curious I mean, what´s the point of a chastity belt if you can take it off like normal underpants in 3 seconds?
Staying in the habit of wearing it, and having something hard in the way of wandering hands.
Single again chastity
curious I mean, what´s the point of a chastity belt if you can take it off like normal underpants in 3 seconds?
It's helped me a lot in weak moments, 'specially at night.
And it is kind of like Ramadan. The discomfort and inconvenience reminds one of how one wants to live one's life and helps one concentrate.
And as usual you make no allowance for girls wanting to do this and being able to exert some self-control. Everyone must be locked up.
Christine She doesn't have to lock it. Also I see her often.
Then you should discuss clear rules about when and how she should wear the belt and how this can be organised.
Avery And as usual you make no allowance for girls wanting to do this and being able to exert some self-control.
But the situation with @Christine's mother is quite different from yours.
Angelina But the situation with @Christine's mother is quite different from yours.
OK. Just got carried away. One sentence too many.
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Avery It's helped me a lot in weak moments, 'specially at night.
This was not about you but about @Christine mom and that she should follow her own rules.
If I remember correctly, her rules pretty much were locked 24/7 while single with zero orgasms allowed.
So it is not me asking for that but I simply point out that not locking her belt does nothing to make her live according to her own rules.
we should never forget in this case that @Christine's mother kept her daughter in a belt for years against her will only because @Christine lived with her again. i think we must not compare the rules with a girl who voluntarily locks herself in a belt.
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curious when it comes to belts I think that rules are supposed to be equal for both genders.
Can't see why. Girls can get pregnant, guys can't. 1/4 of the world dresses women to the teeth and covers their hair, guys go about as normal, in the west many fathers secretly (or not so secretly) feel pride when their teenage sons get something [sex that is], and anger when their daughters are the ones getting got [sex that is].
No matter how you slice it, it is the girls who need protection (if they are amenable to it).
Avery
Depends on your perspective. You consider the belt as means to protect yourself. But a locked man is no threat to you and then you don't need to protect yourself.
But I did not think about protection but rather in terms of the benefits of waiting with sex until you find the right partner for a long term relationship, potentially even marriage. Strengthening emotional connection and not falling for the quick but superficial sexual attraction instead.
curious but rather in terms of the benefits of waiting with sex until you find the right partner for a long term relationship, potentially even marriage. Strengthening emotional connection and not falling for the quick but superficial sexual attraction instead.
Possibly our only real disagreement then is on the use of the belt in achieving the above objective. I use it as a tool to help me through periods when I get randy. You seem to think one needs it all the time.
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Avery
I think that situations might occur where self control is not strong enough to actively make a decision pro chastity in that situation. For that reason I would indeed advocate for using the belt on a 24/7 basis with periods of unlocking limited to times when it is almost certain nothing will happen that might be regretted later. That way finding oneself in a situation overwhelming the baseline decision for chastity, the belt will stop any such attempts and overturning the decision pro chastity cannot occur on impulse but only with pre planning as a well considered decision.
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curious I think that situations might occur where self control is not strong enough to actively make a decision pro chastity
I have been straightforward about having had some fails, (but none with boys).
curious For that reason I would indeed advocate for using the belt on a 24/7 basis
As I have said, and you have denied as recently as a day ago, you want everybody in belts. It's a difficult task. One dusts oneself off and keeps trying.
curious the belt will stop any such attempts
As I've said I keep the belt handy and use it fairly often at night in bed when the hands begin to wander.
Angelina maybe need is the wrong word, because everything you describe comes from social contexts or religious motivations, if you change the origin of these problems, these differences between girls and boys no longer exist
But when I leave the gym today at 4:30PM and it's almost dark the word need is probably the best to keep in mind.
@Avery
You are mixing up two very different things.
1) Belt as protection against sexual assault
2) Belt to protect you from giving in to sexual urges that would cause you to violate your goal of chastity.
Personally I don't consider number 1 a good use, because it is potentially getting the attacker more angry and violent. But if you are a victim, I can see how at least you would feel protected.
For number 2 is is of course all about how acceptable fails are to you. If I was making the decision to actually go for a no orgasm lifestyle, I would not want any fails. Or in other words, fails would be worse than the disadvantages of being in the belt 24/7. In your case obviously you consider fails as no big deal, so your priorities are reversed. Your approach is 'belt as little as possible and just as much as needed', while based on the different priorities, my approach would be 'belt as much as possible with breaks as little as is necessary.
Nothing from with either approach, I just think everyone needs to find the right approach for his/her goals.
curious Personally I don't consider number 1 a good use, because it is potentially getting the attacker more angry and violent. But if you are a victim, I can see how at least you would feel protected.
Usually your talking about things you know nothing about is amusing, but here it's potentially dangerous. The police advised me that the best defense is to make things difficult for the attacker. They want a quick hit with a victim who offers no resistance. So you yell, kick them, hit them, try to run, make noise, so they will leave. A b elt will put them off. They want to deal with cotton panties, not steel belts. We've talked about this before here. That's what they teach you in the many classes there are for women who live in urban areas.