Ines I think that obviously they think that for a girl is better wear a belt.

well your sister does not wear a belt, maybe the influence was different?

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    Angelina
    No, I think is a matter of personality. She does not enjoy the feeling of "dependant care". She is another kind of woman, and it is ok since she would be happy (is she?).
    Easy example, do you think in a couple that owns a pharmacy. And they have a daughter. They would be happy and proud if she decides to study a degree in Pharmacy, but she decides a Lawyer degree.
    Does it means that they love her less? No.
    Are not they proud if she becomes in a judge? Yes they are.
    It is only that they would have a plus if her daughter would be the owner of family pharmacy.

      Ines To stay in your analogy: How would your mother react if you first study pharmacy, but later want to change the subject because you realize that it wasn't the right subject after all? I asked you this question before, but you never answered.

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        a_father
        Not only I answered it once, but several ones, in fact every one here could answer you for me, but I will do it once more:
        I would change the matter, without any trauma for both sides.
        Do you think that in a normal environment a family can make a daughter wear it in forced way? No. T

        Ines

        yes i understand that, i can apply the example to myself. my father is happy that i will work with him later and take over his "company" (one man AG) sometime, but if i should decide differently and still have a professional career he would also be proud of me 🙂

        Ines

        When they discussed it with you,you felt they thought it is the best choice?Or were they mainly neutral?

        Ines No, I think is a matter of personality.

        I agree.I think the personality play a major part in accepting to wear it or not,no matter if it is presented as something good,or neutral.

        Ines Easy example, do you think in a couple that owns a pharmacy. And they have a daughter. They would be happy and proud if she decides to study a degree in Pharmacy, but she decides a Lawyer degree.
        Does it means that they love her less? No.
        Are not they proud if she becomes in a judge? Yes they are.
        It is only that they would have a plus if her daughter would be the owner of family pharmacy.

        Good example.Even it doesn't apply for me,as I was allowed to study what I wanted,but have no say about wearing a chastity belt or not.

          Vanessa Even it doesn't apply for me,as I was allowed to study what I wanted,but have no say about wearing a chastity belt or not.

          it is difficult to apply to us, but i still agree with the example, although i could study something else and still have no right to refuse to my equipment

            Angelina

            It is a mix of modern things(being allowed to study what we want),and old fashioned things(having to wear a chastity belt)...

              Vanessa

              that's true. my father and i are very similar. we like conservative things but also modern things. but unfortunately sometimes different things 🙁

                Angelina

                Personally,I tend to prefer modern things(not surprising considering my studies);my parents a bit less,but the chastity belt is very conservative..🙁

                  Vanessa

                  well i am divided in two as said. but i agree with you that the chastity belt does not belong to the conservative values i want to protect

                    Vanessa

                    that's right, even though i appreciate the conservative lifestyle, the chastity belt is too much 🙁

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