Sabina thread

Laura

Sabina I wear secondary shield all the time.

It can be changed if it's detachable

Sabina She also refused to take my belt off several times.

On what occasion?

Sabina

Laura It can be changed if it's detachable

There is no need for change, but yes, change is possible.

Laura On what occasion?

Mainly before meetings/partys with friends (girls). I don't like wearing belt during such meetings, but Mum don't agree for this. Sometimes she wouldn't let me take off my belt before shower, when I told her that I am very aroused and she didn't have time to supervise me.

Renita

Sabina Belt is really tight and covers what should be covered

As I understand it's a cheap Chinese belt from a BSDM shop where your parents buy other toys.
An it's definitely not made just for you and it's not fitted perfectly.

Sabina I can't masturbate wearing it. All my attempts was unsuccesfull, so I stop them

Mostly likely, you have found a way. As for me I never stop trying.

Sabina That's why I think, that my belt is secure

You only think, because you never work really secure belt.

Sabina Yes, during high school, but it was short and purely platonic relationships

Then why did you stop? Your belt makes dates less risky.

Sabina but if I had demanded the key categorically, I would have gotten it immediately.

It should be excluded.

Sabina Mainly before meetings/partys with friends (girls). I don't like wearing belt during such meetings, but Mum don't agree for this

Not bad. But she should care more about security.

Sabina Sometimes she wouldn't let me take off my belt before shower, when I told her that I am very aroused and she didn't have time to supervise me.

Btw, this is new for me too, she unlocks me belt for shower only when she has time to look after. Otherwise I have to wait.

Sabina I stopped trying when I wear my belt...

We all meant the same, e.g. trying with the belt on.

Laura

Sabina I don't like wearing belt during such meetings, but Mum don't agree for this.

Did you argue about this? Nobody wants to go to a party in the belt, and no parents would let her daughter go there without the belt

Renita Btw, this is new for me too, she unlocks me belt for shower only when she has time to look after. Otherwise I have to wait.

What happened? Caught masturbating in the shower? 😂

Ines

Sabina All my attempts was unsuccesfull, so I stop them.

You would be the first girl on stop it!

Damien not from the natural and healthy pleasure of touching your body

Natural... I will not discuss it, even if it is not a absolute true, however, it is not healthy and much less desirable, I think that chastity is the absence of it, not the absence of successful ending.

Sabina

Ines You would be the first girl on stop it!

I was a bit imprecise - I stopped trying when I wear my belt... 😉

Ines

Renita Forcing you to wear mitts was the real purpose of you mother e.g. another sort of BDSM game. Not your masturbation, because she forbids it, but doesn't even try to enforce.

Agree.

Renita The first thing you need is better belt with better fit. It can prevent what you were trying to do without thighbands

I do not think so.

Laura However if I was you mom I would do punishments in following sequence. Secondary shield, thighbands, chastity bra

Yes, I think it is the usual sequence.

Sabina but from what I read they are not comfortable.

Well, the belt itself is not very comfortable, but we have to use it because is necessary, not because is comfortable.

Sabina

Renita As I understand it's a cheap Chinese belt from a BSDM shop where your parents buy other toys.
An it's definitely not made just for you and it's not fitted perfectly.

Yes, its cheap chinese belt from Aliexpress, but it was customized by my father to fit my body very well. With all respect for your knowledge and experience, I think that we (me and my parents) know the best, what is secure for me and fit my body.

Renita Mostly likely, you have found a way. As for me I never stop trying.

No. I don't need this... 😉

Renita You only think, because you never work really secure belt.

Yes, I never wear such belt. But why do I need it when my current belt fulfills its role in 100 percent, taking into account the mode in which I wear it?

Renita Then why did you stop? Your belt makes dates less risky.

Because I don't like the prospect of possibly explaining to my boyfriend what's on my ass.

Renita It should be excluded.

It can't be excluded, because that's the basis of our agreement. I would never agree to a chastity deal I couldn't back out of.

Renita this is new for me too, she unlocks me belt for shower only when she has time to look after. Otherwise I have to wait.

Mom rarely supervises me while I wash, although she reserved the right to do so.

Renita We all meant the same, e.g. trying with the belt on.

I know about this, I only want to underline with this joke that (probably) I have more occasions for masturbation then most girls from forum.

MissBlossom

Jonas Yep, otherwise you can break chastity whenever you like. You might as well just make a pinky-promise.

Some people consider a promise more unbreakable than a couple millimeters of steel.

Sabina

Laura Did you argue about this?

I didn't argue, but for a few times I was trying convince my mother to let me go without the belt. Unsuccesfully.

Renita

Laura What happened? Caught masturbating in the shower?

No, she might not have time that everything is worn and locked properly after a break.

Sabina but it was customized by my father to fit my body very well.

If it's customized it makes sense. Hopefully the lock has been replaced to more secure one.

Sabina I think that we (me and my parents) know the best, what is secure for me and fit my body.

If you can't bypass it, it's secure 😃

Sabina But why do I need it when my current belt fulfills its role in 100 percent, taking into account the mode in which I wear it?

No, you don't need it.

Sabina Because I don't like the prospect of possibly explaining to my boyfriend what's on my ass.

Ass? Maybe you mean waist? I'm in the same situation, I was trying to convince my mom to let me go to a first date without the belt and she refused. I was trying to pick the lock without success.
What are you going to do with it?

Sabina It can't be excluded, because that's the basis of our agreement. I would never agree to a chastity deal I couldn't back out of.

I meant "immediately". She should give you the key, but after a while. Say, next day.

Sabina Mom rarely supervises me while I wash, although she reserved the right to do so

Same. But it never happened so far.

Sabina I was trying convince my mother to let me go without the belt

Waste of time in my opinion if your mom is as strict as mine.

Laura

Sabina few times I was trying convince my mother to let me go without the belt. Unsuccesfully

Sounds right to me. If she is able to say "no", you are good

Max9 have you ever thought about wearing a chastity bra?

And share it with her mother 😂

Sabina

Renita What are you going to do with it?

Nothing by now. When I finish my studies, I will solve this problem somehow.

Renita I meant "immediately". She should give you the key, but after a while. Say, next day.

As I wrote, my mother would certainly try to delay the removal of the belt to give me time to think about the decision, but knowing her nature and commitment to the concept of consent, which is very important in the BDSM community, I cannot imagine her refusing to release me if I demanded it from her.

Max9

Well, if you like the belt - have you ever thought about wearing a chastity bra?

Sabina

Max9 - have you ever thought about wearing a chastity bra?

Yes, I like belt, but concept of steel bra is nonsense for me, because nipple stimulation don't work for me completly. So the bra will be only discomfort without any sense.

Laura

Sabina When I finish my studies, I will solve this problem somehow

And it's going to be soon. Do you expect to stop wearing the belt?

Renita

Sabina When I finish my studies, I will solve this problem somehow

What is going to change after your graduation?

Sabina how I work out the dating issue with my mother

But prepared that she refuses to let you date without the belt, like she did it with your parties.
Furthermore she could make your wearing stricter because of this.

Sabina

Laura And it's going to be soon

Minimum 2 years is 'soon'?

Laura Do you expect to stop wearing the belt?

That will depend on how I work out the dating issue with my mother. For now, I'm not bothering with this issue.

Laura

Sabina Minimum 2 years is 'soon'?

Not "soon", but not too long.

Sabina That will depend on how I work out the dating issue with my mother

Why do you need to wait 2 more years to talk to her about this and decide?

Sabina

Laura Why do you need to wait 2 more years to talk to her about this and decide?

Because that's a terribly long time perspective for me. In two years nothing may change, but I can also have, for example, a husband and a child. Therefore, any rule-setting beyond few months or a semester doesn't make sense to me. I also know (we had a casual conversation about it once, without any specifics) that although my mother wants me not to lose my virginity prematurely, she is fully aware that the belt will make it difficult for me to establish serious relationship, which she wouldn't want.Virginity makes sense to her until the end of studies, eventually until marriage, if there are real chances of getting it shortly after graduation.

Ok, I must go to sleep... 😉

Laura

Sabina but I can also have, for example, a husband and a child

How can you have a husband if you don't date? And you don't date, because you wear the belt.

Sabina that although my mother wants me not to lose my virginity prematurely, she is fully aware that the belt will make it difficult for me to establish serious relationship, which she wouldn't want.

And what's the solution? If you don't wear a belt, you will have a chance to lose your virginity, otherwise you can't establish a serious relationship.

Sabina Virginity makes sense to her until the end of studies, eventually until marriage

But how about you?

Sabina

Renita What is going to change after your graduation?

Graduation will end the learning phase in my life, for which my mother feels responsible.

Renita Furthermore she could make your wearing stricter because of this.

And I can say 'this arrangement doesn't suit me, I'm giving up the belt'

Laura How can you have a husband if you don't date? And you don't date, because you wear the belt.

After all, I can meet a boy (e.g. in college or on an internship) fall in love with him and give up the belt to be able to be with him.
I'm a bit wondering if your question isn't due to some cultural differences in understanding 'dating'.

Laura And what's the solution?

I know this situation is looped. The simplest solution will be to give up the belt. Other possibilities will depend on how life goes. It's hard for me to write anything more here. I have to think about different scenarios that could occur.

Laura But how about you?

On the one hand, it would be nice to keep my virginity until marriage. This is an ideal for me. On the other hand, life often verifies ideals. I am aware that if I do not meet a sensible boyfriend during my studies, I will have to approach it in a more active way. This may interfere with wearing the belt.

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