Sara2001 I think this is a complete different way to maintain a relationship. I don't think it would fit to our lifestyle. For us, the existence of limitations and punishments are an aspect we enjoy very much. Both of us think it's very sexy that there are awfull consequences for her, if she doesn't act as expected. We often talk about it, we want this kind of pressure and structure in our relationship. We want to feel that I have much more power then she has, that things are no longer her free choice.
From what I can see, she is happier then ever in our dynamic and she is living under the strictest rules she ever had, much stricter then her mother's rules or any other setup that was ever used in her home. She makes very clear to me, that she likes the feeling of having a tough and very clear structure in her life and that she enjoys that she must only follow my rules and orders and doesn't have to worry much about other things.

Yes I think she is happier since she met you and so maybe this is the sort of relationship she needs. I would just throw in that you don't need to "feel" like you have more power over her you do have more power over her. After hearing about everything in your lives I think I could keep giving more of myself to my husband.
I would remind you that the most power my husband has over me is when he pleasures me. you should unlock Sara without any warning and give her a deep g-spot orgasm. Along with the surprise of being belted as ever one minute and then completely nude seconds later and then shaking and screaming a few minutes later and falling out of the chair I can confirm that your power would not be questioned at all. Love isn't a race to dominate Sarah more than her mother!

    Vanessa Sure,for using it after the wedding,we should feel differently about it,and why we're wearing it.

    for me it is still a symbol of distrust, if my wife would ask me about it, i would ask back why she does not trust me anymore

    Vanessa It would not change your feeling if your keyholder is your wife?

    no, see first answer 🙂

          Angelina for me it is still a symbol of distrust, if my wife would ask me about it, i would ask back why she does not trust me anymore

          For me it has nothing to do with mistrust. I see it as a kind of gift to him. He know that I wouldn't have an orgasm without his permission even if I don't have to wear a belt, but I know that he loves how the belt restricts me or more precise, that I accept this for him.

              Sara2001 I see it as a kind of gift to him.

              I understand it, but I cannot transfer it to myself. camryn once asked me if i would consider it a gift if she continued to wear the belt after the wedding, so she looks at it the same way you do. i declined because i see it very differently

                  Angelina , if my wife would ask me about it, i would ask back why she does not trust me anymore

                  Would she be able to make you understand it is not related to mistrust(if it's not the case)?

                  Sara2001 it has nothing to do with mistrust.

                  I agree,there can be many reasons for it.

                  Angelina camryn once asked me if i would consider it a gift if she continued to wear the belt after the wedding

                  Pretty sweet to suggest it,not knowing if you would like it.

                          Vanessa Would she be able to make you understand it is not related to mistrust(if it's not the case)?

                          she knows that it would be the only reason for me to wear a belt again after the wedding. she knows my feelings about the belt

                          Vanessa Pretty sweet to suggest it,not knowing if you would like it.

                          i have also told her that she can of course wear the belt and i would be willing to take on the role of key holder, but if she does then she should do it for herself and not for me, it is a sweet gesture but not necessary for me

                                Angelina she knows that it would be the only reason for me to wear a belt again after the wedding. she knows my feelings about the belt

                                And in this case,you would accept it?

                                Angelina i have also told her that she can of course wear the belt and i would be willing to take on the role of key holder, but if she does then she should do it for herself and not for me, it is a sweet gesture but not necessary for me

                                Of course,it should be willingly,and only if she likes it.

                                      Vanessa And in this case,you would accept it?

                                      probably yes, but only if she sees no other way out and if that is the case, we urgently need to have many conversations. but yes for a limited time i would accept

                                          Angelina probably yes, but only if she sees no other way out and if that is the case, we urgently need to have many conversations. but yes for a limited time i would accept

                                          Understandable.Good you would have several talks too!

                                              Vanessa Good you would have several talks too!

                                              mistrust can only be removed by talking and only then would i wear the belt 🙂

                                                  Angelina

                                                  Logical.

                                                  But you would wear the belt after the mistrust is removed by the talks?Why,if there is no mistrust anymore?

                                                      Vanessa But you would wear the belt after the mistrust is removed by the talks?

                                                      well, i think if the distrust is so severe that i agree to wear the belt it will take several conversations over a longer period of time and during that time i would wear the belt. after that, when the trust is back, of course not anymore

                                                          Vanessa In such situation,I maybe would accept to do similar.

                                                          but I do not believe that this will happen. camryn knows how much i hate the belt and i think emilie knows it about you too

                                                              4 months later

                                                              Sara2001 I have learned that emotional support doesn't need an argument about the device to happen.

                                                              What kind of emotional support do you get? Does he hug you or comfort you in another way.

                                                                  Joh I am sorry, I don't know what you are referring. The last post is more then half a year old.

                                                                  • Joh replied to this.

                                                                      We weren't even aware of this thread until the most recent posts..
                                                                      However, my partner does read this forum and if anyone wants to know what her opinions and motivations are in our relationship, she is willing to answer questions.

                                                                        Sara2001
                                                                        Sorry, I found this post now and I am refering to

                                                                        Sara2001 Daniel gave me this answer (translated by me, I hope we understood it right, it's about what is done when I get angry):
                                                                        No disrespect and no disobedience are two of the most important rules in our relationship. She knows when she rebells against her equipment, she will get punished for this. She has a space to discuss her thoughts about her belt, bra and tightbands in a calm and respectful way during her weekly maintenance, outside of this meeting I expect her to never argue against the belt or show any sign of resistance. The 2 corner times every day help her a lot to avoid lapses, the knowledge that the punishment will nothing she can enjoy does the rest. So she shows how hard it is for her from time to time but she never act up. There is nothing like a pause from our rules.
                                                                        And this

                                                                        Sara2001 I have learned that emotional support doesn't need an argument about the device to happen. I can always say that I feel very limited or restricted. Or that this or that is not easy in my equipment. But I must begin with something like "Of course I understand why this is necessary and I don't want to change your decision but..." or "I of course understand why this is necessary but...". Of course it must not only be a phrase but he has to believe me, so it has to be honest.