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Sasha

it is certainly hard to be cheated on and certainly hard to build new honest feelings for someone afterwards, but still you should not lock your partner in a chastity belt against their will. in your case i am glad that you are interested in honest relationships now, good luck

      I had a scenario where a woman I once dated, was actually married and I didn't know that until many months later.

      The thing about people is that everyone is different, and if Carlos' girlfriend cannot see him as a different guy than her ex, then she is going through an issue she needs to solve first before entering the relationship. I don't know if she had time to forget her ex, but carrying that baggage into this current relationship is going to stress you out, Carlos. I would suggest working together with her to show that you are a different person, but she needs to put more effort into being honest about her views. That sniffing clothes crap is doubt, and if she isn't 100% set on working it out, then this woman may be a lost cause.

      Teach her to see everyone differently, not as the same scum that she met before.

        Raziel I agree in principle, though I think a little Latitude for her is warranted give that she just had a pretty major step imposed on her, no matter how necessary it was.
        That definitely has to be temporary, for her sake as much @carlos since I can't imagine that level of paranoia is healthy or pleasant.
        Edit: corrected word choices

          Raziel if Carlos' girlfriend cannot see him as a different guy than her ex, then she is going through an issue she needs to solve first before entering the relationship. I don't know if she had time to forget her ex, but carrying that baggage into this current relationship is going to stress you out, Carlos

          Strongly agree with this. ⬆

          But as @pestulens writes, it is a big change. The belt was already in place at the start of the relationship and also your acceptance of control wasn't in any real doubt back then. Time is required here.

          In terms of cheating, you are a different man and should not be treated as if you've been unfaithful when you haven't. That would be very wrong.

          Hope things are going ok @Carlos.

              Raziel I had a scenario where a woman I once dated, was actually married and I didn't know that until many months later.

              Chastity belt could be an answer

                  Laura For him or for her? Absurdity of both is the same.

                      Jonas In terms of cheating, you are a different man and should not be treated as if you've been unfaithful when you haven't. That would be very wrong.

                      right, i think that is the crucial point, every person is different

                      Renita With engraved marital status 😃

                      😂

                      PS: @Carlos Any Updates?

                          Laura
                          Ironically, I suggested it for foreplay, but she was extremely shy. She admitted everything later, and she lives in an abusive relationship, but enjoyed my company more, because I was kind and nurturing. I didn't bother with her since, because it was messed up being the side piece. This was way back in 2017, so it's all good now. Plus, I prefer to keep it monogamous.

                          There is more to this story, but it is off-topic and inappropriate. Nothing else about it is good anyway, so it's whatever.

                            Renita With engraved marital status

                            Do you have such engraving on your belt, just in case? 😂

                                Renita No, but probably I should, mentioning I'm still single.

                                sounds interesting, engravings in the belt like "unmarried daughter" or "wife" haha 😂

                                    Angelina sounds interesting, engravings in the belt like "unmarried daughter" or "wife" haha 😂

                                    "Unmarried"
                                    "UnUnmarried"

                                    That way you don't have to erase. You can just add. lol

                                        Renita No, but probably I should, mentioning I'm still single.

                                        But what would you need it for?

                                            Laura But what would you need it for?

                                            Because locked chastity belt produce a suspicion, that I'm actually married.

                                              Angelina
                                              I have 3 aunts and they each have 4-5 kids from different guys, so I don't know if it is them or the guy, but divorce is very common in my family. I once attended a school event for one of my cousins, and they asked for their last name, and I was like, it could be A..., B...., or C..., unless they kept our grandfather's last name, D.... They school officials thought I was being ridiculous, you could see it in their face they thought I was making it hard on them.