Daphne's dilemma

Daphne oh, no doubt! If anything, I’m just trying to fill you in on all the ladylike things that can be done with literally no resources.

Daphne after all, ever since I was thighbanded, it’s been modest 50s-housewife dresses for me!

Saintprudence it’s been modest 50s-housewife dresses

That sounds so cute! Do you have any favorite vendors?

gwen Retro Stage, Sweet Salt and Pink Desert are fun. I aim for a modest, understated housewife look, so the religious-inspired “modest clothing” sites are useful.

honestly, if you’re not going super-retro, you can get a pretty good 50s domestic goddess look at Wal-Mart if you know what you’re looking for. And my mother-in-law totally knows .

Daphne I’m sure you do, but that’s a pretty advanced grade of chastity! Plus it only really works with a steel-band belt, so that may be a while for you, possibly even post-transition. Thigh bands are useless for male chastity but extremely effective for female.

Daphne a good call, though you can also start with just a few. If you really want to go with a school uniform for college, I recommend getting a few of the same one and being truly uniform by wearing it every day of class. Otherwise it’s not really a uniform! (And on days you don’t feel like wearing it, it’s a reminder to you that you wanted a disciplined lifestyle. Kind of like the many days I hate wearing this belt!)

Daphne But also, this is important: speaking as one trans woman to another as opposed to a belted wife speaking to a potentially belted wife: It’s okay to experiment. You may find the cage not to your liking, and that’s all right. You may find the 50s wife look invigorating, and one day decide you really just want to dress like a hippie chick for a while. This is all perfectly all right. You’ve grown up with limited clothing choices and now you feel free to try others, and that means you can experiment, mix and match. You’re young, you don’t have to commit to anything. One week in a belt and a week off? Sure, why not. Uniform one day, a suit and tie the next, and a pantsuit after that? Also okay. You’re getting to indulge in self-discovery that you’ve probably dreamed of for years but never got to try until you
embraced your identity. You dream of a forced lifestyle in belt and bands but don’t let that deter you if your dreams change or even if you just get a bit tired of it. (Trust me as someone who WAS forced through mental abuse not to self-touch! It’s not pleasant.) Have as much fun as you can while learning who you are .

Daphne I hope you have more detail in mind than that in the long run! You want someone who also has your best interests at heart and keeps you locked from a place of love and responsibility and not just control. Unfortunately, our type can attract abusive partners and it’s good to be on the lookout. But the right person can be very caring and protective.

Daphne choosing a key holder is often as vital as choosing a spouse. You’re granting them a lot of power over you. Which you already know; it’s just that strictness of key holding is not the only virtue to seek out. You want someone who entirely supports your 50s wife thing as my own wife does for mine. And who believes in your goals enough to hold you to them.

Are people just agreeing with what they think is the most extreme thing?
Sort of the limit of democracy and the internet???

Megan well, I’m trying to counsel realistic expectations here .