Telling others about your belt
Laura I think it is a good way for outsiders with loose contact. I think I will still hide it as much as possible to avoid any talk about it. I don't think your way would work for a bff or boyfriend (maybe I would follow your advice in the beginning, but I don't want to lie on him for a longer period). At least for me
@Sara2001
I've read about others who are locked in chastity pleasing their lovers, but it would make yourself more frustrated. Withholding yourself from any acts of pleasure would prevent a build up of emotions. Test your next boyfriend and see if they'd stay for you or for your services. Personally, I don't think it's a good idea, and save yourself for those acts after he becomes your fiance or husband.
Raziel I think we have not complete opposite positions here. I would not do this from the very beginning but only when I feel he is really in love with me and he could be Mr. Right. Maybe after a year or so. I think it's mean to let him wait until marriage just because my parents think I should focus more on becoming his perfect wife.
Sara2001 No, I just think: "Why should I take it away from him only because it's taken away from me by my parents".
Obviously because you are not married yet.
Sara2001 I don't think sex outside of a marriage is something bad in general.
If Ivana was here, she would say that's one more reason you need a belt.
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Laura Obviously because you are not married yet.
I think we will not come to the same point of view in this topic. If to people love each other and take care of the health risks and prevent unwanted pregnancy, they should be allowed to have sex whenever they want. I extremely miss this opportunity and would not feel less valuable after unmarried sex (if it is someone that really matters to me and that really cares about me).