Vanessa And in this case,you would accept it?

probably yes, but only if she sees no other way out and if that is the case, we urgently need to have many conversations. but yes for a limited time i would accept

      Angelina probably yes, but only if she sees no other way out and if that is the case, we urgently need to have many conversations. but yes for a limited time i would accept

      Understandable.Good you would have several talks too!

          Vanessa Good you would have several talks too!

          mistrust can only be removed by talking and only then would i wear the belt 🙂

              Angelina

              Logical.

              But you would wear the belt after the mistrust is removed by the talks?Why,if there is no mistrust anymore?

                  Vanessa But you would wear the belt after the mistrust is removed by the talks?

                  well, i think if the distrust is so severe that i agree to wear the belt it will take several conversations over a longer period of time and during that time i would wear the belt. after that, when the trust is back, of course not anymore

                      Vanessa In such situation,I maybe would accept to do similar.

                      but I do not believe that this will happen. camryn knows how much i hate the belt and i think emilie knows it about you too

                          4 months later

                          Sara2001 I have learned that emotional support doesn't need an argument about the device to happen.

                          What kind of emotional support do you get? Does he hug you or comfort you in another way.

                              Joh I am sorry, I don't know what you are referring. The last post is more then half a year old.

                              • Joh replied to this.

                                  We weren't even aware of this thread until the most recent posts..
                                  However, my partner does read this forum and if anyone wants to know what her opinions and motivations are in our relationship, she is willing to answer questions.

                                    Sara2001
                                    Sorry, I found this post now and I am refering to

                                    Sara2001 Daniel gave me this answer (translated by me, I hope we understood it right, it's about what is done when I get angry):
                                    No disrespect and no disobedience are two of the most important rules in our relationship. She knows when she rebells against her equipment, she will get punished for this. She has a space to discuss her thoughts about her belt, bra and tightbands in a calm and respectful way during her weekly maintenance, outside of this meeting I expect her to never argue against the belt or show any sign of resistance. The 2 corner times every day help her a lot to avoid lapses, the knowledge that the punishment will nothing she can enjoy does the rest. So she shows how hard it is for her from time to time but she never act up. There is nothing like a pause from our rules.
                                    And this

                                    Sara2001 I have learned that emotional support doesn't need an argument about the device to happen. I can always say that I feel very limited or restricted. Or that this or that is not easy in my equipment. But I must begin with something like "Of course I understand why this is necessary and I don't want to change your decision but..." or "I of course understand why this is necessary but...". Of course it must not only be a phrase but he has to believe me, so it has to be honest.

                                          Foxies e weren't even aware of this thread until the most recent posts

                                          It has an Archive tag. Now wonder.

                                              Joh It has an Archive tag.

                                              No, it wasn't

                                              Joh Now wonder.

                                              Sometimes I move back and forth, but not this topic

                                              • Joh replied to this.

                                                    Joh Of course I get hugs and things like that all the time, of course he shows me that he sees what I do for him and what I have to do because of the rules from my father, but it is normally not directly related to a concrete situation related to my equipment and the comfort issues related to it.

                                                    • Joh replied to this.

                                                        Foxies

                                                        then your partner should register here, i am not a fan of writing to people via several corners, i prefer to do it directly 🙂

                                                            Angelina

                                                            That's fine. She will continue reading over my shoulder 👌

                                                              Sara2001 Of course I get hugs and things like that all the time, of course he shows me that he sees what I do for him and what I have to do because of the rules from my father, but it is normally not directly related to a concrete situation related to my equipment and the comfort issues related to it.

                                                              I am not sure if I got it. Does it mean if you have an emotional problem of your equipment you have to handle it on your own?

                                                                  Laura No, it wasn't

                                                                  Sorry. Than I mixed it with another topic I was reading.