Daphne's dilemma

Daphne I hope you have more detail in mind than that in the long run! You want someone who also has your best interests at heart and keeps you locked from a place of love and responsibility and not just control. Unfortunately, our type can attract abusive partners and it’s good to be on the lookout. But the right person can be very caring and protective.

Daphne choosing a key holder is often as vital as choosing a spouse. You’re granting them a lot of power over you. Which you already know; it’s just that strictness of key holding is not the only virtue to seek out. You want someone who entirely supports your 50s wife thing as my own wife does for mine. And who believes in your goals enough to hold you to them.

Are people just agreeing with what they think is the most extreme thing?
Sort of the limit of democracy and the internet???

Megan well, I’m trying to counsel realistic expectations here .

Daphne Everyone is voting for permanent? There have been some women who get nonremovable piercing shields and I'm not sure about those.
I have worn nonstop for well over months but I really know my hygiene.

Megan ah, I see now. Yeah, I guess that would be a little weird until you saw the definition! I’ve seen enough people use “permanent” as a synonym for “24/7, minus cleaning times” that it didn’t jump out to me.

Daphne very correct! You can wash a uniform midweek but a week’s worth of uniforms is most proper.

Angelina i'm sorry for you, but i wouldn't give the keys to a stranger. there are boxes where you can keep the keys and set a time when the box should open again, maybe that would be an idea, at least until you have found a suitable key holder.

you can also enable a person to open them via app... if @Daphne wants a heyholder, that would be an option.

well, this is an interesting thing to read after a few days off! Daphne, you should probably know that anything Pru says is just really how she wants to be treated. Or how she would have liked it in college before we met. Though you both do seem to be similar so maybe it works for you. No, I won't hold your keys.

Saintprudence use “permanent” as a synonym for “24/7, minus cleaning times”

Right.And emergency key.

Angelina

Right.

Max9 you can also enable a person to open them via app... if @Daphne wants a heyholder, that would be an option.

right, but as i said before it should not be a stranger and if it is someone she knows, then he/she can also hold the keys naturally.

Angelina

I think so.Opening the safe via app or holding the keys would be very similar.

Vanessa I think so.Opening the safe via app or holding the keys would be very similar.

but then of course the complete human aspect is lost and i think especially for volunteer wearers the bond with the key holder is important.

Angelina You hit the nail on the head (A german saying) . This is exactly what makes online keyholding or long distance keyholding untinterresting after some time... it still is a nice guardian for your lock, but it's just by far not the same as having a personaly keyholder.

Max9

it depends. if the goal is only to remain chaste, it is enough, but then all tension is lost.