Renita I don't care so much about the opinion of others, especially when they are foreigners. I more fear actions from close people that don't agree with the belt.

    Sara2001 I more fear actions from close people that don't agree with the belt.

    Why don't you adopt my way? E.g. tell them you wear it by choice, just need to explain it properly.

      Laura I think it is a good way for outsiders with loose contact. I think I will still hide it as much as possible to avoid any talk about it. I don't think your way would work for a bff or boyfriend (maybe I would follow your advice in the beginning, but I don't want to lie on him for a longer period). At least for me 😁

        Sara2001 I don't think your way would work for a bff or boyfriend

        That's quite different. If your BF tries to defend your rights, most like he would defend his rights πŸ™‚

          Laura Very true πŸ˜€
          How important was having sex for you partners? I think I would satisfy their sex drive by hand or maybe mouth????. I think this can make a man very happy.

            Sara2001 How important was having sex for you partners?

            I didn't have any sex partners.

            Sara2001 I think I would satisfy their sex drive by hand or maybe mouth????. I think this can make a man very happy.

            That's nasty in my opinion.

              Laura I don't feel that this is nasty. I can't see why my (hypothetical) boyfriend should pay for my parents decision. Why should I not make him happy as good as I can?

                Sara2001 You should do it completely or not do it at all. In this hypothetical situation I would prefer to cut the belt off.

                  Laura Me, too. But sadly this feels not like a realistic option for me. πŸ™

                    Sara2001 Such behavior would make you worse in his eyes anyways. So better to remain a "chastity girl".

                    @Sara2001
                    I've read about others who are locked in chastity pleasing their lovers, but it would make yourself more frustrated. Withholding yourself from any acts of pleasure would prevent a build up of emotions. Test your next boyfriend and see if they'd stay for you or for your services. Personally, I don't think it's a good idea, and save yourself for those acts after he becomes your fiance or husband.

                      Raziel I think we have not complete opposite positions here. I would not do this from the very beginning but only when I feel he is really in love with me and he could be Mr. Right. Maybe after a year or so. I think it's mean to let him wait until marriage just because my parents think I should focus more on becoming his perfect wife.

                        Sara2001 Maybe after a year or so. I think it's mean to let him wait until marriage just because my parents think I should focus more on becoming his perfect wife.

                        What's wrong with it? Are you afraid he might drop for an unbelted girl he can have sex with easily?

                          Laura No, I just think: "Why should I take it away from him only because it's taken away from me by my parents". I don't think sex outside of a marriage is something bad in general.

                            Sara2001 No, I just think: "Why should I take it away from him only because it's taken away from me by my parents".

                            Obviously because you are not married yet.

                            Sara2001 I don't think sex outside of a marriage is something bad in general.

                            If Ivana was here, she would say that's one more reason you need a belt.

                              Laura Obviously because you are not married yet.

                              I think we will not come to the same point of view in this topic. If to people love each other and take care of the health risks and prevent unwanted pregnancy, they should be allowed to have sex whenever they want. I extremely miss this opportunity and would not feel less valuable after unmarried sex (if it is someone that really matters to me and that really cares about me).

                                Sara2001 If a guy is allowed to sleep with you, he might not marry you, because he has everything already. That's my parents' position. And if you look around they are mostly right, less and less people get married.

                                  Laura I'm not sure there is a relationship between sex outside of marriage and the number of weddings. In Germany the lowest number of weddings (370.000) was in 2007. In 2017 it was 407.000 and as far as I know the number is still growing.