Refusing

Jen I disagree.

Let me describe in a more sophisticated way what I am getting at.

By the destruction of your hymen you are technically no longer a virgin. However, since you have not yet been intimate with someone else, you are of course still a virgin in terms of your experience and feelings.
Your mother gave you to understand that she went into marriage as a virgin. Possibly even without having experienced an orgasm before. For her and your father it was something very special. That's nice and true her decision to do it that way.
With you it is completely different. You know how nice an orgasm feels and your hymen is destroyed. This makes the argument for a CB invalid.
What your mother claimed for herself also applies to you. She had decided to go into marriage as a virgin. So it is also solely your right to decide how you want to handle it. Whether you only want to be intimate with your Ms./Mr. Right after the marriage or before or you make it dependent on other things.

Another train of thought to ponder.
I don't want to belittle or question the special moment your parents had on their wedding night. If that moment was so indescribably unique, why have sex at all afterwards? Everything that comes after that can only be worse. From my experience I can tell you that every time I was intimate with my new girlfriend for the first time it was also a special moment. There were also special moments in our relationship due to special circumstances. Every single one stands for itself and cannot be compared with the other moments.

a_father But she has to make clear, that understanding does not mean wearing the belt.

of course, i agree with you on this point

a_father Your father shows understanding, but does he unlock you?

no, but that is also because I have more understanding for him than he has for me.

a_father Understanding the position of the others means only, I understand how you feel / what you think. That does not mean, you agree.

that's right, so it is for me with 99% of your posts

Gina

So,even if you don't like it much,you're more a voluntary wearer,now?

Jen Any conversation like that will make things worse.

Anyway,it seems you can't make it better by talking about it,at least...So not a good way to avoid it.

Jen Well yes, but it is becoming a proper argument

The topic of the chastity belt seems to make the ambience worse in your home,and not only for you...

So,it is your father who is on your side about it,and would accept you don't wear it?

Joh You are not really a virgin anymore

She's not physically virgin.

Angelina that is certainly what most parents want

Probably,yes.

Angelina parents can still come up with the idea of permanent wearing after a few years.

Yes.And unexpectedly,in my case.

Angelina right, she should be extremely careful, thighbands are probably not explicitly planned but could be ordered later on

Right,as they order the D-rings.

Renita It can be restored

A bit extreme in @Jen's case...

HHelen You can use it as an argument

Difficult to make them trust her,I guess.

Jen I understand more just how upset she was when she found my toy.

Good you start to understand each other a bit more.

Jen Would I then be writing like you do now?

Not necessarily;it depends on each people.

Lana

I agree,the deal is not too bad,in your case.

Laura I had the same plan. Good luck

Let's hope it goes better in her case!

Laura

Very sad and angry to hear this,I guess.

Jen understanding more will help restore our relationship.

I think so,too.

Laura I don't need to wear a belt 24/7 to remain virgin

Sure,it isn't needed.

Saintprudence

It is often what is thought,so harder to ask for being unlocked when locked for a long time without too much problems before...

Angelina So she expected your first orgasm to be with your husband and was disappointed when she realised it wasn't. ?

Good question.

Angelina this is the best way, but it only works if parents and daughters have roughly the same idea of sex and masturbation.

Which is not at all the case for @Jen.

Jen The first night when I ran off

Could you go to a friend?

Jen I mean I ran away from the conversation not from home

OK. Thank you.

Vanessa Right,as they order the D-rings.

according to the motto "for all cases" or let's see how far we can go

Jen Orgasm has never been talked about

that is the problem, if she has any expectations of you in terms of sex or masturbation, she should talk to you openly about it, only in this way can acceptance be achieved.

Jen Well I agree with them on half of that. But my point was I was in a fragile state - I'm much better now. The first night when I ran off I was at my limit, if they kept pushing I think I would have caved.

good that you're feeling better again and you still didn't caved

Vanessa Difficult to make them trust her,I guess.

Everyone makes mistakes and the lesson has been learned.

HHelen Everyone makes mistakes and the lesson has been learned.

From your opinion who did the mistake and what did they learn?

Gina Perhapse you agreed too early? @Jen can still avoid the belt. Are you envious?

Gina Many people here are telling you not to agree. They may be right for them, but perhaps not right for you. Obeying your parents is often the best way. I know it is for me.

If it was a good decision it can be a bad one for another person.
It is depended on many things like culture at your country, law, common sense, social environment, etc.

Jen They are still disagreeing otherwise something would have been said to me.

Something changed at their view at the topic?
How is school going? Is it better to be out of the house and with friends?

Vanessa Possible they wanted to have these in the case they can convince her to add it;at least,they probably have thought about it.

That's what I meant by seeing how far we can go

Gina Obeying your parents is often the best way.

In my opinion, obeying is the wrong word, understand and accept would be better.

Joh It is depended on many things like culture at your country, law, common sense, social environment, etc.

it really only depends on your personal attitude to the overall situation (and yes I know you will disagree with me)

Jen I think this is over. There was another serious talk today but not about the belt. Like you hear the term elephant in the room well this was the biggest elephant that ever lived and just ignored.
So Dad said they want me to make a promise. He said it is reasonable and he thinks I can keep it so don't promise unless I really mean it. He said I need to promise to never have a sex toy in their house or use anything in the house in a sexual way. Also he said it is a promise forever, if I leave home and come back it still applies.
So I made the promise. It's better than I thought they were going to say. Also they brought up virgin until married again and I agreed again that is what I want too.

thanks for the update, i think the conversation was very important for both sides. it's good that you were able to avoid the belt. i think the promise is very honourable and because you don't seem completely averse to the idea of going into the wedding as a virgin, it also seems to be feasible

Jen

You should feel pretty good about a successful negotiation and outcome. And so should the forum members who gave you good support and advice.

Jen Congratultions, you made it! Be careful and avoid the belt comming back with every dispute. As a teenager, arguments with parents are not always avoidable. You're not safe until the belt is sold. You should carefully ask your father what they are going to do with it (wait a view days....). Give them little reason to be angry about you in the near future until something has grown on the matter. The thing about banning the sex toys was your father's admission to your mother that she's not entirely unsuccessful. If you consistently reject the belt, you usually keep your freedom. As I predicted, parents are very insecure in such a case because they themselves know that what they are doing is wrong. Good luck for the future!