Daphne's dilemma

I just read the original post of this forum and scratch my head in an effort to give a meaningful and useful answer. It is obvious (to me at least) that the proposer of the question doesn't supply near enough information for me to attempt to give a useful answer.

But, in general I suppose I do find it is an interesting question. Exactly what information would one need on which to base a decision on whether to willingly enter chastity by means of some physical device, which would prevent the wearer from giving into temptation? At least such a device would offer a breather period where the wearer could re-evaluate their choices when they are not under the immediate pressure of temptation.

Here I imagine a scenario where the wearer freely enters into a chastity device and uses either a mechanical mechanism (say a time safe) or keyholder who they contract to release them after a time period expires once the request is made ... say the wearer provides advance notice of say three weeks when they wish to be released.

So what information would be pertinent to know about a person before one could advise? There is no way for me to comprise an exhaustive list but things I would consider important would be:

1. Reassurance that the wearer is of sound mind and good health and is of "consenting" age
2. Reassurance that the proposed wearer is not volatile (prone to rash decisions) and that this isn't just some whim
3. Reassurance that the wearer understands the issues of hygiene and that arrangements are made to ensure cleaning can be carried out without actually interrupting the chastity
4. Reassurance that arrangements are made for emergent release incase of trauma or illness.
5. Reassurance the wearer has a valid and "reasonable" reason to wish to remain chaste
6. If two people are involved in the decision I would need reassurance that that the keyholder is ot putting undue pressure on the wearer do do something the wearer doesn't really want and that the keyholder understands all the above issues.

I am sure other wiser members of this forum could add to this list in ways I believe would be important but that I haven't thought of. However, at the moment there is no way I could meaningfully respond to the poll.

Daphne 6 for now i do not have a keyholder

you should put this at the top of your list, it's the only way the belt system can work.

Daphne

you should not give the keys to a stranger from a forum, it should be someone you know for a long time and trust (partner, family, friends).

Daphne In that case, you should be patient. Which is of course already a crucial virtue for the chaste. You hope to be belted for the rest of your life. A laudable goal, but that means it is worth taking the time to find a proper keyholder, even if it takes months or longer.

In the meantime, keysafes or numbered plastic locks are your friend. Numbered locks are a great way to use outside accountability buddies without surrendering control to them — for instance, you could send photos of the lock on occasion to verify that you haven’t taken it off. On cleaning days, send a pic just before you remove it and another a short time later to show you locked it right back on without any hanky-panky.

Daphne

Well in answer to your post, I think your wish to enter chastity my means of a mechanical device is reasonable. I would hesitate to advise you to somehow make it permanent (though I am not sure you could do that anyway). But through my own life experience I know that changing one's mind and attitudes is a fairly common event. And while "permanence" might be a worthy goal, my advice would be to keep that as a sort of distant Everest to climb and in the meantime take each day as it comes and enjoy it to the full.

The question of finding a trusted (and hopefully loving) keyholder would seem to me an obvious first step though possibly some sort of time safe option might be viable. I am not really qualified to understand all the in's and outs of using time safes, though perhaps @Tobbe could help?

Foxies people around here have long tended to be a little fluid with the term “permanent,” probably because of the multiple languages spoken and not everyone being fully aware of how specifically loaded a term it is in the fetish boards. But yes, it seems to have settled here into meaning “24/7, no releases, taken off for cleaning and emergencies only.”

Daphne Again i don't know anyone near me that would hold the keys

i'm sorry for you, but i wouldn't give the keys to a stranger. there are boxes where you can keep the keys and set a time when the box should open again, maybe that would be an idea, at least until you have found a suitable key holder.

Saintprudence

Foxies

it seems we have similar ideas

Saintprudence “24/7, no releases, taken off for cleaning and emergencies only.”

this is how I understand it

Daphne do you have an upper limit to how long you remain belted in a relationship, or do you hope for it to be indefinite?

Daphne since this is specifically your thread, I feel more okay asking broader questions. What’s your everyday routine like? I don’t mean location or identifying info, but rather, classes, job, living arrangements and so forth.