Refusing
Gina Many people here are telling you not to agree. They may be right for them, but perhaps not right for you. Obeying your parents is often the best way. I know it is for me.
If it was a good decision it can be a bad one for another person.
It is depended on many things like culture at your country, law, common sense, social environment, etc.
I think this is over. There was another serious talk today but not about the belt. Like you hear the term elephant in the room well this was the biggest elephant that ever lived and just ignored.
So Dad said they want me to make a promise. He said it is reasonable and he thinks I can keep it so don't promise unless I really mean it. He said I need to promise to never have a sex toy in their house or use anything in the house in a sexual way. Also he said it is a promise forever, if I leave home and come back it still applies.
So I made the promise. It's better than I thought they were going to say. Also they brought up virgin until married again and I agreed again that is what I want too.
I think I'm glad she didn't. I now know that she is against it but it seems it will be tolerated as long as there are no toys. I'm glad to not have guilt about it.
Angelina good that you're feeling better again and you still didn't caved
Thanks I don't talk about this with anyone so nice to have support here. Also to the others who helped.
Vanessa You think you would be able to resist more,now?
Yes, after getting through the first night I felt much more that I really could refuse, not just hoping I could.
Joh How is school going? Is it better to be out of the house and with friends?
Yes it was good to be back. And even better I'll be allowed to have some money to go out with friends again. I'm not getting pocket money, but they will put money in my account for specific things and they have a login to check.
Gina I don't know how it could have ever worked. If I'd gone along with it for a while it would have been more misery later.
HHelen And she is not even supposed to masturbate.
Luckily it is ignored
Vanessa Possible they wanted to have these in the case they can convince her to add it;at least,they probably have thought about it.
That's what I meant by seeing how far we can go
Gina Obeying your parents is often the best way.
In my opinion, obeying is the wrong word, understand and accept would be better.
Joh It is depended on many things like culture at your country, law, common sense, social environment, etc.
it really only depends on your personal attitude to the overall situation (and yes I know you will disagree with me)
Jen I think this is over. There was another serious talk today but not about the belt. Like you hear the term elephant in the room well this was the biggest elephant that ever lived and just ignored.
So Dad said they want me to make a promise. He said it is reasonable and he thinks I can keep it so don't promise unless I really mean it. He said I need to promise to never have a sex toy in their house or use anything in the house in a sexual way. Also he said it is a promise forever, if I leave home and come back it still applies.
So I made the promise. It's better than I thought they were going to say. Also they brought up virgin until married again and I agreed again that is what I want too.
thanks for the update, i think the conversation was very important for both sides. it's good that you were able to avoid the belt. i think the promise is very honourable and because you don't seem completely averse to the idea of going into the wedding as a virgin, it also seems to be feasible
Jen Congratultions, you made it! Be careful and avoid the belt comming back with every dispute. As a teenager, arguments with parents are not always avoidable. You're not safe until the belt is sold. You should carefully ask your father what they are going to do with it (wait a view days....). Give them little reason to be angry about you in the near future until something has grown on the matter. The thing about banning the sex toys was your father's admission to your mother that she's not entirely unsuccessful. If you consistently reject the belt, you usually keep your freedom. As I predicted, parents are very insecure in such a case because they themselves know that what they are doing is wrong. Good luck for the future!
Omg how embarrassing I know you were joking but also you are much more used to them. When looking at it I thought about how my body would fit into it and where it was pressing not something to put on the wall!!
I don't know what they will do it's put away now.
Abby82 I wouldn't say anything because the parents can change their minds. Fingers are enough.
Definately not saying anything if they want to act like the whole belt thing never happened then that's fine by me. Fingers are enough ... for now. It's only until I move out.
Chris1 A lot of people use dildos, that's normal. you should tell your parents that
Wow you want me to go on the rollercoaster of arguments again? Not having a sex toy is more normal than discussing chastity belts. I've gotten used to not having it this promise is ok.
Chris1 Why did you promise that? This is very harsh
i would disagree, it's a big promise but on the one hand @Jen could avoid the belt and on the other hand she shows that she has understanding for her parents. a win/win situation
well, i think they will keep him in case the situation changes again.
Laura Hang on the wall as a reminder
i thought about doing this after my wedding, would be an interesting wall decoration
Jen Not having a sex toy is more normal than discussing chastity belts
that's right and you shouldn't argue any more, i think you've won a big victory and shouldn't want too much