Vanessa Possible they wanted to have these in the case they can convince her to add it;at least,they probably have thought about it.

That's what I meant by seeing how far we can go

Gina Obeying your parents is often the best way.

In my opinion, obeying is the wrong word, understand and accept would be better.

Joh It is depended on many things like culture at your country, law, common sense, social environment, etc.

it really only depends on your personal attitude to the overall situation 😉 (and yes I know you will disagree with me)

Jen I think this is over. There was another serious talk today but not about the belt. Like you hear the term elephant in the room well this was the biggest elephant that ever lived and just ignored.
So Dad said they want me to make a promise. He said it is reasonable and he thinks I can keep it so don't promise unless I really mean it. He said I need to promise to never have a sex toy in their house or use anything in the house in a sexual way. Also he said it is a promise forever, if I leave home and come back it still applies.
So I made the promise. It's better than I thought they were going to say. Also they brought up virgin until married again and I agreed again that is what I want too.

thanks for the update, i think the conversation was very important for both sides. it's good that you were able to avoid the belt. i think the promise is very honourable and because you don't seem completely averse to the idea of going into the wedding as a virgin, it also seems to be feasible 🙂

            Jen

            You should feel pretty good about a successful negotiation and outcome. And so should the forum members who gave you good support and advice. 😀

              Jen Congratultions, you made it! Be careful and avoid the belt comming back with every dispute. As a teenager, arguments with parents are not always avoidable. You're not safe until the belt is sold. You should carefully ask your father what they are going to do with it (wait a view days....). Give them little reason to be angry about you in the near future until something has grown on the matter. The thing about banning the sex toys was your father's admission to your mother that she's not entirely unsuccessful. If you consistently reject the belt, you usually keep your freedom. As I predicted, parents are very insecure in such a case because they themselves know that what they are doing is wrong. Good luck for the future!

                Jen Why did you promise that? This is very harsh. It is your right to own and use a sex toy, it's normal. They cna't make oyu wear the belt even if oyu refuse to promise that. A lot of people use dildos, that's normal. you should tell your parents that

                    Jen I wonder if in the end you will not wear a belt then what will your parents do to the belt? Your parents are going to leave it in a basement or they will sell it or throw it away.

                        Abby82 They can change their minds for sure, but she can just tell them, she doesn't want to play along in that game. Usually every girl is allowed to do that. She should make her parents see that this is crazy. If they continue to be like that, she should just leave them.

                            Mario Your parents are going to leave it in a basement or they will sell it or throw it away.

                            Hang on the wall as a reminder 😂

                                Laura Good answer by the way Laura, what happened to the thigh bands that you were going to order, do you use them now or what happened?

                                    Mario Your parents are going to leave it in a basement or they will sell it or throw it away.

                                    Laura Hang on the wall as a reminder 😂

                                    Omg how embarrassing I know you were joking but also you are much more used to them. When looking at it I thought about how my body would fit into it and where it was pressing 😳 not something to put on the wall!!😅
                                    I don't know what they will do it's put away now.

                                    Abby82 I wouldn't say anything because the parents can change their minds. Fingers are enough.

                                    Definately not saying anything if they want to act like the whole belt thing never happened then that's fine by me. Fingers are enough ... for now. It's only until I move out.

                                    Chris1 A lot of people use dildos, that's normal. you should tell your parents that

                                    Wow you want me to go on the rollercoaster of arguments again? Not having a sex toy is more normal than discussing chastity belts. I've gotten used to not having it this promise is ok.

                                              Jen I don't know what they will do it's put away now.

                                              Do you know if it fits your mom's size?

                                              • Jen replied to this.

                                                  Laura chuckles 😂 unlikely, we are different. But that would be funny if he made her wear it. Urgh she's probably too much of a goody to need a belt.

                                                      Jen Urgh she's probably too much of a goody to need a belt.

                                                      Your belt was her idea and it would not hurt if she worn one

                                                        Chris1 Why did you promise that? This is very harsh

                                                        i would disagree, it's a big promise but on the one hand @Jen could avoid the belt and on the other hand she shows that she has understanding for her parents. a win/win situation

                                                        Mario

                                                        well, i think they will keep him in case the situation changes again.

                                                        Laura Hang on the wall as a reminder 😂

                                                        i thought about doing this after my wedding, would be an interesting wall decoration 😂

                                                        Jen Not having a sex toy is more normal than discussing chastity belts

                                                        that's right and you shouldn't argue any more, i think you've won a big victory and shouldn't want too much 🙂

                                                                Jen Luckily it is ignored

                                                                But make sure you are not caught.

                                                                    Gina The idea of the belt is to prevent sex. All sex
                                                                    All this is just what I believe.

                                                                    If this what you want do it. This is the only thing what counts.

                                                                      Jen Also they brought up virgin until married again and I agreed again that is what I want too.

                                                                      Congratulation for you successful negotiation.
                                                                      Your mother's wish and your conviction are apparently the same regarding virginity. A serious and open conversation would have done the same instead of trying to force a CB on you.
                                                                      This shows how important open and serious conversations are in a relationship. Whether between parents and children or between partners.

                                                                          Jen chuckles 😂 unlikely, we are different.

                                                                          Maybe they can exchange it for one which would fit for a little extra money 😂

                                                                            Joh Your mother's wish and your conviction are apparently the same regarding virginity.

                                                                            Joh A serious and open conversation would have done the same instead of trying to force a CB on you.

                                                                            @Jen

                                                                            this is exactly the point i don't understand. if the goals are at least very similar, this conversation could have taken place before the belt is bought or before measurements are taken. it would have saved a lot of trouble and money.