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hmm i did some thinking and thought about how i could accept to continue wearing the complete equipment after the wedding (only in theory). i would probably have to change my belt settings completely and see the whole thing for other reasons. i wonder how you can do that. you have always worn the equipment involuntarily and you do it voluntarily after the wedding. i would find that difficult. i understand why you do it, but i would have to change my whole character to do that
Angelina I don't know why it wasn't such a big step then I had expected 2-3 years ago. I don't really have a valid explanation.
For me it is something completely different. I know I am able to do it, so why not? I think maybe it has to do with how I was raised. My mother is a very strong and happy person and I have known about her situation for many many years now. I don't know. Maybe because of this, I am more open to it.
hmm maybe i'm just too limited to think that the belt has something to do with my father. i think if i kept wearing the belt after my wedding, i would feel like i was married to my father somehow. i can't get away from it. so i would have to completely change my feelings about the belt
Sara2001 I think this is a complete different way to maintain a relationship. I don't think it would fit to our lifestyle. For us, the existence of limitations and punishments are an aspect we enjoy very much. Both of us think it's very sexy that there are awfull consequences for her, if she doesn't act as expected. We often talk about it, we want this kind of pressure and structure in our relationship. We want to feel that I have much more power then she has, that things are no longer her free choice.
From what I can see, she is happier then ever in our dynamic and she is living under the strictest rules she ever had, much stricter then her mother's rules or any other setup that was ever used in her home. She makes very clear to me, that she likes the feeling of having a tough and very clear structure in her life and that she enjoys that she must only follow my rules and orders and doesn't have to worry much about other things.
Yes I think she is happier since she met you and so maybe this is the sort of relationship she needs. I would just throw in that you don't need to "feel" like you have more power over her you do have more power over her. After hearing about everything in your lives I think I could keep giving more of myself to my husband.
I would remind you that the most power my husband has over me is when he pleasures me. you should unlock Sara without any warning and give her a deep g-spot orgasm. Along with the surprise of being belted as ever one minute and then completely nude seconds later and then shaking and screaming a few minutes later and falling out of the chair I can confirm that your power would not be questioned at all. Love isn't a race to dominate Sarah more than her mother!
Vanessa Sure,for using it after the wedding,we should feel differently about it,and why we're wearing it.
for me it is still a symbol of distrust, if my wife would ask me about it, i would ask back why she does not trust me anymore
Vanessa It would not change your feeling if your keyholder is your wife?
no, see first answer 
Angelina for me it is still a symbol of distrust, if my wife would ask me about it, i would ask back why she does not trust me anymore
For me it has nothing to do with mistrust. I see it as a kind of gift to him. He know that I wouldn't have an orgasm without his permission even if I don't have to wear a belt, but I know that he loves how the belt restricts me or more precise, that I accept this for him.
Angelina , if my wife would ask me about it, i would ask back why she does not trust me anymore
Would she be able to make you understand it is not related to mistrust(if it's not the case)?
Sara2001 it has nothing to do with mistrust.
I agree,there can be many reasons for it.
Angelina camryn once asked me if i would consider it a gift if she continued to wear the belt after the wedding
Pretty sweet to suggest it,not knowing if you would like it.
Vanessa Would she be able to make you understand it is not related to mistrust(if it's not the case)?
she knows that it would be the only reason for me to wear a belt again after the wedding. she knows my feelings about the belt
Vanessa Pretty sweet to suggest it,not knowing if you would like it.
i have also told her that she can of course wear the belt and i would be willing to take on the role of key holder, but if she does then she should do it for herself and not for me, it is a sweet gesture but not necessary for me
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Angelina she knows that it would be the only reason for me to wear a belt again after the wedding. she knows my feelings about the belt
And in this case,you would accept it?
Angelina i have also told her that she can of course wear the belt and i would be willing to take on the role of key holder, but if she does then she should do it for herself and not for me, it is a sweet gesture but not necessary for me
Of course,it should be willingly,and only if she likes it.
Vanessa But you would wear the belt after the mistrust is removed by the talks?
well, i think if the distrust is so severe that i agree to wear the belt it will take several conversations over a longer period of time and during that time i would wear the belt. after that, when the trust is back, of course not anymore