Vivian's belting journey.

VivianChaste

Thought id make a proper post regarding my goals/struggles regarding my future belt. I also see this as a way to change my lifestyle overall while im at it and i would to brainstorm with the people here.

So main points right now

Belt and thigh bands, what do i need?
training to 24/7 wear and solo keyholding
chothing, dress/skirt styles. What to try?
lifestyle, i could schedule my day to day to make myself a more proper lady or not!

And more as it comes up.

pestulens

I'll summarize what I can, but keep in mind this is mostly cobbled together from what I have read here and not from personal expereance so take it with a grain of salt.

VivianChaste Belt and thigh bands, what do i need?

For the belt itself, the most important thing is to get a good fit. This is true for both comfort and security. You can get a custom-made one from several manufacturers if you are willing to spend the money, but they are expensive so that may not be an option. Alternatively, you can get a highly adjustable one relatively cheaply but you will probably have to do quite a bit of assembly and fitting yourself and in some cases, the quality is significantly lower.

For thigh bands, you may not need them at all, but if you think you might want/need them, be sure your belt has anchor points (D-rings) on the sides and possibly the crotch to attach them to.

VivianChaste training to 24/7 wear and solo keyholding

Regardless of what kind of belt you go with, expect to need to do some final fitting to make it comfortable to wear. Once that is done, it will take some time for your body to adjust so start with sort durations and gradually build-up. Also note, once you reach "24/7" that still requires at least semi-frequent unlocks for cleaning (both the belt and your body) and skin care. How frequently varies from person to person and set up to set up but don't expect to be able to throw away the key and call it a day.

VivianChaste chothing, dress/skirt styles. What to try?

lots of good advice here: https://unwedchastity.org/d/32-hiding-your-chastity-belt

VivianChaste lifestyle, i could schedule my day to day to make myself a more proper lady or not!

This one I can't help you with but you will probably get lots of opinions.

Hope that helps

Milord

VivianChaste

While everyone is different, solo keyholding need a tremendous amount of willpower
If you have it, probably the belt is useless, and will work only as a kink. While this is a legitimate use, his purpose will be missed.

Chastity journey, like all the things that require a daily commitment, must be very well planned.

Wearing a belt is much more impactful than a cage. It’s limiting in more way you imagine (not because you are dumb, but because I was amazed too when I started it).
Also, based on your personal situation, be aware that also others can be impacted too.

Padre

VivianChaste Belt and thigh bands, what do i need?

Maybe you want a chastity bra as well? Combined with belt and thighbands you would be protected very well.

VivianChaste solo keyholding

It may help to find a key holder. It may speedup progress in an good way. The fact alone having to ask for the key may be helpful even if you know you will always get your keys. If you don't have anyone near your place you may consider a key safe that can be controlled remote via the internet.

Rina

VivianChaste

VivianChaste Belt and thigh bands, what do i need?

For long term wear, I'd recommend ones that are custom made, like My-Steel, Neosteel, or even Fancy Steel. They all offer ones that may be suitable for your situation as well.

Thigh bands... they aren't really necessary, but if you want to have thigh bands in mind, when you choose a chastity belt, get at least two d-rings attached to its each sides and / or one additional d-ring on crotch area (which would be used for chains that connects chastity belt and thigh bands)

Chastity bra is kind of another addition too if you want additional security but I heard it is hard to manage wearing it in daily life, especially in hot weather.

VivianChaste training to 24/7 wear and solo keyholding

Solo keyholding is kind of hard without using a timed lockbox, I'd recommend having a keyholder you can 100% trust, if possible. 24/7 wear does still require periodic release for cleaning and maintaining hygiene of both body and belt.

VivianChaste chothing, dress/skirt styles. What to try?

There may not be much differences in clothing if you choose to only wear a belt, but if you want to add thigh bands, you will have to wear skirts / dresses only.

VivianChaste lifestyle, i could schedule my day to day to make myself a more proper lady or not!

Can you clarify more about being a "proper lady"? There are no single way to define "proper lady", when it comes to lifestyle, since it is very subjective aspect.

Milord

pestulens
I’m appalled on how much your advices are useful compared to mine… back to school for Milord I suppose

VivianChaste

youdontknowme

exactly! i am in that camp having it be locked as much as possible is mostly from a gender euphoria perspective rather than kink

pestulens

thank you! dont worry i am aware of cleaning breaks if need be i can also use a cage i already got while i prep for the belt

Padre

i have yet to see where to find one, but i do want a bra

Rina

bra and thigh bands are something i desire mostly to be totally secure. maybe something i will work towards but do want. and i will keep the rings in mind, also connectors for a future bra?

as for clothes, i am willing to only wear skirts/dresses

as for proper lady, this is mostly just me being me i guess. but i see this belting journey as a way to change how i do things overall. so with proper lady i suppose i mean tightly scheduled, studies alot, lots of chores, way less screen time maybe even. going backwards a bit i guess haha. i will still have to define this or what i want

as regarding a holder, irl it will be tough to have one, i would need one from here i reckon

youdontknowme

Milord If you have it, probably the belt is useless, and will work only as a kink. While this is a legitimate use, his purpose will be missed.

From what I have heard some locked trans girls say, taking the penis out of the picture can be its own reward from a gender affirmation standpoint, rather than a pure kink perspective.

Milord

youdontknowme You are right, apologize for not considering this point of view

Padre

VivianChaste i have yet to see where to find one, but i do want a bra

You could start with a cheap Chinese bra to find out how it is wearing one. If you like it you can always look for a made to measure one from My-Steel for example. To make it even more secure you could have chains connecting the bra to the belt also. Then you will be quite sure it stays where it should be.

So it will be wise to have D-rings at the side of the belt and an extra D-ring in the crotch area for the thighbands. Then you can have a chain pulling your legs together when you will be sitting. Very lady like.

Rina Solo keyholding is kind of hard without using a timed lockbox, I'd recommend having a keyholder you can 100% trust, if possible.

A timed lockbox is better than nothing. But a real KH is much better. Remote KH is possible if you find someone you can trust. Trust is very important of course. You can also think of a combination of a timed lockbox and a KH in order to get to know each other and build trust. You can set a long time for the lockbox for example. And if you need to be unlocked before the box opens the KH can unlock. You can set a guaranteed maximum time then. If the trust builds you can increase the time for the lockbox.
There may be other options as well. Give up control and being completely at the mercy of your KH may be a next (big) step. If your KH says no it really is NO then. Then the experience will be very real.

Renita

VivianChaste also connectors for a future bra?

Definitely.

youdontknowme

I would say thigh bands might be a good experience for practicing a more ladylike walking or sitting posture, but for the purpose of taking your penis out of your sex life, they are largely superfluous, a belt is perfectly capable of doing that by itself. Worn in public, thigh bands also increase your risk of accidents that cause injury and your chastity belt being detected, may, depending on length, add difficulty to climbing stairs and generally make it harder to respond to emergencies. If you decide to accept that risk and wear them anyway, regular breaks from them for exercise are still recommended for health reasons.

Angelina

VivianChaste lifestyle, i could schedule my day to day to make myself a more proper lady or not!

i would exclude this point from the others because everyone here would probably define what an proper lady is differently.

apart from that, you have already received a lot of good tips, which i can only agree with. Thighbands are actually unnecessary for you, but if you want some, remember the D-rings, these have to be ordered separately.
i don't know if you need a bra, but i know that mysteel offers the bra for both genders (don't know what the difference is), it probably fits better anatomically then. it might just be something that matches your outside even more to your inside, although you can of course also wear a normal pushup for that

Milord

Padre There may be other options as well. Give up control and being completely at the mercy of your KH may be a next (big) step. If your KH says no it really is NO then. Then the experience will be very real.

But ALWAYS with emergency key at home

pestulens

Milord or some tools if it comes to that.

Laura

Milord But ALWAYS with emergency key at home

This destroys the whole idea

Milord

pestulens

No, in case of emergency key is the simplest way to get out. As you know my wife had a very bad accident she is still recovering. Luckily she was unbelted but, even with key, if belted it would have been impossible to remove even with key

In emergency you have to use the fasted way to do things, and for getting out of the belt the fastest way is the key. That's all.

Milord

Laura

You mean you have no emergency key?

Angelina

Laura This destroys the whole idea

Milord But may I gently ask you and @Tjc to avoid endorsing an unsafe behavior?

so, having an emergency key is always the better alternative, but the system will only work if the key holder notices when the key is being used. @Sara2001 had a good system for this with sealed envelopes, the keys were always accessible but never without the knowledge of the key holder. however, an emergency key only helps if it is quickly accessible in an emergency. in my case, the emergency key (in the safe in the living room) would have been of no use when I was out and about

VivianChaste Well uh thats unexpected. Im still unsure as i dont even have a keyholder yet to worry about keys...

sorry if the discussion is drifting a bit, but maybe you can take something with you in case you find a key holder 😉

pestulens

Not necessarily, standard emergency key in a tamper-evident container. It's there in case you need it, but you can still be held accountable for how you use it. If you don't live with your keyholder, it's the only way I can think of to set up a keyholding relationship safely.

Of course, It somewhat depends on what the point is in the first place, but I think for @VivianChaste's goals it would work fine.

Rina

pestulens standard emergency key in a tamper-evident container

In my opinion, it sounds the best way. If keyholder does regular check-ins of that container, since it's tamper evident, chastity belt rules both wearer and keyholder agreed upon would be able to be enforced. (So if such container is tampered, wearer will have to explain why emergency key was used.)

Laura

Milord You mean you have no emergency key?

Right

Tjc

Milord In emergency you have to use the fasted way to do things, and for getting out of the belt the fastest way is the key. That's all.

The fastest way to remove a belt is with tools used by emergency medical services. This damages or destroys the belt but that is minor compared to the need to remove a belt in an emergency. Keeping this in mind means not having to rely on an emergency key. In am emergency, it may not be possible for the wearer to access the emergency key or tell others how to find it or use it. Removal with emergency tools is fast and easy for responders. This is, of course, only our opinion based on my experience as a long time wearer, without an emergency key.