Vanessa Why have you changed your mind,to not give it a try?Even if already knowing you would not accept(what they should not know,if you tell them you agree to try it),you may try it,it would give your parents the feelings you try to do a step too.It would not solve the problem,but make the situation less tense and prove them you have tried,instead or rejecting it immediately.It can help a bit for other talks.

Read about Salami tactics
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Salami_tactics
If @Jen try it I fear it will be the first step to losing.

      Joh it's like salami tactics but perhaps less nefarious. This is rather petty instead.

        a_father They will punish her out of spite, which is unfortunate because parents shouldn't be spiteful. They are older, more mature and therefore should be the "bigger person".

          I've had a chance to look at it some more this morning. It's so small I guess it's a hip belt while most pictures are waist. One lock at the front - no key in it - and the front is all shielded and part of the belt. It's so weird thinking about where that's supposed to go.
          It's got the little rings on the side like wtf that's not standard is it? On the website it looks like that's extra.

          Vanessa Why have you changed your mind,to not give it a try?

          If they put it in my room with the key I'd try it even if never reading here I think I'd be curious but argh yes I want to try my belt. Calling it that is weird.
          I don't want my parents to control me like this. Trying it changes things. I reject the whole concept.

          Vanessa I strongly doubt they say it's ok and put it in the bin without any talks...

          But what I say is what I can control if I'm clear and calm about it in advance. I can argue I shouldn't be grounded but if I lose its ok. I can't argue about the belt I can't stay calm but I can just stick with no. So I don't need to listen to them about it I can just be stubborn.

          Angelina i always wonder why it wasn't talked about calmly beforehand.

          There was a talk before it arrived, but what I agreed to was like crushing me. I feel better now than back then.

          James Vanessa said it. I don't want to talk about it.

                    Jen it's a hip belt

                    Less restrictive about clothes.

                    Jen and the front is all shielded and part of the belt.

                    Yes,no detachable secondary shield on My-Steel ones.

                    Jen It's got the little rings on the side like wtf that's not standard is it? On the website it looks like that's extra.

                    It is for making possible to use thigh bands.

                    Jen If they put it in my room with the key I'd try it even if never reading here I think I'd be curious but argh yes I want to try my belt. Calling it that is weird.

                    I can understand you're curious about ti.

                    Jen I don't want my parents to control me like this. Trying it changes things. I reject the whole concept.

                    And if you has the key in your hand?

                    Jen But what I say is what I can control if I'm clear and calm about it in advance. I can argue I shouldn't be grounded but if I lose its ok. I can't argue about the belt I can't stay calm but I can just stick with no. So I don't need to listen to them about it I can just be stubborn.

                    I understand your reaction,but I think it would be a bit tense at your home,at least for some time...

                    Good luck;I hope you would be able to avoid it,without too many restrictions!

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                                  Jen Got it. I thought you meant personality. Sorry.

                                  The rings are for the thighbands, which is what @Angelina wears.

                                  Jen But what I say is what I can control if I'm clear and calm about it in advance. I can argue I shouldn't be grounded but if I lose its ok. I can't argue about the belt I can't stay calm but I can just stick with no. So I don't need to listen to them about it I can just be stubborn.

                                  True. But you may need to be for a long while.

                                        James The rings are for the thighbands

                                        Yes I read those threads but was surprised to see they were ordered. Some of the writing about thighbands seems the most unbelievable.

                                        Vanessa And if you has the key in your hand?

                                        This is hard to answer it's not something I expect. I best not take it I think yes if they offer this then it is part of their trying to change my mind.

                                              Jen If they put it in my room with the key I'd try it even if never reading here I think I'd be curious but argh yes I want to try my belt. Calling it that is weird.
                                              I don't want my parents to control me like this. Trying it changes things. I reject the whole concept.

                                              The risk is the key is not the key of the lock.
                                              If the find out you tried the belt bay asking you and they will know if you lie or not than you did the first step on the road to wear it 24/7.

                                              Jen But what I say is what I can control if I'm clear and calm about it in advance. I can argue I shouldn't be grounded but if I lose its ok. I can't argue about the belt I can't stay calm but I can just stick with no. So I don't need to listen to them about it I can just be stubborn.

                                              I agreed with this tactic. It is a good way.
                                              If you feel unsure and need additional help call Kids Helpline 1800 55 1800.

                                                    They just don't get it. I've mostly avoided them today but a little talk and they say they understand it is a big step and want to offer me a new phone as a reward when I get started with the belt. Like I don't even need a new phone and that they think this is some kind of good deal...

                                                      Jen Some of the writing about thighbands seems the most unbelievable.

                                                      Agree.

                                                      Jen Yes I read those threads but was surprised to see they were ordered.

                                                      They are useful to avoid stimulation. It is pretty logical you have to use them (if finally you agree to wear the belt).
                                                      Anyway, if you think the right is wear the belt, wear it, if you think it is not the right choice, do not wear it.

                                                            Jen want to offer me a new phone as a reward when I get started with the belt

                                                            You have to decide what is important for you. If it acceptable to sell your sexuality or not.

                                                            I believe the development of your sexuality it very important. Their is a lot information at the web about the different kind of it and you should freely find out what fits to you. It starts with what you like and dislike when you explore your body, if you feel more female, male or unspecific. Further you can find out if you like to be together more with male, female or both.
                                                            https://au.reachout.com/articles/understanding-your-sexuality

                                                            If you find out you will not explore it by yourself alone and you will save it until you found Mr. Right or Ms. Right than do it.

                                                            It is your decision and only yours.

                                                                Joh You have to decide what is important for you. If it acceptable to sell your sexuality or not.

                                                                This is the point. No more nor less.
                                                                I will never sell my principles in such point..

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                                                                  a_father Compromises are not a solution either. A chastity belt is just not negotiable.

                                                                  even though i agree with a large part of your post, this sentence is nonsense.

                                                                  Jen I'm calmer thinking I've refused and will not talk about it again.

                                                                  consequent decision, the next time will be difficult for sure but i am sure you will manage 🙂

                                                                  Jen It's got the little rings on the side like wtf that's not standard is it? On the website it looks like that's extra.

                                                                  the rings are for thigh bands

                                                                  Jen If they put it in my room with the key I'd try it even if never reading here I think I'd be curious but argh yes I want to try my belt. Calling it that is weird.
                                                                  I don't want my parents to control me like this. Trying it changes things. I reject the whole concept.

                                                                  i can understand that you are curious, but believe me, after a while the frustration is bigger than the curiosity. the curiosity becomes everyday life and unfortunately the frustration as well. 🙁

                                                                  Jen Yes I read those threads but was surprised to see they were ordered. Some of the writing about thighbands seems the most unbelievable.

                                                                  but thigh bands have not been ordered yet, have they? probably your parents wanted to test how you react to the belt first and then order the thigh bands later.

                                                                  Jen to offer me a new phone as a reward when I get started with the belt.

                                                                  You should not let yourself be bought and a new mobile phone is by far not valuable enough to give up so much.

                                                                                Jen This is disturbing. They are bargaining for something that is unnegotiable. I hope in the end cooler heads prevail.

                                                                                    Jen Any kind of negotiation I worry I will lose.

                                                                                    But you can't avoid it in your situation, so you should try to strengthen your position.

                                                                                    Vanessa Even if I doubt they would not give her her key if she tell them she would stop wearing it

                                                                                    It would be harder if she agreed initially.

                                                                                          Jen It's a bad deal. The new phone is for now, but you change it for the chastity belt for a very long time. What costs a new phone? Divide the price by 24 months or more, then you know how cheap you sold your sexuality. Don't forget: No swimming pool in summer, no boyfriend (with a little bit more than kissing), no orgasms for a very long time, a lot of cleaning of the belt, always the fear someone could notice it. You give up your freedom. How another member said here: It's prison for your pussy. (Sorry for the wording...). You should try to get help aditionally. Do you have grandparents? How do they think about it? Be careful if you try the belt. Check the key before. I'm sure, you are on your road to permanent chastity, if you try the belt and put it on.
                                                                                          If nothing helps, you should call for help by the authorities or other organisations.

                                                                                              Might be illegal to use as punishment

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                                                                                                RafaelGV Might be illegal to use as punishment

                                                                                                From the information I found it is illegal in Australia.

                                                                                                  Jen he says Mum was a proper virgin when they married and that was really special.

                                                                                                  Did she have to wear a chastity belt for it? I guess, no.

                                                                                                      Lana try it on when your parents are not home

                                                                                                      @Jen Don't forget to test the key and padlock, to make sure they work together. There are stories online where the keys were switched, while the padlock was left open. Although, don't worry about the belt, if you are not 100% sure, then do NOT try it on. When you try something without being 100%, you will regret the decision because you rushed into it. Just leave the belt and keep living your life the best you can. I really hope for the best for you.