Vanessa I think too making her starting to wear a belt during a relationship could easily make her boyfriend/girlfriend break up with her;except if it is for a set duration,like it was for me when it was used as a punishment.
I think starting it in a relationship is cruel. For me it was clear that I'm not allowed to have a relationship until I wear my belt. A girl should now as early as possible that a belt is coming for her and what it means for her.
For me it was very helpful that my mother could explain everything to me while she was already belted. It still felt unfair but at least I was not alone. It's so much easier when the knowledge how to make a good fit of the belt is already in the family and it's so much easier when you're mom can show you how to prevent skin irritation and things like that from her own knowledge and experience.
I think the fact that I can't remember my mom without her belt made it a bit easier to accept, too. It was not completely new to me. It was in my mind my whole life. I still hate it with all that background 🙂
As far as I know my mom will stay belted until one of them passed away or a medical reasons prevent the wearing.
