They just don't get it. I've mostly avoided them today but a little talk and they say they understand it is a big step and want to offer me a new phone as a reward when I get started with the belt. Like I don't even need a new phone and that they think this is some kind of good deal...
Refusing
Jen Some of the writing about thighbands seems the most unbelievable.
Agree.
Jen Yes I read those threads but was surprised to see they were ordered.
They are useful to avoid stimulation. It is pretty logical you have to use them (if finally you agree to wear the belt).
Anyway, if you think the right is wear the belt, wear it, if you think it is not the right choice, do not wear it.
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Jen want to offer me a new phone as a reward when I get started with the belt
You have to decide what is important for you. If it acceptable to sell your sexuality or not.
I believe the development of your sexuality it very important. Their is a lot information at the web about the different kind of it and you should freely find out what fits to you. It starts with what you like and dislike when you explore your body, if you feel more female, male or unspecific. Further you can find out if you like to be together more with male, female or both.
https://au.reachout.com/articles/understanding-your-sexuality
If you find out you will not explore it by yourself alone and you will save it until you found Mr. Right or Ms. Right than do it.
It is your decision and only yours.
a_father Compromises are not a solution either. A chastity belt is just not negotiable.
even though i agree with a large part of your post, this sentence is nonsense.
Jen I'm calmer thinking I've refused and will not talk about it again.
consequent decision, the next time will be difficult for sure but i am sure you will manage 
Jen It's got the little rings on the side like wtf that's not standard is it? On the website it looks like that's extra.
the rings are for thigh bands
Jen If they put it in my room with the key I'd try it even if never reading here I think I'd be curious but argh yes I want to try my belt. Calling it that is weird.
I don't want my parents to control me like this. Trying it changes things. I reject the whole concept.
i can understand that you are curious, but believe me, after a while the frustration is bigger than the curiosity. the curiosity becomes everyday life and unfortunately the frustration as well. 
Jen Yes I read those threads but was surprised to see they were ordered. Some of the writing about thighbands seems the most unbelievable.
but thigh bands have not been ordered yet, have they? probably your parents wanted to test how you react to the belt first and then order the thigh bands later.
Jen to offer me a new phone as a reward when I get started with the belt.
You should not let yourself be bought and a new mobile phone is by far not valuable enough to give up so much.
Jen It's a bad deal. The new phone is for now, but you change it for the chastity belt for a very long time. What costs a new phone? Divide the price by 24 months or more, then you know how cheap you sold your sexuality. Don't forget: No swimming pool in summer, no boyfriend (with a little bit more than kissing), no orgasms for a very long time, a lot of cleaning of the belt, always the fear someone could notice it. You give up your freedom. How another member said here: It's prison for your pussy. (Sorry for the wording...). You should try to get help aditionally. Do you have grandparents? How do they think about it? Be careful if you try the belt. Check the key before. I'm sure, you are on your road to permanent chastity, if you try the belt and put it on.
If nothing helps, you should call for help by the authorities or other organisations.
Might be illegal to use as punishment
Lana try it on when your parents are not home
@Jen Don't forget to test the key and padlock, to make sure they work together. There are stories online where the keys were switched, while the padlock was left open. Although, don't worry about the belt, if you are not 100% sure, then do NOT try it on. When you try something without being 100%, you will regret the decision because you rushed into it. Just leave the belt and keep living your life the best you can. I really hope for the best for you.
Joh RafaelGV a_father
Wow many replies about the phone sorry I rejected it immediately I should have written that clearer. I posted it because I was frustrated they offered - it shows they are still not understanding.
Lana try it on when your parents are not home
No I'm just not going to.
HHelen Did she have to wear a chastity belt for it?
No she was just good. I'm good too and will wait till married - we've talked about it a lot but Mum cares about hymen. And yes I knew that but didn't think it was as much of an issue.
Renita But you can't avoid it in your situation, so you should try to strengthen your position.
But I can. It is the point some of the others have been making and it is working. If not started I can just stick with no, nothing else is needed. Already they try to hide it but I notice some disagreement between Mum and Dad.
It is working. Great. Keep it up 
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Jen
The only thing that I can notnota understand is why this entire situation happens after the belt arrival and no before buy it.
And, even it is logical if masturbation is not welcome, the use of the thigh bands, it is not reasonable do not inform you about them.
Frankly all the theme is very strange for me.
However, the main point is that if someone do not want wear a belt, she should not wear it.
Ines what I don't understand is what the effect of finding this forum was. I didn't think this was real even the measuring process Mum did was ridiculous and I joked about it to taunt her because she was being so over the top about what I'd done. If I hadn't read here I don't know I was very needing their approval so I think likely to have tried and I think this is what they expected. But I don't see how it would have worked just lots of misery I think.
But this forum is dangerous too especially before I joined. There is so much rubbish but also maybe 3 people who truthfully wear but with the truth and the stories mixed together and with feeling very anxious anyway it is dangerous ideas.
@Ines you were helpful but now I ask you to read the faq for this forum you are mod of and see if there is anything you disagree.
Jen No she was just good. I'm good too and will wait till married - we've talked about it a lot but Mum cares about hymen. And yes I knew that but didn't think it was as much of an issue.
if you really want to wait, i don't see a problem, if you are worried about not being able to do it, you can try the belt voluntarily, but i wouldn't do it at the moment.
Ines The only thing that I can notnota understand is why this entire situation happens after the belt arrival and no before buy it.
@Jen i agree with @Ines, that is exactly what i mean. such discussions are held before anything is ordered or measured.
Jen I didn't think this was real even the measuring process
hmmm..... that reminds me of myself when i got the belt, i also didn't take my father seriously when he told me, a big mistake, so i missed discussing it seriously, it was apparently the same with you
Jen But this forum is dangerous too especially before I joined. There is so much rubbish but also maybe 3 people who truthfully wear but with the truth and the stories mixed together and with feeling very anxious anyway it is dangerous ideas.
Sorry, I can't following what you want to say.
Could you write it in a way that not native speaker could understand. Shorter sentence as an example.