones. Looking at the situation in the countries of Central and Eastern Europe, I would say that it is exactly the opposite.

                                                                  I agree that this is just a theory that came to my mind and is unlikely to be proven either way considering the lack of available data.
                                                                  But when you look at how for example @Angelina or @Ines express their opinions who obviously have parents that are strongly focused on chastity as a value and in both cases obviously from families where higher education is considered important and compare that to Kaja, the difference is striking.

                                                                  Andrew Not everyone has the opportunity to receive such an education. Undoubtedly, she should work on her discussion and argumentation skills.

                                                                  True. But there is a difference to realise you have a lot to improve in this area and actually make an effort to get to a higher level versus those who loudly claim that their perspective is the only acceptable one and try to insult and bully everyone who is of different opinion. I have often found the second in people from so called "lower classes", who - instead of attempting in self-improvement - rather engage in fighting anything and everyone who is more sophisticated.
                                                                  This is actually an issue that I have observed in many societies, across national borders.

                                                                      curious This is stupid and dangerous! You cant mean it serious.

                                                                      For example - rape is every sexual contact without permision (it include situation that you are drunk and you cant say yes or not) and not only when somebody tie you, use weapon and violence.

                                                                          Kaja
                                                                          Again your language is insulting. Not everything you do not agree is stupid.
                                                                          If your father tells you: Either you wear a chastity belt or you get reduced to the minimum financial support he is required to provide to you by law, that is his right to do.
                                                                          And it is your right to either accept the belt or make do with whatever the law in your country does entitle you to as support. But anything your father provides on top of what is required by law is a matter of negotiation between you and him. That has nothing to do with rape or any form of violence, it is simply a matter of your preferences and negotating between adults.
                                                                          If you want your freedom, well, then have your freedom but with minimal financial support and as adults usually have to do - show how you can support yourself and be yourself responsible for your own life. And if you want to have more financial support, that is a matter of what is negotiated. If being in a chastity belt is the deal that is offered, it is up to you to take it or leave it.
                                                                          I know that would not be nice and even ethically questionable behaviour, but it is not illegal to demand you wear a chastity belt in return for more financial support.

                                                                            curious her English isn't the best either

                                                                            And? This is quite gratuitous...
                                                                            🤷🏻‍♀️

                                                                                Ines
                                                                                No offence intended. I simply wanted to make the point that @Kaja's rudeness cannot be explained away by blaming limited language skills.

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