fear of orgasm: why?

Laura

You've to wear one to stay virgin,so?

Joh It is seen as an elementary part in the development

and that is the point that my father sees differently, he thinks it is an obstacle to responsible development.

Vanessa In my case,my parents think it is indecent and immoral

yes, these are similar reasons for my father too

It is unaceptable, without wearer' s consent.
But, in general, I agree with this.
I think, that if it is forced is another way of dominate to someone.
And, in general, I think that a girl masturbation is not acceptable, and it is a behavior that must be avoided.
It is selfish, indecent and that does not make anything good for us as woman.

HOWEVER HOWEVER HOWEVER

It is my opinion for me, and it can not be impossed to anyone. If a girl does not want wear, anyone can force her to it. Even "buy" the consent with privileges is not very fair in my opinion.

strictfather and prefer to prevent it by using a chastity belt or other ways?

I prefer to limit rather than prevent.

strictfather that make parents think in this way

Otherwise all her activity can be reduced to it.

In my family my father thinks masturbation and things like that make a woman selfish, so it's better to protect them from becoming selfish,.so she can focus on other things (incl..her partners pleasure).

Foxies Parents do not have a right to abuse their child.

Ines Even "buy" the consent with privileges is not very fair in my opinion.

at this point i would disagree, i think it is fair, best example is the topic of going to work, or would you go to work without getting paid?

strictfather After wedding I have a husband. He knows what he gets before and/or can do what he think is necessary. I can accept this or marry someone else. That's why I would only marry someone when I absolutely trust him.

Maybe for some it's furthermore a fear of the daughter getting the wrong partner anywhen or becoming a victim anywhere... maybe it's also for safety reasons... sure, denying an orgasm then wouldn't be necessary... like via abstinence belt

mekekelo No empirical studies have ever shown any results like this.

My mother thinks differently in my case.

Foxies I just hope this forum does nothing to promote it.

I think we try to fight it, however I believe that every truculent story is a tale.

Force to someone to wear a belt should be such factory of resentment that no family can endure it. And in determined ages and environment is very difficult maintain such thing as a secret.

I usually do not think in myself as a person without empathy, but such stories are hard of believe for me.

Christine My mother thinks differently in my case.

She may thinks differently but she deny the reality and lying to oneself only to have a reason to force you on her ideas.

mekekelo Parents do not have a right to abuse their child.

I agree 100% with sentiment behind this statement. I would go further: "No one has a right to abuse anyone."
But terms like abuse are slippery and ever changing. Even worse they become "fashionable" (or political as in politically correct).

When I was a little girl, if a child misbehaved with a parent present and the parent didn’t take action the parent was considered abusive, not teaching their child correct behaviour. That teaching might commonly include a smack to the legs.

In the Britain of today, a smack delivered to a child’s legs is abuse.

The fashion has changed!

The right to “free” speech is enshrined in law. To insult someone can be considered free speech and is thus protected. A parent can thus insult a child by telling they are an idiot or stupid. But doing it endlessly, and crushing a child’s belief in themselves while being a parental right is still abusive.

There are all sorts of parental rights that can lead to abuse. Parents will claim they are protecting the child. When is protection abuse?

Sadly, I do not know how to write correct laws to prevent such. I only know abuse when I see it. You will never convince me that pressuring anyone against their will into a mechanical device that prevents enjoyment of their own body, is anything but abuse. But clearly it happens within the law, as several poor girls here will testify.

Ines

of course it is a kind of blackmail but it always depends on the advantages and disadvantages the girl has by wearing or not wearing the belt.

Of course, it is still the best way if it is voluntary.

Max9

of course, i think it would even be the main reason to use a abstinence belt.

Joh It is happen because the children depended on the family and will not risk a worsening of the situation.

but isn't that normal ? it doesn't make sense to refuse to wear the belt if it would only have disadvantages outside the belt.

Angelina but isn't that normal ? it doesn't make sense to refuse to wear the belt if it would only have disadvantages outside the belt.

You are not in the situation to oversee the full impact on you.
I had my own experience on dependency in a relation and could see it first after some time after my divorce.
I have seen it by a friend of mine as well and understand why the laws were introduced especially to protect minors.

If you think this was done lightly and without good reason, then you are making it easy on yourself and closing your eyes to reality. No laws are introduced that do not have a valid reason. Whether they are always the best law is a moot point. However, the main point is true.

Have in mind you are still a minor and stuck in the situation.