Jonas Yep, otherwise you can break chastity whenever you like. You might as well just make a pinky-promise.
Some people consider a promise more unbreakable than a couple millimeters of steel.
Sabina thread
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Sabina I don't like wearing belt during such meetings, but Mum don't agree for this.
Did you argue about this? Nobody wants to go to a party in the belt, and no parents would let her daughter go there without the belt
Renita Btw, this is new for me too, she unlocks me belt for shower only when she has time to look after. Otherwise I have to wait.
What happened? Caught masturbating in the shower? 
Renita As I understand it's a cheap Chinese belt from a BSDM shop where your parents buy other toys.
An it's definitely not made just for you and it's not fitted perfectly.
Yes, its cheap chinese belt from Aliexpress, but it was customized by my father to fit my body very well. With all respect for your knowledge and experience, I think that we (me and my parents) know the best, what is secure for me and fit my body.
Renita Mostly likely, you have found a way. As for me I never stop trying.
No. I don't need this... 
Renita You only think, because you never work really secure belt.
Yes, I never wear such belt. But why do I need it when my current belt fulfills its role in 100 percent, taking into account the mode in which I wear it?
Renita Then why did you stop? Your belt makes dates less risky.
Because I don't like the prospect of possibly explaining to my boyfriend what's on my ass.
Renita It should be excluded.
It can't be excluded, because that's the basis of our agreement. I would never agree to a chastity deal I couldn't back out of.
Renita this is new for me too, she unlocks me belt for shower only when she has time to look after. Otherwise I have to wait.
Mom rarely supervises me while I wash, although she reserved the right to do so.
Renita We all meant the same, e.g. trying with the belt on.
I know about this, I only want to underline with this joke that (probably) I have more occasions for masturbation then most girls from forum.
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Laura What happened? Caught masturbating in the shower?
No, she might not have time that everything is worn and locked properly after a break.
Sabina but it was customized by my father to fit my body very well.
If it's customized it makes sense. Hopefully the lock has been replaced to more secure one.
Sabina I think that we (me and my parents) know the best, what is secure for me and fit my body.
If you can't bypass it, it's secure 
Sabina But why do I need it when my current belt fulfills its role in 100 percent, taking into account the mode in which I wear it?
No, you don't need it.
Sabina Because I don't like the prospect of possibly explaining to my boyfriend what's on my ass.
Ass? Maybe you mean waist? I'm in the same situation, I was trying to convince my mom to let me go to a first date without the belt and she refused. I was trying to pick the lock without success.
What are you going to do with it?
Sabina It can't be excluded, because that's the basis of our agreement. I would never agree to a chastity deal I couldn't back out of.
I meant "immediately". She should give you the key, but after a while. Say, next day.
Sabina Mom rarely supervises me while I wash, although she reserved the right to do so
Same. But it never happened so far.
Sabina I was trying convince my mother to let me go without the belt
Waste of time in my opinion if your mom is as strict as mine.
Well, if you like the belt - have you ever thought about wearing a chastity bra?
Renita What are you going to do with it?
Nothing by now. When I finish my studies, I will solve this problem somehow.
Renita I meant "immediately". She should give you the key, but after a while. Say, next day.
As I wrote, my mother would certainly try to delay the removal of the belt to give me time to think about the decision, but knowing her nature and commitment to the concept of consent, which is very important in the BDSM community, I cannot imagine her refusing to release me if I demanded it from her.
Laura Why do you need to wait 2 more years to talk to her about this and decide?
Because that's a terribly long time perspective for me. In two years nothing may change, but I can also have, for example, a husband and a child. Therefore, any rule-setting beyond few months or a semester doesn't make sense to me. I also know (we had a casual conversation about it once, without any specifics) that although my mother wants me not to lose my virginity prematurely, she is fully aware that the belt will make it difficult for me to establish serious relationship, which she wouldn't want.Virginity makes sense to her until the end of studies, eventually until marriage, if there are real chances of getting it shortly after graduation.
Ok, I must go to sleep...
Sabina When I finish my studies, I will solve this problem somehow
What is going to change after your graduation?
Sabina how I work out the dating issue with my mother
But prepared that she refuses to let you date without the belt, like she did it with your parties.
Furthermore she could make your wearing stricter because of this.
Sabina but I can also have, for example, a husband and a child
How can you have a husband if you don't date? And you don't date, because you wear the belt.
Sabina that although my mother wants me not to lose my virginity prematurely, she is fully aware that the belt will make it difficult for me to establish serious relationship, which she wouldn't want.
And what's the solution? If you don't wear a belt, you will have a chance to lose your virginity, otherwise you can't establish a serious relationship.
Sabina Virginity makes sense to her until the end of studies, eventually until marriage
But how about you?
Renita What is going to change after your graduation?
Graduation will end the learning phase in my life, for which my mother feels responsible.
Renita Furthermore she could make your wearing stricter because of this.
And I can say 'this arrangement doesn't suit me, I'm giving up the belt'
Laura How can you have a husband if you don't date? And you don't date, because you wear the belt.
After all, I can meet a boy (e.g. in college or on an internship) fall in love with him and give up the belt to be able to be with him.
I'm a bit wondering if your question isn't due to some cultural differences in understanding 'dating'.
Laura And what's the solution?
I know this situation is looped. The simplest solution will be to give up the belt. Other possibilities will depend on how life goes. It's hard for me to write anything more here. I have to think about different scenarios that could occur.
Laura But how about you?
On the one hand, it would be nice to keep my virginity until marriage. This is an ideal for me. On the other hand, life often verifies ideals. I am aware that if I do not meet a sensible boyfriend during my studies, I will have to approach it in a more active way. This may interfere with wearing the belt.
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Sabina Graduation will end the learning phase in my life, for which my mother feels responsible.
Will you move out from parents?
Sabina I can meet a boy (e.g. in college or on an internship) fall in love with him
But you avoid it because of the belt
Sabina I'm a bit wondering if your question isn't due to some cultural differences in understanding 'dating'.
'dating' means a romantic relationship with a person you have regular meetings with.
Please tell your definition
Sabina I have to think about different scenarios that could occur
Would you mind to share your thoughts because it's an interesting discussion?
Sabina On the one hand, it would be nice to keep my virginity until marriage
If you mom insists it too, it would be hard to give up the belt. I tried to convince my parents that I don' t need a belt anymore because I was mature enough. Still virgin and belted
Sabina I will have to approach it in a more active way. This may interfere with wearing the belt.
"active way" mean sex?
Sabina On the one hand, it would be nice to keep my virginity until marriage. This is an ideal for me. On the other hand, life often verifies ideals. I am aware that if I do not meet a sensible boyfriend during my studies, I will have to approach it in a more active way. This may interfere with wearing the belt.
How your dating will go depends on you and your attitude. From what you have written about yourself, your chastity is very important to you and you want to keep it until marriage. You can achieve this in two ways.
- you give up wearing the CB and don't let your feelings tempt you into premarital sex. If you are sure you going to make it do it.
- you continue to wear the CB and explain to your boyfriend from the bottom of your heart how important it is to you and that is why you are wearing the CB. It should successfully prevent any temptation before marriage.
If he really loves you and not only want sex with you in both ceses he will support you and wait.
Sabina Graduation will end the learning phase in my life, for which my mother feels responsible
I thought, that it's after high school.
Sabina And I can say 'this arrangement doesn't suit me, I'm giving up the belt'
You didn't say it when you were not let go to the party without the belt. Why could it be different next time?
Laura Will you move out from parents?
Probably no.
Laura dating' means a romantic relationship with a person you have regular meetings with.
Please tell your definition
Ok, I correctly suspected that the problem was in the meaning of the word. In Polish, this meaning is much narrower - dating is only the act of going on dates, e.g. to a restaurant, cinema or for a walk. It may or may not mean you are in a relationship with that person.
Laura active way" mean sex?
This means that I will start looking for a partner more actively (e.g. through a dating app) than relying on accidentally meeting someone. This will mean a greater likelihood of premarital sex, because in such relationships there is usually sex first, then marriage.
Laura Would you mind to share your thoughts because it's an interesting discussion?
There can be thousands of such scenarios, so I will rather not describe them, because life is not enough for that. I will limit myself to the one that would suit me best: In October I return to the university and meet a handsome, wise and modest boy of a similar age. We start meeting each other at the university on the occasion of classes and slowly make friends. Then we start meeting in our free time (we go on dates). We talk during them about our views on various matters, including sex. I tell him that I would like to keep my virginity until marriage and I tell him my secret and he accepts it. Our relationship develops and ends with a wedding. On my wedding day, my mother gives the key to my belt to my husband. And then we live happily ever after.
Laura I tried to convince my parents that I don' t need a belt anymore because I was mature enough. Still virgin and belted
If necessary, I will not convince anyone of anything, I will just declare that the belt wearing is over. I have a feeling that your family is much more obsessed with virginity than mine. My mother takes a very utilitarian approach to this issue, simply not wanting her daughter to have any difficulties in her studies due to pregnancy.
Joh your chastity is very important to you
Yes, chastity is something important for me, but no 'very', especially when I compare myself with other girls from the forum...
Renita I thought, that it's after high school.
That's how Google translate translated 'end of studies' from Polish.
Renita You didn't say it when you were not let go to the party without the belt.
Having to wear a chastity belt to meet girlfriends wasn't just too much of a problem for me. Therefore, I did not take advantage of the possibility of resignation, which will be definitive, so I cannot waste it.