Refusing

Gina

Jen I think I would have caved

Many people here are telling you not to agree. They may be right for them, but perhaps not right for you. Obeying your parents is often the best way. I know it is for me.

a_father

Gina Perhapse you agreed too early? @Jen can still avoid the belt. Are you envious?

Joh

Gina Many people here are telling you not to agree. They may be right for them, but perhaps not right for you. Obeying your parents is often the best way. I know it is for me.

If it was a good decision it can be a bad one for another person.
It is depended on many things like culture at your country, law, common sense, social environment, etc.

Jen

I think this is over. There was another serious talk today but not about the belt. Like you hear the term elephant in the room well this was the biggest elephant that ever lived and just ignored.
So Dad said they want me to make a promise. He said it is reasonable and he thinks I can keep it so don't promise unless I really mean it. He said I need to promise to never have a sex toy in their house or use anything in the house in a sexual way. Also he said it is a promise forever, if I leave home and come back it still applies.
So I made the promise. It's better than I thought they were going to say. Also they brought up virgin until married again and I agreed again that is what I want too.

Angelina if she has any expectations of you in terms of sex or masturbation, she should talk to you openly about it

Vanessa I agree,it should have been talked about.

I think I'm glad she didn't. I now know that she is against it but it seems it will be tolerated as long as there are no toys. I'm glad to not have guilt about it.

Angelina good that you're feeling better again and you still didn't caved 🙂

Thanks I don't talk about this with anyone so nice to have support here. Also to the others who helped.

Vanessa You think you would be able to resist more,now?

Yes, after getting through the first night I felt much more that I really could refuse, not just hoping I could.

Joh How is school going? Is it better to be out of the house and with friends?

Yes it was good to be back. And even better I'll be allowed to have some money to go out with friends again. I'm not getting pocket money, but they will put money in my account for specific things and they have a login to check.

Gina I don't know how it could have ever worked. If I'd gone along with it for a while it would have been more misery later.

HHelen And she is not even supposed to masturbate.

Luckily it is ignored🥳

Angelina

Vanessa Possible they wanted to have these in the case they can convince her to add it;at least,they probably have thought about it.

That's what I meant by seeing how far we can go

Gina Obeying your parents is often the best way.

In my opinion, obeying is the wrong word, understand and accept would be better.

Joh It is depended on many things like culture at your country, law, common sense, social environment, etc.

it really only depends on your personal attitude to the overall situation 😉 (and yes I know you will disagree with me)

Jen I think this is over. There was another serious talk today but not about the belt. Like you hear the term elephant in the room well this was the biggest elephant that ever lived and just ignored.
So Dad said they want me to make a promise. He said it is reasonable and he thinks I can keep it so don't promise unless I really mean it. He said I need to promise to never have a sex toy in their house or use anything in the house in a sexual way. Also he said it is a promise forever, if I leave home and come back it still applies.
So I made the promise. It's better than I thought they were going to say. Also they brought up virgin until married again and I agreed again that is what I want too.

thanks for the update, i think the conversation was very important for both sides. it's good that you were able to avoid the belt. i think the promise is very honourable and because you don't seem completely averse to the idea of going into the wedding as a virgin, it also seems to be feasible 🙂

Joh

Jen They are still disagreeing otherwise something would have been said to me.

Something changed at their view at the topic?
How is school going? Is it better to be out of the house and with friends?

HHelen

Joh From your opinion who did the mistake and what did they learn?

@Jen did with her toy. And she has learned to not do it again.

Vanessa they could give her at least a second chance to prove she can be trusted

And she is not even supposed to masturbate.

Joh

HHelen @Jen did with her toy. And she has learned to not do it again.

Sorry, if you still blame @Jen than you make the same mistake as her parents.
They didn't talk with @Jen about her expectation nor masturbating nor sex tools nor how they started her relation and what they belief it is important. Because @Jen did not know, she did not make a mistake.

Vanessa

HHelen And she is not even supposed to masturbate.

Right,but I guess her parents would be less angry if not using a sex-toy.

Gina All this is just what I believe. if you disagree, that's ok, but please don't slam me.

What was surprising is you were a reluctant wearer at first,and have changed your mind without much changes in your situation...

Jen So Dad said they want me to make a promise. He said it is reasonable and he thinks I can keep it so don't promise unless I really mean it. He said I need to promise to never have a sex toy in their house or use anything in the house in a sexual way. Also he said it is a promise forever, if I leave home and come back it still applies.
So I made the promise. It's better than I thought they were going to say. Also they brought up virgin until married again and I agreed again that is what I want too.

Good news for you🙂

The restrictions they think using if you refused are all cancelled?

Are you sure they would never suggest chastity belt again?That it wasn't used to distract you and plan to ask again when they think they have more chances you agree?

Jen I now know that she is against it but it seems it will be tolerated as long as there are no toys

Good it is tolerated!

Jen Thanks I don't talk about this with anyone so nice to have support here. Also to the others who helped.

It is one of the purpose of the board!😉

Jen Luckily it is ignored🥳

Definitively?

Chris1

Not pleasant but not too bad for her.

And,even if I think it is acceptable if she is discreet when using it,I can understand their parents don't want her to use it under their roof.

Abby82

I agree.

Chris1 Usually every girl is allowed to do that

Not necessarily.I was always forbidden to have sex-toys,too(and still am).

Laura

🤣

Jen I don't know what they will do it's put away now.

Not left in your room anymore?

Jen Fingers are enough ... for now. It's only until I move out.

😉

Jen I've gotten used to not having it this promise is ok.

I think so,too.

HHelen

Good advice,yes,it could make the use of a chastity belt discussed again,otherwise...Even if they tolerate it,it can be different if she's caught.

Foxies

Jen

You should feel pretty good about a successful negotiation and outcome. And so should the forum members who gave you good support and advice. 😀

a_father

Jen Congratultions, you made it! Be careful and avoid the belt comming back with every dispute. As a teenager, arguments with parents are not always avoidable. You're not safe until the belt is sold. You should carefully ask your father what they are going to do with it (wait a view days....). Give them little reason to be angry about you in the near future until something has grown on the matter. The thing about banning the sex toys was your father's admission to your mother that she's not entirely unsuccessful. If you consistently reject the belt, you usually keep your freedom. As I predicted, parents are very insecure in such a case because they themselves know that what they are doing is wrong. Good luck for the future!

Chris1

Jen Why did you promise that? This is very harsh. It is your right to own and use a sex toy, it's normal. They cna't make oyu wear the belt even if oyu refuse to promise that. A lot of people use dildos, that's normal. you should tell your parents that

Joh

Angelina it really only depends on your personal attitude to the overall situation 😉 (and yes I know you will disagree with me)

Yes, I disagree because you missed the point.

Jen

Mario Your parents are going to leave it in a basement or they will sell it or throw it away.

Laura Hang on the wall as a reminder 😂

Omg how embarrassing I know you were joking but also you are much more used to them. When looking at it I thought about how my body would fit into it and where it was pressing 😳 not something to put on the wall!!😅
I don't know what they will do it's put away now.

Abby82 I wouldn't say anything because the parents can change their minds. Fingers are enough.

Definately not saying anything if they want to act like the whole belt thing never happened then that's fine by me. Fingers are enough ... for now. It's only until I move out.

Chris1 A lot of people use dildos, that's normal. you should tell your parents that

Wow you want me to go on the rollercoaster of arguments again? Not having a sex toy is more normal than discussing chastity belts. I've gotten used to not having it this promise is ok.

Angelina

Chris1 Why did you promise that? This is very harsh

i would disagree, it's a big promise but on the one hand @Jen could avoid the belt and on the other hand she shows that she has understanding for her parents. a win/win situation

Mario

well, i think they will keep him in case the situation changes again.

Laura Hang on the wall as a reminder 😂

i thought about doing this after my wedding, would be an interesting wall decoration 😂

Jen Not having a sex toy is more normal than discussing chastity belts

that's right and you shouldn't argue any more, i think you've won a big victory and shouldn't want too much 🙂

Mario

Jen I wonder if in the end you will not wear a belt then what will your parents do to the belt? Your parents are going to leave it in a basement or they will sell it or throw it away.

Laura

Mario Your parents are going to leave it in a basement or they will sell it or throw it away.

Hang on the wall as a reminder 😂

Chris1

Abby82 They can change their minds for sure, but she can just tell them, she doesn't want to play along in that game. Usually every girl is allowed to do that. She should make her parents see that this is crazy. If they continue to be like that, she should just leave them.

Mario

Laura Good answer by the way Laura, what happened to the thigh bands that you were going to order, do you use them now or what happened?

Laura

Mario My belt doesn't have D-rings. That's all

Laura

Jen I don't know what they will do it's put away now.

Do you know if it fits your mom's size?

Chris1

Jen Your decision. I just meant you don't even have to promise this. Normal parents shouldn't keep their children from owning a sex toy. It's none of their business.

Jen

Laura chuckles 😂 unlikely, we are different. But that would be funny if he made her wear it. Urgh she's probably too much of a goody to need a belt.

Laura

Jen Urgh she's probably too much of a goody to need a belt.

Your belt was her idea and it would not hurt if she worn one

Joh

Jen chuckles 😂 unlikely, we are different.

Maybe they can exchange it for one which would fit for a little extra money 😂

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