KarimM I am really really sorry to hear about your wife's reason.
It's so wrong, but I do feel saver wearing one.
But originally my girlfriend persuaded me to try one so I would stop annoying her, when she was not in the mood. I never expected it to be a piece of my everyday outfit.
Not sure how to objectively measure it and if I would feel and act differently if wouldn't be wearing it. But our realitionship feels calmer and deeper now.
The thighbands came into the house much later, after Ann caught me having fun on my own while being a break. I really do hate them and they are definitely doing their job. Even just threatening me with having to wear them makes me stop stupid things (most of the time).
I was quite a handful as a teenager. Coming to terms with being different and feeling love different to everyone around me wasn't easy. My parents could not care any less what gender I prefer, as long as I am happy.
My mum has a great sense of humour and is an Ann fan. If we ever break up, I wouldn't be surprised if she adopts her just to make sure, she is still part of the family.
Anyway, I am a really lucky girl and as screwed up it is that I am wearing metal underwear, I never thought it would play such powerful games with me and that I ever would find it a normal part in my life.
If I would feel and say the same if my mum would have pushed me to wear one when I was a teeny, not sure to be honest.