• PollFemale
  • just for fun and interest, should i wear a belt after after the wedding?

Greatcornbow Or they can even have a 3rd person KH!

Lots of things are up in the air, but I am reasonably certain Angelina will NEVER let anyone but Camryn KH for her, and even that's a long shot.

    Angelina
    From a humanist perspective I'd say: Do whatever makes life worthwhile to you (as far as harm to self or others is reasonably limited.)
    From a hedonist perspective I'd say: Have fun!
    From a chastity romantic perspective I'd say: I want positive chastity careers. So if there is a chance - and since this is a dedicated chastity forum and you are battle-hardened veteran - a clear yes.

    Actually, I'd be most happy, if these perspectives could be somehow integrated. I'll be hopeful that your spouse (finally) and you will work on your commitment. May you find real joy and do whatever is right to protect and cherish it.

    Angelina As you don't like wearing it and seemingly don't have any benefit from it I think you shouldn't be belted.

    I think many girls/womans continue... me too

    6 days later

    Greatcornbow Have you discussed with your partner? Maybe matching belts with interchangeable locks.

    no, so as i mentioned above this survey is out of interest only πŸ˜ƒ

    Saintprudence Lots of things are up in the air, but I am reasonably certain Angelina will NEVER let anyone but Camryn KH for her, and even that's a long shot.

    right, my wife would be the only one in my life i would give a key to again πŸ™‚

    PS: currently the tendency seems to be yes, but at the moment i still enjoy my freedoms. i am overwhelmed how many have already participated in the survey, even though it is only theory πŸ™‚

      Angelina Think about it carefully If it the right thing to do. And If you came to the conclusion it feels right do it.
      Otherwise keep yout belt out of sight. If and only If the right time comes you will remeember where it is.

      Angelina no, so as i mentioned above this survey is out of interest only

      I think there's no alsolute one sizw fits all answer, It depends in the individua;ls and the dynamics between them biut IMO it can surely be an option.

        Greatcornbow I think there's no alsolute one sizw fits all answer,

        i know that, i created the survey because many users here asked if i could imagine to wear the belt again after the wedding or to wear it again someday πŸ™‚

          Angelina i know that, i created the survey because many users here asked if i could imagine to wear the belt again after the wedding or to wear it again someday πŸ™‚

          On reflection I think the answer depends on what will be the basis of your future sex life. If you want to agree that your partner is to be sole decision maker in this then it can be ideal. It's all a matter of control and would you want to cede this?

            Greatcornbow It's all a matter of control and would you want to cede this?

            i would give up everything for my wife, even my sexual freedom, but that is only theory because we have chosen an equal rights marriage.

              Angelina i would give up everything for my wife, even my sexual freedom, but that is only theory because we have chosen an equal rights marriage.

              So, does that mean that in the end, you will both give up your respective sexual freedom to each other? πŸ˜›

                youdontknowme So, does that mean that in the end, you will both give up your respective sexual freedom to each other? πŸ˜›

                We would both do it, but we don't (at least it's not planned) πŸ˜‰

                  Angelina We would both do it, but we don't (at least it's not planned) πŸ˜‰

                  It's not unkown for a couple to be both belted, each KH of the other. Hal of Tollyboy told me he made some for this.

                    Greatcornbow It's not unkown for a couple to be both belted, each KH of the other.

                    of course, any couple that enjoys it can do so, but we prefer to enjoy the new freedoms at the moment. πŸ˜ƒ

                    • Joh likes this.
                    3 months later

                    Sasha Now that I'm in the full chastity gear set, almost wondering what people would say about me after marriage

                    That depends on how you've developed and whether you're sure you won't fall back into old habits. Then I would congratulate you on what you have achieved and that you are happy in your marriage. I assume that you have found the right man who gives you what you need to be happy.

                    Sasha almost wondering what people would say about me after marriage lol.

                    You wear the belt for a specific reason that is not related to any specific views on the morality of masturbation. Unless your future spouse is planning to continue your remedial education (and I feel like you should only marry after you believe you can handle independence), the belt, if it were used, would fulfill a different purpose than it does now.

                    I always feel as if it is a waste for someone who already has the experience and training for long-term wear to turn their back on chastity completely, but you and your spouse would have to define any new use - and you should probably also spend some unbelted time between being belted for disciplinary/educational reasons and being belted for... ahem... marital reasons, just to put a clear dividing line between those uses.

                      youdontknowme I always feel as if it is a waste for someone who already has the experience and training for long-term wear to turn their back on chastity completely

                      As a totally personal opinion, for me it sounds like "after so many years of training to be in jail it's a waste to turn back to it. Even if free you can add some bars to your house..."
                      Personal idea NOT applied to @Sasha

                        Milord I believe that chastity can be a wonderful thing (but one that requires a lot of practice before you can turn it into a lifestyle thing), and with regular releases it would be a very different experience from the one she has right now. To my naΓ―ve mind, it would be more like wearing orange or striped clothes after a jail sentence, rather than voluntary house arrest.

                        But ultimately it is something she has to decide for herself.

                        Sasha
                        Well, that is up to you.
                        How do you want your future to be?
                        Do you want to continue being belted (if so, how strictly)? What do you expect from your husband, etc?