Daphne's dilemma

Daphne

Well allow me to respond to this absolute behemoth of a post gosh.

1 yes I'm of sound mental health and I'm of consenting age (23)

2 this is not a whim, if i go into chastity this will be permanent

3 again yes, im planning in cleaning breaks

4 once again yes, there will be emergency keys for that

5 my reasons to be chaste are for protection, preventing masturbation, and to focus on my school and my self proposed rules.

6 for now i do not have a keyholder

Angelina

Daphne 6 for now i do not have a keyholder

you should put this at the top of your list, it's the only way the belt system can work. 😉

Foxies

Daphne

Well in answer to your post, I think your wish to enter chastity my means of a mechanical device is reasonable. I would hesitate to advise you to somehow make it permanent (though I am not sure you could do that anyway). But through my own life experience I know that changing one's mind and attitudes is a fairly common event. And while "permanence" might be a worthy goal, my advice would be to keep that as a sort of distant Everest to climb and in the meantime take each day as it comes and enjoy it to the full.

The question of finding a trusted (and hopefully loving) keyholder would seem to me an obvious first step though possibly some sort of time safe option might be viable. I am not really qualified to understand all the in's and outs of using time safes, though perhaps @Tobbe could help?

Daphne

Angelina

Yeah, it'll have to be someone here though since i have one irl to do it

Vanessa

Daphne When i have more dresses for it

Yes,your clothes should be adapted to hide it.If necessary,you may wait until you get more adapted ones,or go do some shopping!😉

Angelina

I agree.

Angelina

I agree about it too.

Saintprudence it is worth taking the time to find a proper keyholder, even if it takes months or longer.

Right.

Saintprudence “24/7, no releases, taken off for cleaning and emergencies only.”

Yes.

Angelina

Daphne

you should not give the keys to a stranger from a forum, it should be someone you know for a long time and trust (partner, family, friends).

Daphne

Angelina

Again i don't know anyone near me that would hold the keys

Saintprudence

Daphne In that case, you should be patient. Which is of course already a crucial virtue for the chaste. You hope to be belted for the rest of your life. A laudable goal, but that means it is worth taking the time to find a proper keyholder, even if it takes months or longer.

In the meantime, keysafes or numbered plastic locks are your friend. Numbered locks are a great way to use outside accountability buddies without surrendering control to them — for instance, you could send photos of the lock on occasion to verify that you haven’t taken it off. On cleaning days, send a pic just before you remove it and another a short time later to show you locked it right back on without any hanky-panky.

Angelina

Daphne Again i don't know anyone near me that would hold the keys

i'm sorry for you, but i wouldn't give the keys to a stranger. there are boxes where you can keep the keys and set a time when the box should open again, maybe that would be an idea, at least until you have found a suitable key holder.

Saintprudence

Foxies

it seems we have similar ideas 😉

Saintprudence “24/7, no releases, taken off for cleaning and emergencies only.”

this is how I understand it

Daphne

Saintprudence

I already have both of those in fact

Daphne

Foxies

Well with permanent i mostly mean 24/7 chastity like most of us here, my only release being for cleaning and for emergencies

Foxies

Daphne Well with permanent i mostly mean 24/7 chastity

Ahh sorry. Silly me. I was thinking permanent meant "until the big sleep" 🤣

Saintprudence

Foxies people around here have long tended to be a little fluid with the term “permanent,” probably because of the multiple languages spoken and not everyone being fully aware of how specifically loaded a term it is in the fetish boards. But yes, it seems to have settled here into meaning “24/7, no releases, taken off for cleaning and emergencies only.”

Daphne

Saintprudence

Correct

Daphne

Angelina

and you understand correctly ^^

Max9

Angelina i'm sorry for you, but i wouldn't give the keys to a stranger. there are boxes where you can keep the keys and set a time when the box should open again, maybe that would be an idea, at least until you have found a suitable key holder.

you can also enable a person to open them via app... if @Daphne wants a heyholder, that would be an option.

Saintprudence

Daphne do you have an upper limit to how long you remain belted in a relationship, or do you hope for it to be indefinite?

Daphne

Saintprudence

The latter, but if there has to be a limit i can live with it

Saintprudence

Daphne since this is specifically your thread, I feel more okay asking broader questions. What’s your everyday routine like? I don’t mean location or identifying info, but rather, classes, job, living arrangements and so forth.

Daphne

Saintprudence

Well usually I wake up at 8,do my morning routine and work on school until 4-5. Have dinner, do dishes and afterwards i can spend time on hobbies

Saintprudence

Daphne what’s your living situation? Parents or on your own or roommates?

Daphne

Saintprudence

Parents

Daphne

Vanessa Yes,your clothes should be adapted to hide it.If necessary,you may wait until you get more adapted ones,or go do some shopping!😉

I just need a uniform that o should wear or a guide

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