Steve Your situation is hard to judge in terms of "normal". If you feel good about it, that's OK. If you were suffering because of it, the situation would be different. The only thing that raises my doubts is whether the cage does not increase your shyness, and thus lowers the possibility of meeting your partner, which in turn is supposed to be a condition of release. What was the reason for your decision to wear the cage permanently?
Am i normal?
Damien
Thank you for your kind words.
Yes i want do find a woman to share my life with her. If its her wish too, i would also like to have children with her.
About having sex itself... Well i think it would be best if she gets my keys and the times i receive sexual pleasure is heavily restricted and controlled. I can pleasure her with other methods as much as she wants, if that is fulfilling for her.
Maybe that is actually true. I think a woman today might find it awkward if i tell her there won't be any sex during us dating.
Most of the people i knew when i was young lost their virginity at partys, being drunk or through other stupid means. I always wanted to save myself for someone special, that i truely love and who loves me the same. When i went 15-16, my urges grew very strong and i felt very distracted, so i decided to get myself locked up and strictly controlled.
Steve Most of the people i knew when i was young lost their virginity at partys, being drunk or through other stupid means. I always wanted to save myself for someone special, that i truely love and who loves me the same. When i went 15-16, my urges grew very strong and i felt very distracted, so i decided to get myself locked up and strictly controlled.
I'm going to push this topic a bit. Why do you care so much about virginity? Is your motivation in this regard religious?
Steve Maybe that is actually true. I think a woman today might find it awkward if i tell her there won't be any sex during us dating.
It depends on what environment you will be looking for your chosen one. I don't know what religion you are and what country you live in, but I suspect that there will be some online dating site for people with conservative values. There, virginity will be a plus, not a minus. I personally know a few couples who got married thanks to this type of portal.
Andrew
I am not religious. I just don't want to have sex with a stranger, or drunk at a party. I want it to be with someone special that i love. Masturbating is another thing. That urge was VERY distracting back then, but after 16 years of being locked it is rarely the chase.
I live in the countryside of austria. While i tested some sites like you suggested it is somewhat difficult in terms of distance and finding truly likeminded people.
Steve . But i am not uncomfortable with my situation most of the time, as being kept locked motivates me to focus on other aspects of my life.
All sounds good to me.
So the question is: do you think this is normal/good or should i get help?
So many on the forum looking at what everyone else is doing right now!!
I don't really understand why. Other people are living their own lives.
Breaking chastity to be normal doesn't make any sense to me. As said above, your chastity doesn't affect anyone else so it's your choice.
Jonas
I am always interrested in other peoples opinions as long as a discussion stays respectful 
as i am locked that long without ever experiencing sexual intercourse, i want to know what people think about it and what their arguments are.
I for sure won't get unlocked before i enter a serious relationship with a woman. First off all i wouldn't want it 99% of the time and second my best female friend/ keyholder made it very clear that she wont give me the keys otherwise after i gave her my consent all those years ago
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Steve as i am locked that long without ever experiencing sexual intercourse, i want to know what people think about it and what their arguments are.
Ah, absolutely understand this. Was just wary of the idea of seeking help for this choice and wondering if you're putting yourself under pressure to conform to others' ideas of what's right.
my best female friend/ keyholder made it very clear that she wont give me the keys otherwise
She must take it all very seriously to be so committed for so long. Does she regularly check you're still wearing? Why do you think she agreed to help? What does she think about your epic chastity marathon?
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Jonas
She is a very kind person i have a lot of fun with, but yes she takes her part as my keyholder dead serious. Its a titanium cage with a PA Hook, so i can't take it off without a heavy tool. She has to "check" regulary because she takes it off every week or two to look if everything is fine and i get cleaned down there properly. I dont mind she is supervising me, while i clean myself. She even does it herself sometimes if i had a bad week and could use a moment of gentle caressing.
When i told her about my wish to be locked up, she was like "wtf" first. But after some hours of talking she agreed on a trial phase if i really mean it seriously. We had some ups and downs at the start, but after all this years we never ended the trial phase. She even spend several hundred bucks and gifted me a custom fitted cage to my birthday.
She is very supportive all these years, but also she teases me alot amd makes jokes about it sometimes 
Steve
How many women have you asked out in the last six months?
MissBlossom
None. Living in the countryside is beautiful and very relaxing, but meeting a woman i feel comfortable talking about some topics is really hard. Most of em have a very specific opinion about how a man should be. Its even worse as everyone knows everybody and being to open about my lifestyle can lead to serious problems if they are too talkative about it.