Sara2001 He would never allow me smoking 🙂

Logical!😉 And he's right about it.

Sara2001 He mostly allows the thinks I want. Why shouldn't he? But I only ask for things I know they most probably are ok for him and I have to accept if he says no to something. But normally it's definitely much less restrictive as it sounds, because normally I get the permission.

Have you decided to not ask something you wanted because you knew he would probably not allow it?if yes,often?

Angelina it is in my opinion no freedom if it cannot use this freedom 🙁

But she can use it,for example by being allowed to unlock and lock back during her periods,to make it a bit easier for her.

          Vanessa Have you decided to not ask something you wanted because you knew he would probably not allow it?if yes,often?

          There are many things I don't even ask, like if I know there are plans for the weekend, I wouldn't ask for the permission to organise a meeting with my friends. If I know Daniel wants to watch Netflix and wants me to cuddle, I let him choose the program and don't ask to do anything else. Things like that happen very often.

              Vanessa But she can use it,for example by being allowed to unlock and lock back during her periods,to make it a bit easier for her

              i think we will not agree 😉 i return the discussion to @Lukas

              Sara2001 If I know Daniel wants to watch Netflix and wants me to cuddle, I let him choose the program and don't ask to do anything else.

              What if he realizes afterwards that your proposal is better for him ?

                    Sara2001 If I know Daniel wants to watch Netflix and wants me to cuddle, I let him choose the program and don't ask to do anything else. Things like that happen very often.

                    There is nothing wrong with that. Only advice I have is be sure to do kegel exercises and when you are closure to marriage you should probably have some time when the two of you dont see each other. If you do still entertain him be very emotional with eye contact and a lot of moving but actually start to get him more and more interested in the rest of you... If you get how I mean... Don't stop anything but change the focus

                        Angelina What if he realizes afterwards that your proposal is better for him ?

                        I don't make any proposal in these situations.

                        Megan Don't stop anything but change the focus

                        You mean it should not be to satisfying for him so he still wants to unwrap what he gets on marriage? That's a good advice, but I hope that will not be the case 🙂

                              Sara2001 I don't make any proposal in these situations.

                              too bad, maybe it would be good for him too 🙁

                                  Sara2001
                                  I don't seem to have to worry about that either but my Fiance pushes really hard when we can be alone as it is. You can't just STOP or it will look like you are manipulating but keep in mind that being with you is mostly emotional and guys require speed to finish while we girls don't really. So you can keep up the same effort by making eye contact and moving around a lot. I am sure you understand, but yeah it would suck to spend you marriage the same way you spend dates now.

                                      Angelina too bad

                                      What opn earth is wrong with NetFlix and Cuddling??? I get very complicated documentaries about electronics and my bottom stretched😅
                                      I am willing to trade for Netflix and cuddling!!!
                                      Lol Just joking I love last night. What is there worth watching on netflix? We tried searching Netflix but gave up after a couple minutes...

                                          Megan

                                          of course it's ok if the two of them look at netflix or cuddle together it's more about the general living 😉

                                            Megan I am sure you understand, but yeah it would suck to spend you marriage the same way you spend dates now.

                                            After marriage I will get my satisfaction, too. But only if he allows. It will not be any time I give him pleasure or almost every time but often enough to stay happy. I think it will be 1 or 2 times a month.

                                                Sara2001

                                                1 or 2 times a month is not very much, I always thought a man wants it more often. I just hope he doesn't refuse too often, that could make you very unhappy

                                                    Angelina 1 or 2 times a month is not very much, I always thought a man wants it more often. I just hope he doesn't refuse too often, that could make you very unhappy

                                                    My satisfaction is not the same as his satisfaction. I think it will be less often for me as for him, but I think as long as it is still arousing for me, everything is fine 🙂

                                                        Sara2001

                                                        Does that mean he wants him to have an orgasm while denying you that pleasure?

                                                            Angelina Does that mean he wants him to have an orgasm while denying you that pleasure?

                                                            Absolutely, yes. He will have much more orgasms then me and it will be his decision only.

                                                                Angelina Well, it's your choice if you're happy with it.

                                                                but for me it is absolutely unacceptable

                                                                Yes, if you had asked me a year ago, I had said that every woman who accepts this is crazy, but I can't really tell you why, but the more I learn about the whole power exchange thing, the more fascinated I am about it. Definitely nothing for everyone 🙂

                                                                    Sara2001

                                                                    It restricts a lot your freedom,so,even indirectly,by making you not even asking for permission.

                                                                    Angelina i think we will not agree 😉

                                                                    I think too!😉

                                                                    Sara2001 You mean it should not be to satisfying for him so he still wants to unwrap what he gets on marriage? That's a good advice, but I hope that will not be the case 🙂

                                                                    I think it is very unlikely he would not be interested by what is under the device he gets the key for opening it!😉

                                                                    Angelina

                                                                    Right,he might have good surprises.Using Netflix as an exemple too,Emilie made me watch interesting series I would not have watched otherwise,probably.

                                                                    Sara2001 I think it will be 1 or 2 times a month.

                                                                    It is not very often.Would it be enough for you to be happy?

                                                                    Angelina but for me it is absolutely unacceptable

                                                                    I would have trouble to accept it too.

                                                                                  Vanessa It is not very often.Would it be enough for you to be happy?

                                                                                  Of course it is less often than I had chosen myself, but I think it can be enough. I know if it is not enough, it will be increased. It's similar to what my and his mother get.

                                                                                      Sara2001

                                                                                      i've already noticed that your relationship has changed your character a bit 😉

                                                                                      Vanessa Right,he might have good surprises.Using Netflix as an exemple too,Emilie made me watch interesting series I would not have watched otherwise,probably.

                                                                                      that's exactly what I meant, very good example 😉

                                                                                      Sara2001

                                                                                      can daniel as punishment reduce the number of your orgasms ?

                                                                                              Angelina can daniel as punishment reduce the number of your orgasms ?

                                                                                              Wouldn't be necessary as she will always mpve towards a happy relationship with him. What could she even do? Spill coffee while riding in the car?