VivianChaste

VivianChaste Belt and thigh bands, what do i need?

For long term wear, I'd recommend ones that are custom made, like My-Steel, Neosteel, or even Fancy Steel. They all offer ones that may be suitable for your situation as well.

Thigh bands... they aren't really necessary, but if you want to have thigh bands in mind, when you choose a chastity belt, get at least two d-rings attached to its each sides and / or one additional d-ring on crotch area (which would be used for chains that connects chastity belt and thigh bands)

Chastity bra is kind of another addition too if you want additional security but I heard it is hard to manage wearing it in daily life, especially in hot weather.

VivianChaste training to 24/7 wear and solo keyholding

Solo keyholding is kind of hard without using a timed lockbox, I'd recommend having a keyholder you can 100% trust, if possible. 24/7 wear does still require periodic release for cleaning and maintaining hygiene of both body and belt.

VivianChaste chothing, dress/skirt styles. What to try?

There may not be much differences in clothing if you choose to only wear a belt, but if you want to add thigh bands, you will have to wear skirts / dresses only.

VivianChaste lifestyle, i could schedule my day to day to make myself a more proper lady or not!

Can you clarify more about being a "proper lady"? There are no single way to define "proper lady", when it comes to lifestyle, since it is very subjective aspect.

              youdontknowme

              exactly! i am in that camp having it be locked as much as possible is mostly from a gender euphoria perspective rather than kink

              pestulens

              thank you! dont worry i am aware of cleaning breaks if need be i can also use a cage i already got while i prep for the belt

              Padre

              i have yet to see where to find one, but i do want a bra

              Rina

              bra and thigh bands are something i desire mostly to be totally secure. maybe something i will work towards but do want. and i will keep the rings in mind, also connectors for a future bra?

              as for clothes, i am willing to only wear skirts/dresses

              as for proper lady, this is mostly just me being me i guess. but i see this belting journey as a way to change how i do things overall. so with proper lady i suppose i mean tightly scheduled, studies alot, lots of chores, way less screen time maybe even. going backwards a bit i guess haha. i will still have to define this or what i want

              as regarding a holder, irl it will be tough to have one, i would need one from here i reckon

                        I would say thigh bands might be a good experience for practicing a more ladylike walking or sitting posture, but for the purpose of taking your penis out of your sex life, they are largely superfluous, a belt is perfectly capable of doing that by itself. Worn in public, thigh bands also increase your risk of accidents that cause injury and your chastity belt being detected, may, depending on length, add difficulty to climbing stairs and generally make it harder to respond to emergencies. If you decide to accept that risk and wear them anyway, regular breaks from them for exercise are still recommended for health reasons.

                        VivianChaste lifestyle, i could schedule my day to day to make myself a more proper lady or not!

                        i would exclude this point from the others because everyone here would probably define what an proper lady is differently.

                        apart from that, you have already received a lot of good tips, which i can only agree with. Thighbands are actually unnecessary for you, but if you want some, remember the D-rings, these have to be ordered separately.
                        i don't know if you need a bra, but i know that mysteel offers the bra for both genders (don't know what the difference is), it probably fits better anatomically then. it might just be something that matches your outside even more to your inside, although you can of course also wear a normal pushup for that

                          VivianChaste i have yet to see where to find one, but i do want a bra

                          You could start with a cheap Chinese bra to find out how it is wearing one. If you like it you can always look for a made to measure one from My-Steel for example. To make it even more secure you could have chains connecting the bra to the belt also. Then you will be quite sure it stays where it should be.

                          So it will be wise to have D-rings at the side of the belt and an extra D-ring in the crotch area for the thighbands. Then you can have a chain pulling your legs together when you will be sitting. Very lady like.

                          Rina Solo keyholding is kind of hard without using a timed lockbox, I'd recommend having a keyholder you can 100% trust, if possible.

                          A timed lockbox is better than nothing. But a real KH is much better. Remote KH is possible if you find someone you can trust. Trust is very important of course. You can also think of a combination of a timed lockbox and a KH in order to get to know each other and build trust. You can set a long time for the lockbox for example. And if you need to be unlocked before the box opens the KH can unlock. You can set a guaranteed maximum time then. If the trust builds you can increase the time for the lockbox.
                          There may be other options as well. Give up control and being completely at the mercy of your KH may be a next (big) step. If your KH says no it really is NO then. Then the experience will be very real.

                                Padre There may be other options as well. Give up control and being completely at the mercy of your KH may be a next (big) step. If your KH says no it really is NO then. Then the experience will be very real.

                                But ALWAYS with emergency key at home

                                    Not necessarily, standard emergency key in a tamper-evident container. It's there in case you need it, but you can still be held accountable for how you use it. If you don't live with your keyholder, it's the only way I can think of to set up a keyholding relationship safely.

                                    Of course, It somewhat depends on what the point is in the first place, but I think for @VivianChaste's goals it would work fine.

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                                      pestulens

                                      No, in case of emergency key is the simplest way to get out. As you know my wife had a very bad accident she is still recovering. Luckily she was unbelted but, even with key, if belted it would have been impossible to remove even with key

                                      In emergency you have to use the fasted way to do things, and for getting out of the belt the fastest way is the key. That's all.

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                                          pestulens standard emergency key in a tamper-evident container

                                          In my opinion, it sounds the best way. If keyholder does regular check-ins of that container, since it's tamper evident, chastity belt rules both wearer and keyholder agreed upon would be able to be enforced. (So if such container is tampered, wearer will have to explain why emergency key was used.)

                                            VivianChaste I say focus on the belt first. What's your budget? How much can you spend? If you can't buy the branded ones, go for a Chinese belt first. As other say fit is the first nain issue. Hygiene is what you plan. 24/7? Try a few hours first then see how long you like it on. Pee many times to find the sitting position as with no 2.

                                            Clothes arent really the issue unless you wear super skin tight. Hip style is good for jeans - most or waist style for dresses.

                                            Check https://www.brassiered.com/enchaste/contents.html

                                              Milord In emergency you have to use the fasted way to do things, and for getting out of the belt the fastest way is the key. That's all.

                                              The fastest way to remove a belt is with tools used by emergency medical services. This damages or destroys the belt but that is minor compared to the need to remove a belt in an emergency. Keeping this in mind means not having to rely on an emergency key. In am emergency, it may not be possible for the wearer to access the emergency key or tell others how to find it or use it. Removal with emergency tools is fast and easy for responders. This is, of course, only our opinion based on my experience as a long time wearer, without an emergency key.

                                                  Tjc

                                                  Let's say you have an immense pain coming from the part closed in your belt. While you are suffering unbearable pain you will:
                                                  1) call your keyholder to urgently get there and open you
                                                  2) call emergency medical services and wait for them to open you
                                                  3) use hacksaw or other tools
                                                  4) use emergency key

                                                  Which one is fastest? Which one is the most logical one?

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                                                      Laura

                                                      No comment Laura. It's your life. But everyone else, don't do as Laura and get an emergency key.

                                                          Tjc This is, of course, only our opinion based on my experience as a long time wearer, without an emergency key.

                                                          This is like saying "This is, of course, only our opinion based on my experience as a long time driver, without safety belt."

                                                          I hope you never need it.