Single again chastity
Ines but I am not absolutely against "bribery" either
I find that acceptable too.
Ines Regarding peer pressure
I consider the pressure you describe to be acceptable. It does not exhaust the signs of violence.
Ines there were girls here in other times who were told that if they did not wear a belt, the family would be destroyed because she would be rejected
This is clearly psychological abuse.
Ines I tend to think that in upper classes the use is higher
These guesses are quite logical, but not supported by any evidence.
Ines In certain more typically conservative circles they will worry about their daughters behaving properly
Generally, the more conservative the circles, the higher the value of virginity, although not always. I know something about it from my own experience
Andrew I consider the pressure you describe to be acceptable. It does not exhaust the signs of violence.
Probably it is fundamental in order to build a tradition.
Andrew This is clearly psychological abuse.
I do not have doubt about it.
Andrew These guesses are quite logical, but not supported by any evidence.
Well, South American and European societies are different in many ways, but I think that after talking to her, many things that @Barbara says can be extrapolated... or at least interpolate.
Well, I thought it was impossible for it to work.
I imagined it as something complicated and that it would not work.
It wasn't until @Raquel proposed that she use the belt and I saw how even with the somewhat random rules that my wife put on it the belt worked, that I realized my mistake.
Andrew These guesses are quite logical, but not supported by any evidence.
i also believe that the use of chastity belts is higher in upper social classes, if only because a custom-made belt is not cheap and many poorer families could not afford it
Rafael Well, I thought it was impossible for it to work.
understandable, but if you liked the basic idea, you could have gotten tips from @Ines and her family on how to make it work. well, the main thing is that you're happy with the situation now, all of you.
Jonas But your aunt is wise, as she clearly doesn't want to fight with one of you either.
But she wants me to wear a belt too.
Jonas Do you think your mom is starting to see how hard chastity can be?
She is starting to see that her belt prevent what it's supposed to.
Jonas So would you wear your belt in order to keep the peace?
I don't think so.
curious The question now is: Do you think chastity and purity is a value and worthy goal?
Or are you in the 'free sex and masturbation whenever I want' group?
First, but I don't need a chastity belt.
Angelina you can't really say that it's important to you that your mother can't have sex
Well, it was not important before, but she's convinced me.
Angelina you just want her to feel her own medicine
I wouldn't call it this way, she just needs a chastity belt.
Angelina well, the main thing is that you're happy with the situation now, all of you.
Yes, It has greatly improved many things in daily life, for the whole family, and the bonds between the girls have become much closer and that has united the three families, not because of the belt, but it has made it much easier, since they are very proud of their community and the husbands and fathers also have something else in common and, especially me, we learn from each other.
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Christine But she wants me to wear a belt too.
Only if you're both wearing (with your aunt acting as keyholder) would things be completely fair. I think this would stop all quarrelling.
Christine She is starting to see that her belt prevent what it's supposed to.
Has the belt you bought for your mom already stopped her from having sex? Are you sure? Would she tell you about these kinds of things? Will you firmly enforce what is now her no-sex-until-marriage rule?
Then it looks like your mom has ended up locked in the chastity she wanted for you. It's funny how things turn out. Either way, I'm sure @Tobbe won't mind, just as long as one of you is wearing a belt and it is doing its job.
What is necessary is not the point, because a belt - at least in most cases - is meant as a tool to ensure these values are adhered to even in times when your conviction to stick to your values is diminished (for example because you meet someone really nice and your hormones take over control of your thinking).
Besides: What about masturbation? Not doing that is part of purity as well (at least by the definition of your mum and aunt, who both want the belt to not only prevent sex but also that). So are you sure you do not need a belt when this part is taken into account too, because you never ever touch yourself?
Renita
Exactly. And the decision to wear a belt should not be based on whether you think you need it (because if it turns our you do, then it is too late) but rather on if you value chasitty. If you do, the belt is a reflection of these values and the negative side effect in everyday life is something you just have to learn to cope.
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Kaja
First: You are wrong and obviously you see things that are not there. And again - how else could it be - your accusations are again insulting and are not based on anything real.
Second: There are people who actually value chastity, even if you do not. I have no problem with your preference of freedom and using a chastity belt only as a sex toy. But I ask that you respect different opinions as well and do not constantly insult people with whom you disagree and imply that their values are wrong and sick.
Third: Did you actually look at the name of this forum? There is a big "CHASTITY" in the name. This forum is dedicated to ther SERIOUS use of chastity belts, not use as a sex toy. You do not go to a catholic church and loudly proclaim there that everyone is wrong and should become an atheist instead, do you? So, if you are against serious use of chastity belts and cannot see the value in chastity, why do you constantly act against what this forum is actually for, rather than finding a place that offers something suitable to your taste?
Four: I really hope @"Ines" starts acting against your constant insulting behaviour. You can disagree but you have to do it in a respectful way and you should consider where you voice your opinion and if this is actually the right place to promote your values of free sex and fetish / play use of chastity belts / cages.