OctaviaSunwilds
I agree with John. If you don't feel happy talk to your keyholder. I am surprised since you have a real life kh . You now have direct real life contact and he can see your mood. Or the intention of your real life kh is not what you are looking for.

It is a little over four weeks ago you asked for your keys and I gave them back immediately after rescuing you from an out of control Chaster lock. I was a bit afraid that you would give your keys to someone you didn't know well yet and he might take advantage of the situation. Now some four weeks later you have doubts. Does he really like you somehow or is he only interested in controlling you? Could he even be a bit sadistic? How well do you know him? And what about DID? Does he take that into account?

There should be a mutual agreement of some sort. Being denied to unlock is what chastity is about of course. But if that makes you really unhappy something must change before you really become unhappy (or worse). Or like John said if you can't change it end it. If you are afraid not having a kh you are welcome to come back. I can step in as long as needed like we did before. You know how to contact me if you like. I think you were more happy then. Think about it. The decision is yours.

    23 days later

    OctaviaSunwilds
    You are silent a long time now. Can you give us an update? How are you doing now? Are you happy about the situation with your belt and kh? Has anything changed? Let us know.

      a month later

      @OctaviaSunwilds

      I guess we will not hear anything from Octavia anymore. On discord it looks like she no longer is friends or maybe she closed her account, I don't know. I do know she is visiting this forum now and then. Not hearing if she is okay worries me. She was not fully happy with her new real life kh because he didn't let her out of her belt anymore. But there is nothing one can do and maybe she doesn't want it for whatever reason.
      Hopefully @OctaviaSunwilds will let us know how she is doing and if she is okay.

        4 days later

        Found out that @OctaviaSunwilds still has her Discord account. It looks like she has blocked me which I cannot understand after all we went through. And no I did not bombard her with messages that might give her a reason to do that. When she got her new real life kh I asked if it was goodbye now? Her last message was: "We can still talk" and that was it. We know she has DID so maybe her brain works in a way difficult for others to follow. Why dispose contacts?

        I can only hope she will be happy now. Maybe one day we will hear of her again, maybe not.

        @OctaviaSunwilds if you read this let us know how you are doing. There are more people on this forum concerned about you.

          Padre That honestly sounds a lot like an extremely controlling/abusive relationship she rushed into, where this other person has immense power.
          I hope Iā€™m very wrong though of course

              Sasha
              I am afraid for that. There is nothing we can do. It is her life and she has to deal with it one way or the other. Hopefully she can call for help locally (police) if needed.

              An other scenario could be knowing she is 19 maybe she easily discard her contacts because she does not see the value. Or one of her five personalities decided to do so. Or her new kh doesn't like her to communicate with others and blocks them. Or she so much ashamed for what happened to her that she doesn't want to the world to know. Then it is better she tries to seek for help. It is all speculation.

              Let's hope for the best for her.

                  Padre

                  i think the problem is that because she is a bit mentally unstable, she can be easily manipulated and if someone doesn't mean her well, she might not realise it. i really hope we are wrong

                      Angelina
                      True. We can only wait and see if she will tell us what is happening and hoop for the best.

                        Seems @OctaviaSunwilds didn't block me but just deleted our friendship connection on Discord. Maybe she wanted to hide our conversation for her kh. Feels less bad than being blocked. I have sent a friendship request. Maybe she will accept it one day. We'll see. Now we have to wait until we hear something if that will ever happen. Hopefully she will tell what happened here on this forum one day.

                          Padre

                          let's hope for the best, if she accepts your friend request and writes you something, please let me know if she's okay. no detail, just if she's okay

                              a bunch of life stuff happened, ive moved out and i started a new dynamic with my roommate kind of recently, and thats going way better

                                OctaviaSunwilds
                                Glad to hear you are okay. I was really worried about you also because contact was lost.

                                  OctaviaSunwilds im fine guys im just not online as much, lol

                                  nice to read that you are doing well, i would also like to read how your new dynamic is developing with your key holder, but that is your decision šŸ™‚

                                    we have a points dynamic, pretty much the idea is i can do things to earn points (chores, self work kind of things, etc) and when i reach 100 points i can unlock to have a bit of me time for an hour. i dont think its all that balanced since it takes me a bit to get to 100, since every task only gives me 1-3 points and i can only do so many in a day, but its much nicer then my last one

                                    the rest of the alters are kind of on board. they cant just unlock whenever they feel since he has all the keys but everyone has their own safeword in case they get too uncomfortable, its just a rule that if someone else fronts and we aren't in the belt, we have to put it back on whenever they're comfortable